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RE: The world of the Life style has become smaller - 5/9/2008 4:38:20 PM

Griswold

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The World of the lifestyle as become smaller because we have a communcation such as www.collarme.com and the access of the internet with its many aspects making it possible for people who are likeminded come together (no pun intended) and it as given birth what is known to some of us a community. With that in mind what changes happened to you concerning your BDSM Life how did it enrich in a postive way ?

Personally, I think you should use a brighter and more demonstrative font.

I don't think your point was made effectively enough with red.

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RE: The world of the Life style has become smaller - 5/9/2008 5:27:15 PM

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Smaller? Are you nuts?

I'm old enough to remember what the scene was like before the advent of the internet: small, local communities, meeting in secret, a lack of quality information... the chances of running into a basher, a serial killer or a dangerous fool who didn't know what they hell they were doing. You were always at the mercy of some schmuck who owned the house where everyone met. If they didn't like you, then you were locked out of ever finding "like minded others." I remember making my first contacts with Dommes via the Rocky Mountain Oyster... the Denver sex contact paper at the time. A slow, limited process at best.

In other words, it was small, ignorrant, slow, and dangerous.

Today, even in a relative backwater like Arkansas, I can find partners, people who have some concept of SSC or RACK, and have at least heard about safewords.

< Message edited by bipolarber -- 5/9/2008 5:28:51 PM >

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RE: The world of the Life style has become smaller - 5/9/2008 9:28:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: steviemichael

The World of the lifestyle as become smaller because we have a communcation such as www.collarme.com and the access of the internet with its many aspects making it possible for people who are likeminded come together (no pun intended) and it as given birth what is known to some of us a community. With that in mind what changes happened to you concerning your BDSM Life how did it enrich in a postive way ?

I met my former sub and my current submissive through CM, as well as several friends. I might have eventually gravitated toward the local club or a munch...but CM made it so much easier to meet and interact. Didn't hurt that I write for a living, so I guess I come accross as a silver-tongued devil. And of course, there's the immense number of resources for D/s & BDSM knowledge available through the net.

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RE: The world of the Life style has become smaller - 5/9/2008 10:06:09 PM

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I've known I was kinky and dom since about 1986. Well before the internet and while there may have been BBS's and the like I wasn't aware. I was lucky and found a discreet little business card on a table by the door of the sex shop when I was shopping for a gift for my gf. That first meeting was astounding, people, outwardly normal average people, expressing the same desires and preferences I had.

Not to go into full out old codger mode but folks who grow up kinky nowadays have no idea how lucky they are.

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RE: The world of the Life style has become smaller - 5/10/2008 5:26:54 AM

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My life is my life , not a style or a fashion. I am who I am.

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RE: The world of the Life style has become smaller - 5/10/2008 5:30:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: DomKen

I've known I was kinky and dom since about 1986. Well before the internet and while there may have been BBS's and the like I wasn't aware. I was lucky and found a discreet little business card on a table by the door of the sex shop when I was shopping for a gift for my gf. That first meeting was astounding, people, outwardly normal average people, expressing the same desires and preferences I had.

Not to go into full out old codger mode but folks who grow up kinky nowadays have no idea how lucky they are.

Hahahahahahahahahahahaha....by GAWD when I was a kid, we had to walk 5 miles in the snow, barefoot to get kink out of our system!

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RE: The world of the Life style has become smaller - 5/10/2008 6:07:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: Griswold

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ORIGINAL: DomKen

I've known I was kinky and dom since about 1986. Well before the internet and while there may have been BBS's and the like I wasn't aware. I was lucky and found a discreet little business card on a table by the door of the sex shop when I was shopping for a gift for my gf. That first meeting was astounding, people, outwardly normal average people, expressing the same desires and preferences I had.

Not to go into full out old codger mode but folks who grow up kinky nowadays have no idea how lucky they are.

Hahahahahahahahahahahaha....by GAWD when I was a kid, we had to walk 5 miles in the snow, barefoot to get kink out of our system!

i remember when water fountains were kink and vanilla...sitting on the back of buses in bondage...and the lunch counters refused to deal with people simply because they had a ball gag in their mouths....fuckers!!!!

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RE: The world of the Life style has become smaller - 5/10/2008 12:12:13 PM

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Greetings,

I agree that the internet has definitely created contacts, helped many folks accept their choices as 'okay' and created a great place for the dissemination of ideas (how-to, safety, where-to, etc).

That all being said ... there have been a few draw backs to being 'connected via cyberspace'. IMO, the internet does a great deal to isolate people from other people. I do not mean from folks online, because, after all, the online world is always there with the click of a switch, but from making real connections with people face to face. What is one of the greatest assets of the internet (always on) is also one of the greatest drawbacks. Sometimes it's easier to sit behind our monitors and feel connected than to actually go out and take a chance on meeting other folks face to face. It's amazing how meeting people real time can change or alter ones perception of a sub-culture, an event, or even a specific person. In some ways 'online' has taken the humanity and physical touch out of BDSM.

I've also noticed that different sites have different paradigms. CM tends to be more hetero based and romantically based. Other sites tend to focus on the sexual aspect of BDSM to the exclusion of the development of long term romantic relationships. Depending on what site you have access to does tend to skew your perspective of what BDSM is all about. If one were only looking at BDSM as represented by a few websites, one would have a very limited idea of what was really going on in the day to day interactions of BDSM people.

Though the internet allows for people to connect and share information and ideas on a global scale, it can also create a great deal of isolation and false 'truths' about WIITWD.

Wickad

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