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clevername2 -> What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 7:10:34 AM)
I get off being dominated, manhandled and abused. I like sex to happen to me rather than be something that I do, if that makes any sense. It turns me on when someone else asserts control of the situation and then directs me or acts on me directly. It puts me in a state of mind that by excusing me from deciding how things go, frees me up to enjoy what happens. I like being receptive; I like being used. To me it is obviously enjoyable. Being dominant would be the opposite to me. So I am at a loss to imagine what is in it for the Dominant partner. What do you enjoy about having to be on top of what is haapening? What is it about domination that turns you on?

Madame4a -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 7:18:35 AM)
I get off dominating, manhandling and abusing. I like sex to be something that I do, if that makes any sense. It turns me on when I assert control of the situation and then direct someone or act on someone directly. It puts me in a GREAT state of mind deciding how things go and I enjoy what happens. I like being assertive and agressive; I like using. To me it is obviously enjoyable. Being submissive would be the opposite to me. I hate to be flippant, but I used your words -- see? I love it, it makes me wet, it turns me on -- that's the simple answer, there are more complicated ones but they require a longer discussion for me.

clevername2 -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 7:49:30 AM)
Let's not risk complicated answers and long discussions in a forum online. It would imperil the status quo. Your flippant reply is appreciated.

kinkypuppy2 -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 8:05:01 AM)
The power to take that from you. I tend to feed on energys of others and enjoy it more then having an orgasum. The power that I am given by you to be comfortable in taking you is control.. I LIKE IT.

MadameXTC -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 9:33:03 AM)
I think, like others have said, it goes the same way. It is like having a magnetic pull one is attracted to the other for the exact same, yet different reason, I am a switch and I feel pleasure in both being a Top and a bottom. It is the sexual energy that flows from one person to another in a scene. If I am on top or bottom I find joy and pleasure in the things that take place, if I did not find joy or pleasure, why would I do it?

Dnomyar -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 9:42:22 AM)
Madame4a if you hate to be flippant then I will take it over for you. Op I will echo what she said.

clevername2 -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 10:15:15 AM)
in other words, you have no idea, you just like it... let me rest a while as i let the astoinishment of profound insight subside...whoosh...woosh...whoosh...like might ocean waves powerfully cascading their secrets brought up from distant depths...whoosh... (THAT was sarcasm..) [8D]

antipode -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 10:43:23 AM)
Control

CalifChick -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 10:57:21 AM)
I'm missing the huge mystery about it. You get turned on by not being in control; dominants get turned on by being in control. You like things being done to you; they like doing things to people. I don't see anything profound about it. In fact, I'm missing where you delved into anything profound... you know you like it, but you don't know WHY you like it. WHY do you like not being in control? Why do you find yourself free to feel when you're not in control, instead of free to feel when you are in control? I don't think there ARE any answers on why we like the things we do... why do needles make me barf but they make someone else cum? Why do tall strong leaders make me get all gooey inside and short followers don't? Why does a face slap make me violent but makes someone else weak in the knees? Cali

Dnomyar -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 11:23:53 AM)
This tall strong person looks down at the gooey chick. How did I miss that this was supposed to be a profound post?? I thought it was someones fantasy.

CalifChick -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 11:36:01 AM)
<---------- Check the title sweetheart. Cali

RedMagic1 -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 1:41:13 PM)
You're more likely to get quality responses to your opening post if you don't act like an inconsiderate jackass when people take time out of their day to answer your question.

Leatherist -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 1:48:40 PM)
Stability, peace of mind. Fun and intimacy. A sense that life can have meaning-and that your life can end with a positive contrubution to humanity. Sex and play came way down the list in relation to all of that.

LaTigresse -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 1:57:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: clevername2 I get off being dominated, manhandled and abused. I like sex to happen to me rather than be something that I do, if that makes any sense. It turns me on when someone else asserts control of the situation and then directs me or acts on me directly. It puts me in a state of mind that by excusing me from deciding how things go, frees me up to enjoy what happens. I like being receptive; I like being used. To me it is obviously enjoyable. Being dominant would be the opposite to me. So I am at a loss to imagine what is in it for the Dominant partner. What do you enjoy about having to be on top of what is haapening? What is it about domination that turns you on? Easy answer.........It's HAWT!! Makes me feel like me. I don't take orders well.......at all. I just naturally take over stuff. The reverse makes me sick to my stomach. It just feels right. It's HAWT!! I love being in control of a smart sexy woman that feels I am worthy of her submission. It's HAWT. I like various activities that tend to require me being the dominant party. It's HAWT!! I like turning a smart sexy woman into a puddle of goo. It's HAWT!!! Get the drift there cowboy?

Bound2One -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 4:43:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Madame4a I get off dominating, manhandling and abusing. I like sex to be something that I do, if that makes any sense. It turns me on when I assert control of the situation and then direct someone or act on someone directly. It puts me in a GREAT state of mind deciding how things go and I enjoy what happens. I like being assertive and agressive; I like using. To me it is obviously enjoyable. Being submissive would be the opposite to me. I hate to be flippant, but I used your words -- see? I love it, it makes me wet, it turns me on -- that's the simple answer, there are more complicated ones but they require a longer discussion for me. I don't see your answer as flippant at all! It's a perfect response, I think, to the OP's question. There is a yin/yang energy flow in a D/s relationship/scene, whatever. Just like I would abhor being the one in charge, Master adores being the one in charge. It works perfectly for us. I imagine it may get a little more complicated should one or both parties be switches, but not being one, I can't address that. OP - I'm with you. I would never want to top/dom anyone. I've even asked Master this very question - what do you get out of it? He pretty much answered what Madame did above. Simply put, he loves it when a plan comes together! (and so do I!)

DarkSteven -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 4:58:46 PM)
I think of it like being at a buffet. A woman is spread out before me and I can choose anything I like to do to her (within limits of course but usually I don't want to do antyhing limited anyway). Being a Dom is great. It's about pleasing me!

Stephann -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 5:44:58 PM)
Internally, I'm a violent person. I hide it well. Being dominant allows me to express some of that violence, in healthy, acceptable doses. It's a bit like the high you get when you're zipping along a roller coaster. Not everyone likes roller coasters; I do. Stephan

AquaticSub -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 6:19:22 PM)
~Fast Reply~ They like it for the reason Val hate tomatos and pickles and I love them. It's just way we are - but it does come in pretty handy when he gets a salad. He doesn't need to ask the waitress to leave off the tomatos and I get a tasty treat! He's a dominant, I'm not. I'm a submissive, he's not. Comes in pretty handy. [:)] BTW, if you look around, you'll find some threads where dominants ask your exact question except they can't fathom not wanting to be dominant.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 7:34:52 PM)
It is who I am, it is what I enjoy and what fulfills me. Same as you.

HeavansKeeper -> RE: What's in it for you? (5/8/2008 8:24:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: clevername2 I get off being dominated, manhandled and abused. I like sex to happen to me rather than be something that I do, if that makes any sense. It turns me on when someone else asserts control of the situation and then directs me or acts on me directly. It puts me in a state of mind that by excusing me from deciding how things go, frees me up to enjoy what happens. I like being receptive; I like being used. To me it is obviously enjoyable. Being dominant would be the opposite to me. So I am at a loss to imagine what is in it for the Dominant partner. What do you enjoy about having to be on top of what is haapening? What is it about domination that turns you on? Other than a self warming, self lubing sex doll, I get to create. I get to mold. I have the MOST captive audience in My Pet. I live for those moments where it is clear that she is my pet.

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