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SimplyMichael -> RE: The Best play party/theme party/dungeon party (5/3/2008 2:31:36 PM)
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There is a vast difference between what makes a party great to ME and what would make a great party to appeal tto any given audience.
I like a bit of sensual fantasy with my play, especially when I am out at an event. Many people find what I like a pointless distraction. I like sex, for many it too is an unwanted distraction. I have floggers and flogging, again, I hear rumors it is a popular pastime.
You can't make everyone happy, some comprimises are more universal than others, if I do an event my way I know fewer people will attend. In SF, they do a male dominant/female submissive party where many of the submissives are there to serve whomever asks on some level. They started out heavy in protocol but as is usual in SF, the whiners complained that the party was universal enough...NO FUCKING SHIT. They want to go to YOUR special party but compain about the very things that make it special.
Okay, rant mode off.
Things that make universal parties work well. Clearly defined play spaces and well thought out ways to get to them as well as how to reserve spaces for use and some way of ensuring that scenes can be long enough but at the same time preventing someone from hogging a space or piece of equipment. Lighting that varies from bright for techinical play to dark for shyer or more quiet play.
While I am not fond of DMs there is a need for someone to monitor the goings on and to smooth out issues and or problems. Some planning to deal with common issues such as where to dress if you are switching from vanilla to fetish, parking, noise, etc.
Some things I like to do is drap gozzy material over lamps to provide more diffused and sensual lighting. Finger food placed in various places so that everyone doesn't stand around the buffet. It also encourages the feeding of each other which again can be sensual. Music is important, I love DeadCanDance, Enya, and even Gregorian Chants as mood music. I use those expanding shower curtain rods to place curtains in hallways to muffle sound and light, it also provides lots of nooks and crannies to provide privacy and yet doesn't restrict movement.
Part of the trick is to create a framework around which people can wrap their own fantasies/protocols/etc but isn't too restrictive and yet still have something of a cohesive theme so that the energy from everyones play enhances rather than detracts from others. Someone doing a sensual scene and onther doing an intense pain scene with Nine inch Nails isn't going to be as fun as a "Beat them black and blue" party with the point to play loud music and do pain play.
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