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MaamJay -> RE: collaring (5/8/2008 2:10:58 AM)
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Have been to several in real life. At one stage I collared a sub (now ex-hub, didn't work out in either way!). By Our choice, We had a ceremony with about 10 bdsm and open-minded vanilla people present. We wrote Our own words about what it meant to Us and Our own vows and commitments. For practical reasons We chose to have matching gold and opal anklets made to signify Our bond.
My sub side is also collared to Master, coming up to 2 years on June 9th, though that will also mark 4 years living together 24/7. So there was no rushing into it! He and i chose to be alone down by the river, where each expressed what this meant and He put my collar on. In this case, the collar is a silver identity styled bracelet with the name plate being silver latticework with a gold v[A] in the centre. We designed it together to match in with commitment rings given about 6 months into living together, and had it made by a jeweller (same one who did the anklets!).
Other subs/slaves I have seen collared in real life wear a variety of identifying items, including:
* various pieces of innocuous-looking jewellery,
* simple leather collars,
* leather collar studded with their slave name or with a pendant with their name on,
* dog tags on a chain,
* metal collars that are locked with keys,
* other collars that are welded on (caution - major pain if you have to go to hospital in a hurry!), and
* one had a special belt buckle with his Mistress's name.
In other words, the collar can be what the people involved decide is practical and symbolic for them. And the dynamic of the relationship is similarly individually defined, though most would see giving and receiving of a collar as a significant step not to taken lightly.
Maam Jay aka violet[A]
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