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sunkstar -> Im getting a lot more violent in such a short time (5/9/2008 9:10:57 PM)

I have only been with one Dom and in this lifestyle for a little less than a year. I used to have a lot of limits, and I wasnt really into pain. I was into mild force play from the beginning though.

But after one year, I become addicted to force play, the more pain I get, the more I get excited. And I tend to want my partner exert more pain on me. Im obviously a masochist now.

I used to hate fisting and needle play, I thought I would never get into that. But now, I feel I have the fantasy of violent play like sewing by needles. I no longer feel they are limits. and I get so excited watching fisting.

Im scared by the rapid change, I figure soon I will break lots of limits. Is it too fast?



NumberSix -> RE: Im getting a lot more violent in such a short time (5/9/2008 9:16:58 PM)

No rofile, 17 posts, all dram threads?

LOL.

Jack the fuckin' Ripper, no doubt........yeah, you are headed for early death. 



SirJohnMandevill -> RE: Im getting a lot more violent in such a short time (5/9/2008 9:30:51 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sunkstar

I have only been with one Dom and in this lifestyle for a little less than a year. I used to have a lot of limits, and I wasnt really into pain. I was into mild force play from the beginning though.

But after one year, I become addicted to force play, the more pain I get, the more I get excited. And I tend to want my partner exert more pain on me. Im obviously a masochist now.

I used to hate fisting and needle play, I thought I would never get into that. But now, I feel I have the fantasy of violent play like sewing by needles. I no longer feel they are limits. and I get so excited watching fisting.

Im scared by the rapid change, I figure soon I will break lots of limits. Is it too fast?



As long and you and your partner(s) are comfortable with the pace of your journey through kinkdom...what's too fast...?
 
Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)



antipode -> RE: Im getting a lot more violent in such a short time (5/9/2008 10:45:31 PM)

No profile.. how booooooring..



FangsNfeet -> RE: Im getting a lot more violent in such a short time (5/9/2008 11:52:34 PM)

Are you moving to fast? 

Everything seems fine to me. Everyone does things at there own pace. As long as you're semi comfortable and can continue to breath, then you can continue to always ask for more. Enjoy yourself.





DarkSteven -> RE: Im getting a lot more violent in such a short time (5/10/2008 5:04:15 AM)

You have someone you call  your Dom.  He is in control of how fast you're moving.  The fact that you have chosen him to control it is a tremendous act of trust.

Ask yourself why you have started to question his guidance.  Perhaps have a talk with him and see if he can stop your concerns.  It seems to me that he's doing fine.



junecleaver -> RE: Im getting a lot more violent in such a short time (5/10/2008 8:35:40 AM)



I've never thought of needle play as violent. 

I don't think you are moving too fast.  You're just discovering things you like.  Reality check...it is your friend and it will (hopefully) keep you from making majorly bad decisions.

Also thinking in terms of limits that I may keep or break is too...'limiting' for me.  Don't worry about limits, worry about keeping your self safe---physically and mentally.



kinkypuppy2 -> RE: Im getting a lot more violent in such a short time (5/10/2008 9:44:05 AM)

No I do not thing its to fast as long as you both are comfortable with the journey and play safe



laura2161 -> RE: Im getting a lot more violent in such a short time (5/10/2008 2:02:44 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sunkstar

I have only been with one Dom and in this lifestyle for a little less than a year. I used to have a lot of limits, and I wasnt really into pain. I was into mild force play from the beginning though.

But after one year, I become addicted to force play, the more pain I get, the more I get excited. And I tend to want my partner exert more pain on me. Im obviously a masochist now.

I used to hate fisting and needle play, I thought I would never get into that. But now, I feel I have the fantasy of violent play like sewing by needles. I no longer feel they are limits. and I get so excited watching fisting.

Im scared by the rapid change, I figure soon I will break lots of limits. Is it too fast?



Some 'limits' you will break at the speed of light, others will take longer and others still you will never want to cross. That's the thing when you are new; SO many things you've never heard about before, some sound so scary you just KNOW you would never want to try it and then voila' you do and you find out you really enjoy it. That's the fun part. :-)

Only you can answer if its too fast for you. As for being violent? I dont consider anything you mentioned being violent at all.



DesFIP -> RE: Im getting a lot more violent in such a short time (5/10/2008 6:08:01 PM)

Sub frenzy.

Remember, just because it sounds exciting doesn't mean you have to do it. It also doesn't mean that you would like it in reality. My fantasies are always a lot edgier than what I can realistically handle. That's why they remain fantasies.



laura2161 -> RE: Im getting a lot more violent in such a short time (5/10/2008 6:15:36 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Sub frenzy.



Sub frenzy? Why would you classify what she wrote as frenzy? She's asking about her 'limits' changing. That is not sub frenzy.



Leatherist -> RE: Im getting a lot more violent in such a short time (5/10/2008 8:47:45 PM)

A year is a long time, sounds pretty average to me.



Bound2One -> RE: Im getting a lot more violent in such a short time (5/10/2008 9:20:13 PM)

A year is a good amount of time for you and your Dominant to know one another and to explore things that may have seemed incomprehensible at the beginning.  I know within five month period of being with mine I'm capable of so much more than I'd ever thought.  I may have thought certain things were limits because I was afraid of them, but my trust and faith in my Master has given me the courage to play and discover that I could handle them, and in fact, enjoy them very much. 

Trying new things and stretching your limits when you have given your consent is not sub frenzy to me. 



MasterGreg43 -> RE: Im getting a lot more violent in such a short time (5/12/2008 8:22:34 AM)

I agree with some of the responds, as long as ur Master is comfortable and u are ok with the pace more power to you, but I would slow things down so u could fully enjoy the depth of each new thing u experience, this lifestyle have so many parts and limits that u would be overwhelmed with it all so slow and enjoy the sweet pain of each one.



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