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SirKenin -> RE: trust (10/17/2005 5:04:03 PM)
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To Me what it all boils down to is this. At the end of the day BDSM is play. Sure, it is a lifestyle. Sure it can be 365 days a year. But it is still play.
A relationship, on the other hand, is reality. Trust is reality. Respect, communication and honesty are realities. Being unfaithful is an unfortunate reality of this particular relationship.
So, so as not to confuse the issue, set aside your play for a moment and focus on reality. Reality says that you are hurt because you were lied to and cheated on. That is a very fair reaction. So now you have to decide. In your reality, would you take that? Would you live with it? Would you turn the other cheek so he could turn around and do it again? If you do, there is something wrong with you.
Speak to him and find out what happened. See if there is a way to resolve this. In My experience most often they never change, but there are people that do turn T/their backs on such behaviours and never repeat them. Perhaps this is one such person. you never know until you try.
If He will not, and you catch him again, My advice to you is to set the play aside, focus on your reality and run away to live to play another day.
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