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just had my first session ever - 5/8/2008 8:37:15 AM

littledickiesub

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Hello everyone,
i'm a 22 year old sub and i just had my first session EVER. i am also a virgin and have never had a girlfriend so this was also the most sexual contact i've ever had a with a woman. Couple questions.. do you think it was a bad idea to make my first S/m session also the most contact i've ever had with a woman?

i was very very nervous immediately before and a little during the session. When i think back and remember the things that happened in the session it's almost as if i have to remind myself that they really happened. It's hard to explain but when I think of what happened it's almost as if it doesn't feel like a real memory. I did enjoy the session for the most part and there were a couple times when it felt surreal but is there an explanation for this? Maybe it was because I was soo nervous, i'm not sure.

Also, the Domme had me masturbate at the end of the session but i was unable to cum. i wasn't even close. i don't know if this was because i was so nervous masturbating in front of a woman or because i had just been fucked for 20 minutes with her strap on. Is it possible that the strap on fucking (the biggest and deepest thing that has ever been in my ass) sort of turned everything off? I could only get half an erection after and was no where near cumming. I was embarrased but also a little worried.

Any advice would be appreciated.

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RE: just had my first session ever - 5/8/2008 4:55:21 PM

Reigna

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Your first session! How wonderful for you. There's so much to discover.

I wouldn't worry about your sense that maybe none of this happened. BDSM does indeed do things to your mind, but most of it is pretty benign. It isn't at all uncommon to feel a sense of dissociation, but that most likely will subside within a couple of days, maybe a week if you're really spacey. Nor would I worry about what kind of contact you "should" have had with a woman first, second, third and so on.

Sure, embarassment can interfere with your orgasm, as can anal stimulation. But at 22, you have nothing to worry about regarding your orgasm or lack thereof. Give it a few hours, maybe a day. You'll be enjoying your first session for a long time to come.

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RE: just had my first session ever - 5/8/2008 5:03:38 PM

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littledick

Send me a message on the otherside....

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RE: just had my first session ever - 5/8/2008 5:39:32 PM

DiurnalVampire

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The nerves of everything probably had a lot to do with your inability to perform afterwards. I have run into similiar problems when others have been overloaded with new sensations during a session, or if they have gotten too nervous. Concern about disappointing me makes it that much harder when everything else is already in the mix.
I wouldnt worry now, after a few sessions, that effect should be a bit less noticable.

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RE: just had my first session ever - 5/8/2008 6:39:36 PM

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from a dude: nerves.

the first time i was told to masturbate in front of a domme i couldn't get it off either.

Wait.

there hasn't been a second time.

I really should call her....

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RE: just had my first session ever - 5/8/2008 6:53:06 PM

submale4u2spank

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How much did it cost?

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RE: just had my first session ever - 5/8/2008 6:55:27 PM

littledickiesub

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Thanks for all the replies so far everyone. I definitely feel better about it. Still feel really weird about not really remembering it as a real event though.

To answer your question, submale, it was $160 for an hour.

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RE: just had my first session ever - 5/8/2008 6:55:46 PM

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quote:

How much did it cost?

Does it matter?

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RE: just had my first session ever - 5/8/2008 6:57:14 PM

CoasttoCoast

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quote:

ORIGINAL: littledickiesub

Thanks for all the replies so far everyone. I definitely feel better about it. Still feel really weird about not really remembering it as a real event though.

To answer your question, submale, it was $160 for an hour.

if you remember it, you weren't really living it.

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RE: just had my first session ever - 5/9/2008 1:31:36 AM

yesmaammelbourne

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Hey there,

I'm a newbie as well, and just wanted to thank you for posting your thoughts. I think once I break my 'BDSM cherry' Ill read this thread again, because I'm sure I'll have some of the same feelings.

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