Wooing is not a lost art, or is it?

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MladyHathor -> Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 4:56:02 AM)
*I thought about this when I was making morning coffee and the thread about curtsies and erins post about instant submission/domination reinforced My thinking--what happened to wooing?* I speak more from the FemDomina aspect---that though the males seek a submissive role, there isn't any wooing--its like, ok you're a D, i'm an s--so we can cut to the chase--you take me and we're off---whatever happened to wooing as well? Whatever happened to working to keep one's attention? Ok I am the Dominant, but dammit, I want to be wooed to for gosh sakes! *Have we lost the art of wooing?*

mistoferin -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 5:04:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MladyHathor *Have we lost the art of wooing?* Gosh, I sure hope not...but in this fast food society where everyone seems to want it and want it now....I am afraid that it is in serious jeopardy. Not gone...my Sir certainly wooed me before he Wowed me....lol. It says something when someone takes the time and doesn't just expect that you'll be theirs simply because they are there. I don't know why anyone would want to skip the thrill of the chase.

phoenixinchains -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 5:04:53 AM)
hmm, Master and i refer to one period of our relationship as "courtship". We both had were dating other people when we met, my relationship was far from serious, but His relationship with the ex had been. He refused to date me until He had the chance to break up with her, but He did ask to marry me, before He broke up with her, and we were engaged, before He broke up with her. During the time before He broke up with her, our relationship was very chaste, as Master didn't want to cheat on His ex. i still smile thinking about it.

Dnomyar -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 5:41:14 AM)
I woo very well thank you.

SailingBum -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 5:48:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: phoenixinchains hmm, Master and i refer to one period of our relationship as "courtship". We both had were dating other people when we met, my relationship was far from serious, but His relationship with the ex had been. He refused to date me until He had the chance to break up with her, but He did ask to marry me, before He broke up with her, and we were engaged, before He broke up with her. During the time before He broke up with her, our relationship was very chaste, as Master didn't want to cheat on His ex. i still smile thinking about it. Lol boy am I confused. I guess it's all in how one defines cheating. If your heart is someplace else that sounds like cheating to me. I'm a tad curious how does one become engaged without dating??? It appears to be if you can't dazzle em with brilliance baffel em with bull shit. BadOne

TwistedLeather -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 7:03:18 AM)
This lost "art" of wooing is nothing more than the lack of romance some people show. In my opinion, for what little weight it may carry, this is an online world where everyone wants what they want, in the now. For the rest of the world, i think romance has been replaced with gifts of pretty things, fancy dining, and expensive gifts. We're in a material world, and there are many times when i wish we could take a step back and re-learn the intimate connection two people can have over a warm moonlit night, swinging together on the porch and enjoying the simple things in life. The things that matter most... to me anyway.

SteelofUtah -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 7:14:15 AM)
Bookmarking this thread. I'll be back in an hour or two to discuss it. Steel

adoracat -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 7:19:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SailingBum Lol boy am I confused. I guess it's all in how one defines cheating. If your heart is someplace else that sounds like cheating to me. I'm a tad curious how does one become engaged without dating??? It appears to be if you can't dazzle em with brilliance baffel em with bull shit. BadOne my ex husband proposed to me dec 16, 1980. it was out in front of the high school and we had never dated. he showed up for the christmas musical (which i was in) and asked me then. i had been grounded since before we met...and had not yet dated him. we'd conducted our romance through letters and him flirting with me while my broken foot was being treated at the clinic on base...he worked there. i was 17, he was just turned 21. kitten

adoracat -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 7:20:54 AM)
on wooing.... Daddy definitely pursued and wooed me. he was there as a friend to catch me when things went pear-shaped with the domintant i was talking seriously with decided i was not worth material for him. and then he began seriously pursuing me, and trying to make me his own. kitten

MistressOfGa -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 7:34:05 AM)
Give me my dock, and my pup, and fishing. What better way to get my attention <s> I know, I am a cheap date, but he never treats me like one. MoGa

Kirren -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 7:36:56 AM)
I dont think wooing per say is a lost art, I just think finding the time to do it is.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 8:06:13 AM)
Since I make a point of saying in my profile that I have to be courted first.....yeah, I am thinking that the fine art of sucking up is fast going by the wayside. (whoops! should say something nicer there, but SUCKING UP, learn the skillz!) Now, I am one of those old timers (hi Ray!) who will play casually, and not think that a lifelong commitment has been made. I have played with folks whose names I didn't know, that I haven't seen before or since. Had Big FUN. Why am I reluctant to do that kind of thing now? Because now I feel like a commodity, and an interchangeable commodity at that. Yes, I know I have control over how I feel, but now if you want my time, show that you are willing to jump through my hoops. As for there not being enough time to do things....honestly, I am not sure where all of our time management skills have gone. Considering that we have IM's, cell phones, and all other ways of keeping us current and in touch, we should have MORE time to get to know each other since we don't have to wait for time to have a f2f meeting. If we are worth it to each other, we will find the time.

Madame4a -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 8:12:03 AM)
It feels that way to me right now.. it really does...

BlueHnS -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 8:17:13 AM)
I happen to know an exceptional wooer! I'm also very serious about our time not being interrupted. I have been known to answer my phone not with a casual hello but instead with "This better be life or death" or some variable thereof.

stella41b -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 9:48:10 AM)
I feel that it has become a lost art, and that wooing to some people might as well be a Korean vacuum cleaner.

Dnomyar -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 9:54:59 AM)
LH Im to old to jump. Lay them down and let me walk thru them. Im going to take your post and turn it into a country song.

subtee -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 10:17:07 AM)
Largely, yes. It's a goner. Splittsville. Vamoused. Woo is me.

MissEnchanted -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 10:27:24 AM)
Woe to the wannabee wooer who doesn't woo well. I am well wooed and I woo as well. [:D] ME

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 10:41:58 AM)
WOOOOO!!! phoenixinchains is hot.

subtee -> RE: Wooing is not a lost art, or is it? (5/6/2008 10:42:09 AM)
Well, good on ya then--

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