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What Happens - 10/18/2005 8:14:04 PM

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What is the protocol as to what happens if a Master/Dom decides a candidate is not the right one for the position?
What if emotional/physical attachment has already started to take place seemingly toward the sub/slave towards the Master/Dom?

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RE: What Happens - 10/18/2005 8:39:51 PM

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What happens in a vanilla dating situation where one partner decides that things aren't going to "work out" for them? They end the relationship.

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RE: What Happens - 10/18/2005 8:45:34 PM

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Damn FLButtSlut.

I couldn't have said it better myself.

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RE: What Happens - 10/18/2005 8:59:45 PM

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I usually untie them and change their position to best suit me. LOL. But all joking aside. If she is not what you are searching for then you should not proceed with her. If cutting ties with her is difficult now, it'll be impossible if she bonds to you any further. That road will only lead to a heartbreaking end for the submissive. I suggest you talk to her and make it clear that you do not think she is what you're searching for and that it is best you don't proceed with her.

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RE: What Happens - 10/18/2005 9:00:48 PM

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What is the protocol as to what happens if a Master/Dom decides a candidate is not the right one for the position?
What if emotional/physical attachment has already started to take place seemingly toward the sub/slave towards the Master/Dom?

The same thing if the submissive finds that the dominant isn't to his or her liking. Some discuss it and try to find accommondations; some say "good bye." The only wrong thing is to try to bear up in a relationship that isn't working because of a sense of obligation.

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RE: What Happens - 10/18/2005 9:34:36 PM

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I agree, you say goodbye before the bond grows even closer and it hurts much worse.

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RE: What Happens - 10/19/2005 12:12:57 AM

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What is the protocol as to what happens if a Master/Dom decides a candidate is not the right one for the position?
What if emotional/physical attachment has already started to take place seemingly toward the sub/slave towards the Master/Dom?

Life is full of rejection - whether anyone would want it, like it, or not. It does not mean you are faulty it means that you are not right for them (assuming you are the one being told you are not the right one).

There is no protocal (that I am aware of) other than for the Master/Dom to end it. A submissive (as I see it) could also unilaterly end a relationship, a slave could not without breaking whatever contract was agreed upon. Dom/me (title) - He/She/insert descriptor here has decided. Try to convince them otherwise. Either they will tell you to go away (politely or otherwise) or let you feed their fantasy of having you chase them.

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RE: What Happens - 10/19/2005 1:28:32 AM

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Like the ending of any relationship, it is painfull for a time. DONT get the guilts and think about staying. Take the whole experience as a lesson you should learn and move on to find someone who is more suitable... Yeah! Year! I know the emotiable aspects and things aren't always cut and dried but you really owe yourself the best relationship and not to allow anybody to hit you with guilt trips or try to make you responsible or take the blame for the breakup. If they try any of that shit on you, they just showed you that they have been tested, judged and found unworthy.

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RE: What Happens - 10/19/2005 3:48:17 AM

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You can stop any time you wish.

A bad fit is usually more painful than a few hurt feelings in the long run.

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RE: What Happens - 10/19/2005 4:10:26 AM

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this is true,this girl recently ended a siutation before the contracts took place but that sense of obligation made it very difficult...
perhaps some people second guess themselves as well.
but indeed it is BEST for ALL parties involved to move on before attachments get any stronger

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What is the protocol as to what happens if a Master/Dom decides a candidate is not the right one for the position?
What if emotional/physical attachment has already started to take place seemingly toward the sub/slave towards the Master/Dom?

The same thing if the submissive finds that the dominant isn't to his or her liking. Some discuss it and try to find accommondations; some say "good bye." The only wrong thing is to try to bear up in a relationship that isn't working because of a sense of obligation.

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RE: What Happens - 10/19/2005 6:03:15 AM

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What is the protocol as to what happens if a Master/Dom decides a candidate is not the right one for the position?
What if emotional/physical attachment has already started to take place seemingly toward the sub/slave towards the Master/Dom?

My opinion is to be honest with one another and break off the relationship (or the path you were "hoping" it would take). All the hope in the world won't make the relationship what you want it to be, if you're with the wrong person.

I began to see a man that I was not at all attracted to (not that he was so gawd awful bad...just not "my" type in any way). He was a good man, and I could see that right from the start though. I took the time to get to know him, but after a few months found that I was actually getting even less and less attracted to him. Also, and this was a huge factor....was his inability to show affection toward me (in spite of implying there was some). Considering everything, this was not enough to continue to build toward a "relationship," for me, let alone that we had little common interest in the kink/BDSM arena.

As it turned out, he thought there was a relationship...and I really didn't.

I broke it off, as it wasn't good for me, or him. Since he seemed so totally clueless to that fact, I know I made the correct choice not to pursue more with him. (He's a good guy, but just not for me.)

Sometimes things just don't work out, even when a few things are good.

Be honest. Break it off now, with less investment and hurt. It'll be better for both of you.

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RE: What Happens - 10/19/2005 12:53:03 PM

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What they said........

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RE: What Happens - 10/20/2005 4:52:16 PM

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What is the protocol as to what happens if a Master/Dom decides a candidate is not the right one for the position?
What if emotional/physical attachment has already started to take place seemingly toward the sub/slave towards the Master/Dom?

There really isn't any "protocol" for either the Master/Dom or slave/submissive. In some ways that's unfortunate since it seems that so many decide to end a beginning relationship through silence rather than truth and honesty.

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