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Reverse (female) cucking - 5/4/2008 8:32:47 PM

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So, through the many years that my husband/Master have been together, and living the bdsm lifestyle, we have tried poly a couple of times- really never found the right fit, and have had several playpartners, sometimes with Him topping us both, sometimes with He & I co-topping (I switch, in that I'm dominant with women). We have also had a few kinky vanilla extra-marrital fun. Lately though, I've been realizing that what I like most in the playpartner realm is simply watching him with other women. My fantasies revolve mostly around being bound to a chair, nude, and being forced to watch him enjoy someone else, as a humilation type of play between me and him. It would also be really hot to me if she teased and humiliated me as well. Ok, well... not toooo off the beaten track, right?

However, I also enjoy knowing that he occasionally plays around behind my back (always telling me about it at some point). The problem is that I DO get jealous over that and can't seem to stop being paranoid and crazy about it, even though I'm the one who asked him for it. I don't think (though I can't be sure) that I would be jealous over the above scenerio, but this one really gets to me... maybe because at any time there could be a secret I don't know about, if even for a short time.

So, advice and input would be appreciated... thanks!-- Twisted

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RE: Reverse (female) cucking - 5/4/2008 8:39:43 PM

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Oh I had the same kind of question, the idea of Alpha being with another woman while I have to sit by and watch gets me so hot for some reason! of course it'll drive me absolutely batshit crazy while it's happening but I can't help fantasize about it. Maybe once you can be there with him instead of having to hear about it later, you'll be able to get jealous in the way I'm hoping it'll get me jealous. Best of luck with this scenario, I'd love to hear how it works out.

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RE: Reverse (female) cucking - 5/4/2008 8:41:57 PM

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does he KNOW about these fantasies and still plays around behind your back? it would seem like a logical solution to bring you along (unless the partners are creeped out by it....). From your choice of words "playing around" and the fact that you do get jealous, it sounds like its not exacly what you were hoping for and that you are on some level hurt by it. Are you jealous of the actual sex itself or the manner in which its taking place (clandensenly)? If its the sex itself, your fantasy may need to stay just that, and you should really soul search if this is an issue in the relationship. If it is more the MANNER in which it done, I think you need to have a simple conversation with your partner... you're OK with him doing things, you just want to be there and watching, tied up. It may shrink the pool of available 3rds, but thats part of being in a relationship

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RE: Reverse (female) cucking - 5/4/2008 8:43:33 PM

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I see nothing wrong with your fantasy. I completely understand your hurt feelings and jealousy because while you have stated your fantasy, it doesn't include you getting hurt. I think your idea is one that could work, but in my opinion, he needs to stop the behind the back thing. It doesn't breed trust or respect. Also, as Daddy and I often tell people and each other, "reality and fantasy can be two totally different places when talking about the same action."

Be well and I hope that you get more fun from this fantasy than hurt feelings.
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RE: Reverse (female) cucking - 5/4/2008 8:56:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: hotdave1984

does he KNOW about these fantasies and still plays around behind your back? it would seem like a logical solution to bring you along (unless the partners are creeped out by it....). From your choice of words "playing around" and the fact that you do get jealous, it sounds like its not exacly what you were hoping for and that you are on some level hurt by it. Are you jealous of the actual sex itself or the manner in which its taking place (clandensenly)? If its the sex itself, your fantasy may need to stay just that, and you should really soul search if this is an issue in the relationship. If it is more the MANNER in which it done, I think you need to have a simple conversation with your partner... you're OK with him doing things, you just want to be there and watching, tied up. It may shrink the pool of available 3rds, but thats part of being in a relationship

Yes, he knows, and it's not 'playing around behind my back'... I'm the one who wanted him to do that. As for my choice of words...what else would you call it? It is playing around! The jealousy factor and you point about it is valid... but I didn't hope it to be different...I just didn't anticipate my own jealousy with it set up, even in the way I requested. Sex is nothing to me...just sex, so...no need to rethink the fantasy. The manner in which it was done was to be some of both scenerios. I understand what you are saying about conversing about it, but we have conversed about it... extensively. The bottem line is, I want it...I crave it...the feeling of being cheated on, where I'm not there and have no control...but I can't seem to wrap my paranoia around it.-- Twisted

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RE: Reverse (female) cucking - 5/4/2008 9:08:05 PM

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I do not think this is as unusual as you seem to think..Frankly, when any third is introduced into a D/s relationship and that is usually femsub to ,quote/unquote sister to the original femsub in the dynamic..then hence cucking more than likely, has been upon occasion ,instituted..now wether the femsubs get all hot and lusty about it or warm and fuzzy...makes no difference..it usually is all about what the Dominant and the agreement in the dynamic calls for or has been agreed upon...Personally for myself, this is not a dynamic I could flow with or grow from, it is not my thang so to speak..but for many it is....I wish you well in your fantasy and hope the reality is all that you wish for/Tempting

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