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my first scene... - 5/12/2008 7:06:11 PM   
BiteMeSweetly


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Status: offline 		Ok. So I had my first scene last weekend. Now I feel like this total freak of nature, like I am on fire. I have been researching extensively online, seeking knowledge and guidance. Soaking up and absorbing every bit of information I can get. I bought all these books.... and new corsets and toys and gear... I feel as though my brain has been reprogrammed. I am completely distracted at work. Is this normal? Why had I not come to these realizations sooner?

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RE: my first scene... - 5/12/2008 7:27:50 PM   
batshalom


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Status: offline 		Look up frenzy, bms.

Ohhh bms. ~chuckle~

I'll be amused with that for way too long now.

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RE: my first scene... - 5/12/2008 8:14:47 PM   
Noah


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BiteMeSweetly

Ok. So I had my first scene last weekend. Now I feel like this total freak of nature, like I am on fire. I have been researching extensively online, seeking knowledge and guidance. Soaking up and absorbing every bit of information I can get. I bought all these books.... and new corsets and toys and gear... I feel as though my brain has been reprogrammed. I am completely distracted at work. Is this normal? Why had I not come to these realizations sooner?



Hey. Do whatever you want. It's fine with me. I notice, though, that your response seems ever so externally directed. Buy stuff, buy books, read, research, seek knowledge, seek guidance, and so forth.

I wonder how it would go for you if you were to take a week or a month and stop buying, stop asking, stop looking, stop analyzing and just be with this thing. Just spend the time being who you are now, after the momentous fact. Maybe you could get better acquainted with these new feelings if you did it quietly-- just you and your shadow--rather than filling your head with other peoples theories, terms and preconceptions.  Maybe you could get better acquainted with the person having those feelings if you spent the time directly and intimately with her (him? of course I mean you) rather than looking at yourself and your experience through all of these filters and devices you're accumulating.

Sounds like you'll eventually spend a lot of years being an old hand at your new endeavor. But you only get one chance to be new at it, to live in the head of someone having these experiences for the first time.

That's pretty special.

I'm saying drop the Field Guide and just look at the amazing birds. Look at, how they soar and sink and sing and sleep. These newly discovered exotic birds flying around in your psyche.

You can always learn the names later.

Congratulations.

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RE: my first scene... - 5/12/2008 8:54:10 PM   
daddysliloneds


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Status: offline 		the way you feel is pretty common; sub frenzy...

it's like someone getting their first fix!

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ORIGINAL: BiteMeSweetly

Ok. So I had my first scene last weekend. Now I feel like this total freak of nature, like I am on fire. I have been researching extensively online, seeking knowledge and guidance. Soaking up and absorbing every bit of information I can get. I bought all these books.... and new corsets and toys and gear... I feel as though my brain has been reprogrammed. I am completely distracted at work. Is this normal? Why had I not come to these realizations sooner?



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RE: my first scene... - 5/12/2008 8:55:50 PM   
Lynnxz


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Status: offline 		1) Keep an eye on your bank account. Overdrafts are a bitch.
2) Enjoy yourself.





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RE: my first scene... - 5/12/2008 9:06:31 PM   
SailingBum


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Status: offline 		I think there is sex addict classes in most towns...  Now if i could just stop beating my dick like it owes me money... I might be able to attend one.  Perhaps you should too biteme.???

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RE: my first scene... - 5/12/2008 9:23:20 PM   
SummerWind


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BiteMeSweetly

. I feel as though my brain has been reprogrammed.



Welcome aboard.....enjoy the ride

< Message edited by SummerWind -- 5/12/2008 9:24:26 PM >

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RE: my first scene... - 5/12/2008 9:52:33 PM   
azropedntied


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Status: offline 		You have tasted  and you now know YES in fact it is gooooooooooood ! You hunger for more , and you wonder if it is " normal ?" gawd i sure hope there are not many " normal 's " left here  wink . enjoy the ride  please keep hand and legs inside the car at all time until the ride has come to a complete stop then ride again . Be safe and  enjoy your journey .

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RE: my first scene... - 5/13/2008 5:10:04 AM   
VioletAshes


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Status: offline 		I can totally relate - it is exhilarating and confusing all at once. Who it is you are and want to be will come in time. Enjoy the ride.

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RE: my first scene... - 5/13/2008 6:12:01 AM   
MladyHathor


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Status: offline 		sub frenzy--slow down, breathe, get back to reality--then take is one step at a time--however, it is good to hear that your first was so good!

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RE: my first scene... - 5/13/2008 10:38:26 AM   
FRSguy


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Enjoy.

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RE: my first scene... - 5/13/2008 11:29:29 AM   
sleazybutterfly


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RE: my first scene... - 5/13/2008 6:19:58 PM   
Huntertn


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RE: my first scene... - 5/13/2008 6:34:27 PM   
ThinkingKitten


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BiteMeSweetly

Now I feel like this total freak of nature.


Well you're in good company.....

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RE: my first scene... - 5/13/2008 6:35:20 PM   
EagerToPleaseYou


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Status: offline 		Noah - What wonderful, sensitive, and thoughtful advice! I can completely relate to the OP. I've only just had my first real experience. I've been doing a lot of what she has been doing. You are the first that has reminded me to stop and smell the roses, so to speak.

Thanks you so much!  

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RE: my first scene... - 5/13/2008 6:42:17 PM   
kallisto


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Status: offline 		Isn't it fantastic?    You just "know" that it can't get any better than this?   But lo and behold, it does.   Wow .. stop and take a breath.     You can get so caught up in the reading and researching and trying to find everything out that you lose perspective on you and what you love about it and what makes it you.    Enjoy your first time and the feelings it has sparked within you.   Relish in the moment.   You will never have another "first time".  

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RE: my first scene... - 5/13/2008 6:54:07 PM   
azropedntied


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Status: offline 		PS - Wait til the day you have had it , then it goes away , then it comes back to you again . fun times ahead .

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RE: my first scene... - 5/13/2008 7:11:50 PM   
ResidentSadist


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Welcome to a new world baby!

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RE: my first scene... - 5/15/2008 5:58:12 PM   
DChammer


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Status: offline 		I had the same experience when I first did ecstasy. Now it is all just a chapter in the book of life.


< Message edited by DChammer -- 5/15/2008 5:59:06 PM >

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RE: my first scene... - 5/15/2008 6:16:00 PM   
rook42


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Status: offline 		Congrats! It's not just a submissive thing(I do like the word frenzy, though), everyone gets a little buzz when their eyes open to something new. Eventually things will settle down a bit, the shininess will wear off; having a cup of tea and playing human for a bit helps. Scening may have been more than you hoped for, but that doesn't mean that individual people will be, so just be "zen" :)

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