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submale4u2spank -> How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:06:36 PM)
I was just wondering if any dommes could please give me advice on how to get a domme to reply to my messages. Most dommes I send messages to read them and don't reply, some just delete them without even reading them. I would be very appricative if you could give me some tips.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:10:23 PM)
That would depend on two things. What you are writing, and whether or not you are making sure they are looking for what you have to offer before you write. Theres no gaurantee you will get answers. DV

blackpearl81 -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:10:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: submale4u2spank I was just wondering if any dommes could please give me advice on how to get a domme to reply to my messages. Most dommes I send messages to read them and don't reply, some just delete them without even reading them. I would be very appricative if you could give me some tips. What do you say in your initial email? Do you have an "introductory email" in your sent folder that you might be able to c&p here for everyone to read?

Leatherist -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:15:09 PM)
Send a picture, and not of your cock. Ask her about something in her profile that she seems to find important. Have something reasonably intelligent in your profile to read, if she actually manages to get that far. Talking about your views on the D/s dynamic is what a lot of them will key on. Don't make your views read like a bad porn model-reality is kind of important. Never ever mention your fantasies or wants. That can come later, every wanker on the planet is bombarding these poor women with that idiocy twenty times a day-be unusual.

submale4u2spank -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:17:56 PM)
This is what I sent to SinFuLLadyV- "Hello Mistress, welcome to collarme. i believe that i am good enought to qualify to be Your property. i'm very smart, polite, submissive, caring, funny, and good looking to boot. i don't know what Your interest are but You can check mine out just by viewing my profile. if You want a great submissive to serve and care for You, please send a reply." Getting spanked is a lot harder than you would think if you were a vanilla person thinking about how people into BDSM live.

MsStarlett -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:21:49 PM)
Send a memorable email that does NOT sound like you copy & paste the same note to everyone. Don't say "I love your profile" then ask for something specifically spelled out in the profile as a No-No. Example - I do NOT like IM's & Phone calls. It says so in my profile. I still get intro messages that say "I love your profile. I think we are a great match. Please IM me so we can get to know each other better." DELETE! The jackass obviously did NOT READ my profile that he claims to 'love' so much... either that or he did read it and chose to disrespect my wishes.

Madame4a -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:21:57 PM)
It depends what you're sending.. for me, I would say thanks, but no thanks to you simply because of your name... I'm not interested in only one activity and your name implies that you're focussed on spanking... that said, for me, one gets a response, even if its a no.. IF you show you're read my profile (that's the easiest way to get a response from me)... follow what I've said there... and its clear you have some idea what you're talking about...

MsStarlett -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:23:28 PM)
Sounds nice enough to me Submale. Now, include a nice 'vanilla' photo and you SHOULD get some responce.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:24:12 PM)
You sound like a cut and paste email that is sent to everyone you meet. You dont know her interests, is that becasue you didnt bother looking, or she didnt say. That line looks bad in and of itself. Saying you would like to learn more about her interests and how you could be of use would sound better. I will assume that the improper capitalization is on purpose, though you might keep in mind not all of us like that either. Make an email personal. Make it obvious you have read their profile thoroughly. Open the ad and read the interests lists if there is one. Use their screenname, so you know it was actualy written with someone in mind, and not cut and pasted. DV

blackpearl81 -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:24:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: submale4u2spank This is what I sent to SinFuLLadyV- "Hello Mistress, welcome to collarme. i believe that i am good enought to qualify to be Your property. i'm very smart, polite, submissive, caring, funny, and good looking to boot. i don't know what Your interest are but You can check mine out just by viewing my profile. if You want a great submissive to serve and care for You, please send a reply." Getting spanked is a lot harder than you would think if you were a vanilla person thinking about how people into BDSM live. Meh. Personally, I don't care for spelling & punctuation, but not everyone feels that way. (hint hint) Secondly, you said that " i don't know what Your interest are" which basically screams laziness, because its almost as if you didn't read her profile (assuming she had/has one) Thirdly, you said that " if You want a great submissive to serve and care for You, please send a reply." No offense? But you haven't mentioned to her one thing that you could offer her as her submissive. Can you cook meals for her after a long day? Are you a good masseuse? (read above) Basically, all I'm saying is, (this might catch some flak from the audience, so be forewarned) point out things that you can do for her that'll make HER day easier. If she still doesn't reply (btw, approaching a Dominant online is even harder, because you only get one chance to make a good first impression, whereas IRL, you may run into the same person once or twice in a public area) chalk it up to incompatibility, and move on...either that, or she's extremely busy and hasn't had a chance to read/reply your email. Best of luck.

AAkasha -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:24:20 PM)
Change your name so it's not a demand and so objectifying to the women you are trying to attract. Akasha

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:32:10 PM)
Go here and read. Apply it to your profile and all interactions from now until you achieve success. http://www.collarchat.com/m_1717756/tm.htm

azropedntied -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:37:50 PM)
Breaking this down as a first letter and i know Many Female Dommes that shall nod their heads on this .DO NOT call someone who is not your Mistress by that name or reference . Her name or Ma'am are respectable .Make sure you spell correctly -you think your good enough to be her property ?On an intro letter ? come on really , try getting to know her first .It is not about you !!I don't know what your interests are but you can view mine on my profile ?? REALLY she did not list one interest to work off of ??you can not instead ASK what her interests are ??Punctuation ,learn it , use it .Why on earth would she want to contact you ? Your note does not sound submissive ,your not asking about her, short , not thought out , and again it is not all about you . Reflect , rethink , rewrite , and before you hit send reread . Typo's happen not all are perfect but if your sending this stuff well good luck . quote: ORIGINAL: submale4u2spank This is what I sent to SinFuLLadyV- "Hello Mistress, welcome to collarme. i believe that i am good enought to qualify to be Your property. i'm very smart, polite, submissive, caring, funny, and good looking to boot. i don't know what Your interest are but You can check mine out just by viewing my profile. if You want a great submissive to serve and care for You, please send a reply." Getting spanked is a lot harder than you would think if you were a vanilla person thinking about how people into BDSM live.

RumpusParable -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:39:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: submale4u2spank This is what I sent to SinFuLLadyV- "Hello Mistress, welcome to collarme. i believe that i am good enought to qualify to be Your property. i'm very smart, polite, submissive, caring, funny, and good looking to boot. i don't know what Your interest are but You can check mine out just by viewing my profile. if You want a great submissive to serve and care for You, please send a reply." Two things that stand out here: 1) You're welcoming her to Collarme, so I assume she's new to the site. Females are BOMBARDED with mail during their first few weeks on signing up. I mean upwards of 50-150 a day. If she's new to the site, you're likely to get lost in the crush. 2) You stated that you "don't know whatYour interest are", so I assume you either didn't read her profile or she'd not put anything up yet. First thing this yells is "CONTACTING ANY FEMALE BODY" -because, if you have no idea of her interests from her profile, then there's no other reason to be contacting her... you're certainly not contacting her due to common interests or from posts or journals she's written that display something (BDSM or vanilla) you have in common. This is a prime cause of dominant (and submissive) females ignoring one's email. A third which is just a personal taste matter, it annoys me and starts a bad tone when a sub writes in their profile or email a list of their qualities like that and especially if they include that they're attractive/good looking. While a healthy sense of self-esteem is something I like, frankly you have no idea whether I'm going to find you any of those things... and listing them off doesn't really say anything as most people -especially the most unpleasant it seems- think those things of themselves. Being intelligent, funny, etc. will show through in the way you converse over time. Being attractive or not will be known when that domina sees your picture or video greeting.

submale4u2spank -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:39:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha Change your name so it's not a demand and so objectifying to the women you are trying to attract. Akasha How do I change my name?

MsStarlett -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:41:25 PM)
Az baby, do you know how badly you type? And I still speak to you. (Damn! I'm WAY to easy!)

Leatherist -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:42:58 PM)
delete and start over. Try not to be such an unimaginitve stereotype this time.

blackpearl81 -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:43:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsStarlett Az baby, do you know how badly you type? And I still speak to you. (Damn! I'm WAY to easy!) Dayhum yahnk-eez, cayn't get nuthin raght, its how are ya, sug-ah [sm=rofl.gif]

Griswold -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:43:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: submale4u2spank I was just wondering if any dommes could please give me advice on how to get a domme to reply to my messages. Most dommes I send messages to read them and don't reply, some just delete them without even reading them. I would be very appricative if you could give me some tips. I'm not a Domme. However, you're asking the wrong person/people. Cash. Checks. Money Orders.

azropedntied -> RE: How to get a response on Collarme from a domme (5/4/2008 6:52:06 PM)
Yes, but i am not typing with my fingers so that may impress -shrugs And thanks for speaking to this unworthy one Ma'am . quote: ORIGINAL: MsStarlett Az baby, do you know how badly you type? And I still speak to you. (Damn! I'm WAY to easy!)

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