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mistresszariah1 -> what is the real attractiobn to anal play? (5/10/2008 7:36:18 PM)

What is the real attraction to anal play male vs female?




Gwynvyd -> RE: what is the real attractiobn to anal play? (5/10/2008 7:40:53 PM)

With my male sub I like how *I* am inside of *him* I like how he submits to me durring it.. his writhing and moaning...

it is all of the same reasions why a man loves to fuck a woman. It is very sensual.

I use a strap on... so it is more of a personal thing then just a poping in a butt plug. Though that is fun too.. watching them squirm.

it is control and sensuality of being inside them.

It is the same with females of course.. no different. Though I do not have a female sub at this time.

Gwyn




malloves69 -> RE: what is the real attractiobn to anal play? (5/10/2008 9:16:35 PM)

agrees with Ms Gwynvyd [:)] i love the submissiveness of it ....me bending over for my mistress as she has her way with me [:)] the power control of her fisting me is amazing as she slides inside of me ecspecially that one push when shes in ..can i be anymore vulnerable to her when she does so ? [:)]once shes inside of me im totally at her mercy ...she loves going to my prostate as she milks the cum from me and it drips from me from her touch of those magical fingers of hers [:)] i have no control over that and she loves doing it also [:)] she has trained me well i must say and boy is it addicting [:)] strapon play is fun indeed but being fisted takes it to the next level [:)] very personal thing it is for her being inside of my body ..she loves that im clean for her [:)] whats amazing after is how relaxed and stress free i am its like she takes out all the bad and puts inside of all the love and caring feelings she has inside of her amazing body [:)] never thought i would have loved this as much as i do ..it all started with her one day playing with my ass with her fingers ..once she did that i was hooked and craved more ..love a woman in control [:)] have fun and enjoy mal




LadyPact -> RE: what is the real attractiobn to anal play? (5/10/2008 10:44:12 PM)

Male vrs female?  I'm not sure what you are asking by that, unless of course you're specifically addressing prostrate massage.  Or, are you asking fem top to male bottom (oh, sorry)?

The quick answer is that there are nerve endings galore in the anus.  For those who care to partake, it can be very enjoyable.  That goes for males and females.  The things that feel good are pleasurable.  Bottom line.  (Oh, sorry.  Did it again.)

Then, of course, there's the power trip for the top, but that's a whole other question.




steffie -> RE: what is the real attractiobn to anal play? (5/10/2008 11:47:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: mistresszariah1

What is the real attraction to anal play male vs female?


For a male it's called a prostate.

Ladies, you don't have one.  The best analogy is your G-spot.  The prostate is the male G-spot, and as the gland that produces his semen, you can f--- it, masturbate it, work it, play with it, tease it, do a million different things with it - to drive a male completely out of his mind.

Ironically, males are taught from birth that their anus is dirty.  So just going there for a man means crossing certain barriers into the forbidden zone.

But generally once a male goes there, and realizes the amount of pleasure that resides in his prostate - it changes him sexually, and as a person.  He's a little better able to identify with what women go through when they are penetrated. 

Oft times the experience will make him a bit more sensitive to a woman's needs.




blueskyboy -> RE: what is the real attractiobn to anal play? (5/11/2008 5:06:45 AM)

i am a virgin there and just don't understand at all...why should i be the center of attention?  i am against the whole do me sub...diva sub genre
this thread is helpful...my texas domme is determined to pop the cherry with this awful fat strap on...[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m28.gif[/image].

love the idea of giving it up for her so will take it for her but still wonder...why?  think i am hottest about the prep...fasting and ummm cleaning...being empty may be the key...probably feel high...and then the buddist idea of first being empty when she fills me makes me brave and interested in the epiphany

hope she hears that message too as i suffer and moan for her...but trust she will or i would never consider it...deaf women have kept me pure...this woman gets it  

but worried about the long term effects

don't want it to become a regular part




bipolarber -> RE: what is the real attractiobn to anal play? (5/11/2008 6:24:45 AM)

Well, fasting is hardly needed. (It can be a nice touch, and a fun part of the ritual, if you like, but it's hardly a requirement.)

From the talks I've had with women whom I've done this sort of play with, I found that (physically) they seem to enjoy the sensation of being penetrated, without the worry of accidentally getting pregnant. Secondly, they find that the feeling they get from being filled there tends to give them a different, somewhat muffled pleasure compared to direct vaginal/clitoral stimulation.

For men, the physical attraction is the prostate massage they get, and also the intense feeling of being opened up. However, I think with men, there is a major phychological component to the attraction: they are basically reversing roles, and allowing themselves to be "taken." To males, this is probably the second most submissive act possible. (Cocksucking being a close second.) Males think that they own the copyright on fucking someone... so, when they are in turn the one who is fucked, it plays holy havoc with their psyches... (usually in a good way)

Of course, both sexes probably enjoy it because the anus is packed with nerves, and the sensation is so intense that sometimes it will cause orgasm in women, and a "short circuit" in males. (Where the feeling is so intense that they really can't process it, and an erection at the same time... which is why some guys go limp when being fucked.)

There are plenty of other reasons, of course. Many of them are as personal and specific as the individuals involved. But I feel fairly safe in saying these are probably some of the major ones.




ShaktiSama -> RE: what is the real attractiobn to anal play? (5/11/2008 8:28:29 AM)

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ORIGINAL: mistresszariah1
What is the real attraction to anal play male vs female?


Every man is born with a magical leprechaun in his bum which, if caught, will give his femme domme a pot of gold.

Hence all the fisting.

Sorry, I thought everyone knew this!

As for why anyone would play with a woman's bottom?  I have no idea.  Must be some kinda pervert...




TermsConditions -> RE: what is the real attractiobn to anal play? (5/11/2008 9:14:55 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama

quote:

ORIGINAL: mistresszariah1
What is the real attraction to anal play male vs female?


Every man is born with a magical leprechaun in his bum which, if caught, will give his femme domme a pot of gold.

Hence all the fisting.

Sorry, I thought everyone knew this!

As for why anyone would play with a woman's bottom?  I have no idea.  Must be some kinda pervert...


"Always after me lucky charms!"




LadyLynx -> RE: what is the real attractiobn to anal play? (5/11/2008 12:44:50 PM)

lol. guess I am a pervert then.  been looking for a female's ass to plunder.  Hell male or female's ass to plunder is a good idea.

*smirks*




goodlick -> RE: what is the real attractiobn to anal play? (5/13/2008 8:47:11 AM)

my ass is also a virgin's ass but it must be exciting when Mistress does it....[X(]




Shawn1066 -> RE: what is the real attractiobn to anal play? (5/13/2008 9:36:45 AM)

The appeal of anal play?  Well, first and formost my Owner enjoys it.  Secondly, it's a different experience and it tends to give me a much different headspace from other things that we do.  There's a different erotic element to it, in my view.  Not better than anything else...just different.  Intimate and enjoyable, for sure.

DV's Fox




darchChylde -> RE: what is the real attractiobn to anal play? (5/13/2008 12:35:25 PM)

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ORIGINAL: bipolarber
To males, this is probably the second most submissive act possible. (Cocksucking being a close second.) Males think that they own the copyright on fucking someone... so, when they are in turn the one who is fucked, it plays holy havoc with their psyches... (usually in a good way)



Just wondering, how does one determine what makes an act into a submissive one; or on the other end, what makes an act into a dominant act?

With all the debate about whether being penetrated is inherently submissive for a dominant woman, with the general consensus being that it is not; how does it manage to become automatically submissive for a man to be penetrated?

By the way, as i've said in another thread; i may not have been penetrated, but that doesn't make it any less true that i have been fucked.




Shawn1066 -> RE: what is the real attractiobn to anal play? (5/13/2008 1:24:13 PM)

In my relationship with my Owner I've been the penetrator and the penetrated...  It's all just as submissive to me.  Why?  Because I'm the submissive party.  If I was Dominant, they'd take an entirely different slant.

DV's Fox




Asherdelampyr -> RE: what is the real attractiobn to anal play? (5/13/2008 1:25:14 PM)

I like knowing I have fully used a woman... including every one of her "options"




Emperor1956 -> RE: what is the real attractiobn to anal play? (5/13/2008 1:41:19 PM)

Edited because TermsAndConditions got there before me, dammit!




bipolarber -> RE: what is the real attractiobn to anal play? (5/13/2008 4:57:20 PM)

DC, it's not "automatically" a submissive act, but in a BDSM context, it usually is intended to be so. (Although I'm sure that there are subs out there who do strap on scenes with their Masters, simply because the Master really likes the sensation, I tend to think that the overwhelming majority of this sort of play is Femme Dom/ male sub, in nature.) I could be wrong. Usually when anyone says "thus and thus is so" there are always exceptions... and thus the person pontificating is proved wrong. But generally speaking, I think it's true.... BDSM couples look at strap on scenes as being a form of submission.




LPslittleclip -> RE: what is the real attraction to anal play? (5/19/2008 12:33:01 PM)

i really enjoy the feeling of anal play the fact that it pleases my M'Lady makes it even more so. for me it is a submission thing as well so sensation and submission its great. this is how it is for my M'Lady and i. when she first did me i ejaculated from it. so drive on M'Lady drive on




malloves69 -> RE: what is the real attraction to anal play? (5/19/2008 1:57:10 PM)

my mistress knows my prostate well [:)] like anything else i have its hers for the taking anytime she sees fit [:)]  had anal sex like 4 or 5 times too with a female [:)] being inside of a womans ass truly is special too ..love cumming inside of a ladys ass then watch it as it drips out ,,now that is HOT  i must say [:)] wish my mistress could do the same to me ..bet feeling that squirt would be awesome cumming from her [:)] have fun mal [:)]




DianeB -> RE: what is the real attractiobn to anal play? (5/19/2008 2:48:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Gwynvyd

With my male sub I like how *I* am inside of *him* I like how he submits to me durring it.. his writhing and moaning...

it is all of the same reasions why a man loves to fuck a woman. It is very sensual.

I use a strap on... so it is more of a personal thing then just a poping in a butt plug. Though that is fun too.. watching them squirm.

it is control and sensuality of being inside them.

It is the same with females of course.. no different. Though I do not have a female sub at this time.

Gwyn



X2 Agreed.....Watching them squirm and whine as the strapon goes in is such a turn on for me...


Diane




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