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Stuck in a Rut? The Games we play - 5/9/2008 1:54:13 PM

BlackPhx

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All to often we fall into ruts. We are all guilty of it,. Once the newness has worn off, we tend to find ourselves doing the same things over and over again with some variation, but, well the familiar we know is going to get us both off, is generally enough. Monday Meatloaf, Tuesday Fast Food and Flogging, Wednesday Burgers and BJ's, you get the picture. Breaking out of those ruts isn't easy, and we find ideas here, but i am going to ask you all how you break that rut. Several years back 1998 to be exact I posted ths method to usenet and it still works. Care to share yours?

The Fishbowl game.
Both partners write up one line scene suggestions on the computer. As many as they can....cut them into individual strips, (a table format works well for this) and fold. If you run out of scenes, you can add toys as well in or out of combinations i.e. clamp, whip, whip cream and shoes, or even locations. Take all of the folded ideas and put them in a crockery bowl or fishbowl, stir, stir, stir. Put the bowl away until you need an idea...then when you are drawing a blank or just want to do something...spontaneous...reach in the bowl...pick a slip or two and go for it.

Now you may wonder how this can be spontaneous, well you never know who's idea will be drawn...but you will find a challenge even if it is only a toy list. A variation on the toy listing is to place slips with all the names of things in your house that could possibly be used, tongs, fork, cups, whisk, spatula...and draw out 4 or five..to see what
random toys come into play for the night.

Pick out several and you could end up with something like:
Location: Back Porch
Toys: Whipped Cream, Shoe Tree, Whisk, Silk Scarf and Flyswatter
Scene Theme: Interrogation

The mind begins to percolate and come up with ideas not previously considered.

So...Whats in your wallet to stimulate your way out of that Rut?

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RE: Stuck in a Rut? The Games we play - 5/9/2008 2:14:28 PM

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I'm not sure that just because we repeat things we know we enjoy, that we are stuck in a rut. What's wrong in doing something that you both enjoy a lot?

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RE: Stuck in a Rut? The Games we play - 5/9/2008 2:41:28 PM

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Fun thread!

Right after we met, on a weekend getaway, we went to a bookstore in Chicago and got this 365 different sexual adventures calendar. That was for 2007, and we haven't cracked into it yet...lol. That's going to be fun when our ideas start running dry.

We love the fishbowl idea. I am eyeing a popcorn bucket as we speak.

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RE: Stuck in a Rut? The Games we play - 5/9/2008 3:01:38 PM

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I take a lot of effort to keep things .... different. After being together some 12 years total we actually dont repeat ourselves that often believe it or not. I am allways trying to come up with new ideas.

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RE: Stuck in a Rut? The Games we play - 5/9/2008 5:36:01 PM

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first and foremost I'm a reaction junkie... so as soon as i'm not getting the type of reaction I want...I'm ready to try something new...it keeps from getting in a rut pretty well. then of course there is the whole Poly thing... that for me prevents ruts and allows me to get things out of my system that may not work with my primary.

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RE: Stuck in a Rut? The Games we play - 5/10/2008 5:30:33 AM

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So there's a name for it "reaction junkie" - thanks Scully! my Master is very similar in that if he isn't feeling he's getting from me what he wants, he'll just trying something completely new. I had my feet almost deep throated last night, never would have occurred to me to ask him to suck my feet (as they are stupidly ticklish and normally I can't bear people to touch them!) blew my mind! Mind you - we're still new to each other, so we haven't had time to get into a rut yet! LOL

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