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Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/7/2008 5:55:23 AM

kittenpuss

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So I had my first session with My Master and he said I had pleased him but now I am wondering what next? He knows I am busy for the next two days so I don't expect to hear from him but how does this work?. I am relatively new to this. He says my first training session was excellent but now I am left with a feeling of not knowing. When does a Master decide you are worthy? He says he is thinking about whether he wants me to wear a tag on my collar stating his ownership.
Is there anything I should be doing but am not to please him at this time or do I wait? Also he calls me a pet/ slave. What's the difference? Please help.

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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/7/2008 6:18:43 AM

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I could tell you what I think, or what my Master would want, but that seems pointless, because it is not my Master or I you are serving.

All of the above questions can only be answered with communication with your Master. Ask him how it works, what 'worthy' means to him and how he will be deciding, is there anything you can do for him, and also ask him to define pet and slave for they all mean different things to different people.

And be cool! It is clear you are enjoying it, but be careful to get steady on those subby feet of yours before you try and run.

Warm wishes,
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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/7/2008 6:38:33 AM

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Same as first good sex in a new relationship... you sigh happily, become slightly insecure, and don't stop thinking about it/them.
Sounds like he will be playing with you again, so try and keep your mind on other things until it happens.
I don't know how long you two have known eachother without playing/scening, but seems like you want a commitment now that you have.

Pet and slave can be terms of affection/possesive, or whatever he wants them to mean. you would have to ask him.

Enjoy the anticipation of waiting for your next time with him, frustration can make it better. o.0

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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/7/2008 6:48:11 AM

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Are you also cosidering if he is "worthy" to place that ownership tag on you?

I must be lucky because in every good relationship I've ever had, there's been no moment of insecurity after, I've known that he was as into me as I was into him and I knew that it would continue.

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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/7/2008 6:58:17 AM

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I'm in the same boat as you are so I know what you are feeling. I just had my third scene last night and after waiting two weeks it was well worth the wait. As tolovetolaugh mentioned, the anticipation and frustration of having to wait can make it all the better.

As always mentioned in these things, communication is key. Sir doesn't expect me to know right off the bat what he wants and needs. He tells me and shows what is expected, it is all a learning process. You are learning how to please him and he is learning what works for you.

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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/7/2008 6:58:43 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: OmegaG

I must be lucky because in every good relationship I've ever had, there's been no moment of insecurity after, I've known that he was as into me as I was into him and I knew that it would continue.

I envy you that.

It sounds like it was her first scene (correct me if I am wrong OP), good or not, is a natural reaction, especially if it is a few days before she sees him again.
Desperately wanting to please, and not being sure what to do to do so...
*shrugs* maybe insecurity isn't the best word, but was the one I came up with.

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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/7/2008 7:02:03 AM

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Glad you had a good first time. I understand that you may feel a little insecure, I know I did after my first time with mine. You wonder if he was just telling you that you were good and that he was happy with you just to not say something bad in front of you. If you have known him for a while and think he wants to have something with you, even if you weren't that great, he will stick around and train you the way he wants. hth

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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/7/2008 7:14:41 AM

OmegaG

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Maybe I'm just wired differently as I'm not just nor ever have been just looking to be picked up by just anybody like a doll on a shelf. I want someone who is into me and maybe I disconnect if I don't feel that.

I have to admit that I feel a sence of frustration when I see the number of s-types who worry about pleasing the D-type and not so much from the other side. I think it's a two way street. It's about finding the corosponding jigsaw piece to your own, if you will. So while I do think of how I can be pleasing, I guess part of me also is intune to if I'm being pleased. Not every second of the relationship because there always has to be give and take, but I do have needs (some of them include being useful to the person I am in a relationship to) and I feel that I am just as entitled to having needs and desires met as the person that I am involved with.

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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/7/2008 7:19:26 AM

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sorry cannot help you here. those should be address to him not to us. c-o-m-m-u-n-i-c-a-t-i-o-n is the key here and that's all i can advise you at this point.

as far as pet/slave, there's no real difference. i use pet as a term of endearment for the submissive sissy i own ...it's my way of saying how much i cherish him and his services under my care. on the flipside, Daddy calls me "lil black bitch" to "princess" - little cutesy names.

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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/7/2008 9:03:07 AM

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These are questions to ask before you got started. Now you know what questions to ask, so go ask him.

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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/7/2008 9:17:01 AM

CalifChick

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So I had my first session with My Master and he said I had pleased him but now I am wondering what next? He knows I am busy for the next two days so I don't expect to hear from him but how does this work?

Exactly the same way you would expect it to "work" with any man... meaning... every man and every relationship is different.

I am relatively new to this. He says my first training session was excellent but now I am left with a feeling of not knowing.

Okay, you said you had your first session, which I assumed was playtime, but now you're saying it was a training session. Are you using those terms to mean the same thing - play?

When does a Master decide you are worthy? He says he is thinking about whether he wants me to wear a tag on my collar stating his ownership.

Ya know, there is no manual on how to do this, just as there is no manual on any other relationship. Yes, there are books to give you ideas, but what I mean is, there is no one way. It's not like becoming a doctor, for instance, where there is a defined path of college, med school, then internship, etc. When does a man decide he wants you to be his girlfriend? When does he decide he wants to get married? The questions in BDSM are no different than in any other relationship.

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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/7/2008 10:38:34 AM

KatyLied

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Wow, how about asking him all of those questions. How are we supposed to know what he thinks and feels and how he regards you or if you please him.

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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/7/2008 11:17:20 AM

BRNaughtyAngel

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She has a master and just had her first session with him, yet her profile shows she just joined today and is looking for a dominant?

Oh well, anyhoo........ what everyone else said.

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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/7/2008 11:25:29 AM

Mercnbeth

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if you would be so kind as to provide his contact information, this slave would be able to ask him for you...

other than that, this slave has NO CLUE what the words pet, slave, collar, ownership, excellent, worthy, training and play means to your Master, and doubts anyone here would.

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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/7/2008 11:37:56 AM

abeke

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What kind of session? Online or real time?

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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/7/2008 2:46:33 PM

daddysliloneds

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not to sound like a pessimist or anything but i would think twice about someone who tried to tag me with a collar of ownership after one time of playing together...

those types of instant relationships don't last long, and them stating that i'm worthy of such a tag after one time of play, is pretty much stating to me that they plan on using me up and spitting me out as soon as they've had all the fun they can get out of me; and that the only relationship i have, is the one going on in my mind, not the one i think i have with them...

soooooo, with all that said, i know what i think comes next; you have to judge for yourself, based on your instinct, and with your eyes wide open, what you think comes next...

then again, you could always ask him directly.

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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/7/2008 2:53:18 PM

OldBastardly1

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I am assuming that you have dated in the vanilla world before. After your first date, did you expect to be proposed to? Were you one of those girls that thinks if you give up the booty, that you now "own" the guy?

What should you do now that you have had your 1st session? Simple....slow the fuck down and enjoy the ride.

Hope this helps.

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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/7/2008 11:48:29 PM

steviemichael

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gosh there are more questions than answers to this post !!
but i assume this is a online thing and you have entered the twilight zone where time stands stilll or fast depending on your connection and you wait for the Master to log on for more data from Him ?

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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/8/2008 8:01:32 AM

subtee

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I would take a shower...

tee hee

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RE: Had my first master session now wondering what next - 5/9/2008 2:26:34 AM

kittenpuss

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Thanks for all your feedback and really good advice. I am new to this so I am asking for help which some of you gave freely and openly. As for the others,. can you please remember when you were new to this? It's not simple. We are humans and we make mistakes. The last thing you should do is judge.

Again, thanks to everyone who tried to give me contructive feedback.

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