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D/s House Structure - 5/13/2008 5:20:49 AM   
Hisgidget


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Status: offline 		I posted this question on the general board and was not clear in the wording.  I have a question for the Masters/Dominants out there who have established a D/s House.  I’m not talking about the building you live in with your submissives but the organization of taking on submissives, training them, living with them (if you do), etc.   How did you come up with your house name, colors, philosophy?  What does the house stand for?  How is the house structured?
 
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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/13/2008 7:18:11 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Good post gidget. Im looking forward to the responces.

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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/13/2008 7:42:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hmm, my house is the House of Wyrd, if you cannot figure out where the name came from, look closely at my ID, that is my "scene" name.  Though it predates my involvement in the lifestyle.

Colors, just use my favorite colors...

My "symbol" is a stylized merger of a W and a lower case omega with fleurs on the ends, this is used as the ownership tattoo on my girls.

My philopsophy is to do what is right.

As for where it came from, it all evolved from how I was raised and who I am.




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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/13/2008 8:17:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		 How did you come up with your house name, colors, philosophy?  What does the house stand for?  How is the house structured?

I feel its more important to work on ones relationship and the M/s dynamic then to waste time with a name or symbol. I do know a few people who have such and thats their choice but we do wonder why.  Or gee maybe I need to come up with a catchy name and that will find us a third because since we have no name or color we are not real.... Or do I need to hire a crier to enter any munch before us and announce that the House of xxx has arrived and have a flag bearer carrying my flag...
or even have my symbol branded onto my slaves forehead....   sorry "NOT".
The nice thing about this lifestyle is that there is no right or wrong way, Just the way that works best for your famly unit.
If you want to do that then feel free to do so.
How is the house structured ?  Simple. I decide and make any final judgement, there is little to no arguing. God is in charge of our lives and soles, My slave/wife is in charge of my health, I am in charge of her and am responsible for her care and well being and will answer to God when I pass on for any decision I may make on my or her behalf. I go to bed each night with my inner self at pease and confident that I have done my best, have wronged no one and if I do not awake the next morning will stand in front of God ( or whoever/whatever they are ) confident that I did the best I could. 

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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/13/2008 9:32:17 AM   
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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/13/2008 9:41:14 AM   
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 How did you come up with your house name, colors, philosophy?  What does the house stand for?  How is the house structured?

I feel its more important to work on ones relationship and the M/s dynamic then to waste time with a name or symbol. I do know a few people who have such and thats their choice but we do wonder why. 

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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/13/2008 9:46:03 AM   
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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/13/2008 11:57:34 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		puppy I love the ideal of having a crier when you enter a munch. Thank you.

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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/13/2008 12:09:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		The concept of a "House" is a little bit too grounded in fantasy for me, but I have a general structure I adhere to thats developed over time and is constantly being changed and revised based on the individual.

At least 3 months of "egalitarian time". There is no commitment, no rules, and no obligation to me. We're basically just two people. The point is for them to get to know me, my character, and more specifically, what I expect from them. At the same time, it's an opportunity for me to get to know them, whether we're compatible, whether they can handle what I want, and what direction they want their life to go.

I won't ever ask for them to wear my collar. It's something they have to ask me for. I think it sets a good base for starting off a power based relationship. If they don't wholeheartedly desire and want to be with me and to serve, then it will just lead to problems.

The collar isn't something permanent or "forever". It does not equate to a wedding ring. It's simply a symbol that shows they belong to me and I now have authority over areas of their life that I didn't have before.

It's an "Obey or Leave" type dynamic. I don't allow them to set limits with me simply, because they don't "want" to do something. The only boundaries they are allowed to enforce with me are any decisions or actions on my part that would bring about any form of harm to them and their lives or the lives of others. It is required that they defy me in such an event and I have no interest in someone who will literally "do anything" for me.

I don't negotiate. The core of my way and my expectations doesn't change from person to person. Once you submit to me, you submit to me and the pace of the relationship is determined by me, not by a series of negotiations where the submissive directs the course of the relationship and gives up control as she sees fit and ready.

Thats the crux of it and there is a whole lot of other little things that would take too long to list.



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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/13/2008 2:24:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		Same answer as last time - we don't have house colors, symbols or a name. Just too formal for us, and for me a bit too like something out of a novel. His feelings may change but that is how it stands at present.

We started dating in a very *GASP* "vanilla" way and transitioned into a full-time 24/7 dynamic. Valyraen's training/instruction of me has been how to fold his socks, do the rest of the laundry, fix his hot chocolate, what cereal he likes and to a much more minor extent some tips on how he likes sexual things. In reality, most people that I know don't have a formal house setup like you describe.

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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/13/2008 3:12:03 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Hisgidget

I posted this question on the general board and was not clear in the wording.  I have a question for the Masters/Dominants out there who have established a D/s House.  I’m not talking about the building you live in with your submissives but the organization of taking on submissives, training them, living with them (if you do), etc.   How did you come up with your house name, colors, philosophy?  What does the house stand for?  How is the house structured?
 
Thank you,
 
Sir MKs gidget



I will also answer the same as last. Home.

It's not much different than anyone else creating a home with another individual. You spend time together, see if you are compatible, work through the problems, etc etc etc. Just because we structure our relationships a bit differently than alot of other people, does not mean the work to create it, is all that different.

There is no house name, definately no house colours, as for philosophy and what the house stands for.........again, not much different than any good relationship. The structure is, I am the boss, I take responsibility for everything within my power to take responsibility for. I expect the others in the house to do the same.

This isn't a kinky romance novel, it's life.

< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 5/13/2008 3:13:04 PM >

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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/13/2008 3:55:41 PM   
Maya2001


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Status: offline 		This may be what you want to look into , to understand the term house  and some history of the leather community

You may need to look at leather history --the old guard --houses referred to  mostly gay leathermen communities, not a physical house  . they formed biker clubs --colours being the biker patch, with a series of protocols  and traditions  that became their structure

http://members.aol.com/darkstoneds/Titles.html

little more detail here
http://www.evilmonk.org/A/notetrad.cfm

There are still active leather groups today but this is a sub culture of BDSM, though the majority of members arestill part of the gay community and some still will terms such as houses

http://www.angelfire.com/ult/regnant/

http://www.jaywiseman.com/SEX_BDSM_Old_Guard_2.html

leather house registry  http://www.mshouseholdregistry.com/






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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/13/2008 4:22:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

Same answer as last time - we don't have house colors, symbols or a name. Just too formal for us, and for me a bit too like something out of a novel. His feelings may change but that is how it stands at present.

We started dating in a very *GASP* "vanilla" way and transitioned into a full-time 24/7 dynamic. Valyraen's training/instruction of me has been how to fold his socks, do the rest of the laundry, fix his hot chocolate, what cereal he likes and to a much more minor extent some tips on how he likes sexual things. In reality, most people that I know don't have a formal house setup like you describe.
that post gave me warm fuzzies.....(sigh)

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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/14/2008 9:45:47 AM   
Hisgidget


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for your feedback.  Maya2001 the links are awesome.   http://www.mshouseholdregistry.com/  provided just the information Sir was looking for.

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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/14/2008 11:54:39 AM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp

that post gave me warm fuzzies.....(sigh)


Glad to be of service.

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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/14/2008 12:47:29 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		I like the descriptions of one of the houses featured in the registry link:

Identify your Household as a real or a virtual Household:
Very real



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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/14/2008 1:36:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub


We started dating in a very *GASP* "vanilla" way and transitioned into a full-time 24/7 dynamic. Valyraen's training/instruction of me has been how to fold his socks, do the rest of the laundry, fix his hot chocolate, what cereal he likes and to a much more minor extent some tips on how he likes sexual things.


    

     Aqua....you mean you are not kept naked in chains 24/7?????  And you have a VANILLA life as well as the M/s??????  Interesting concept  *grin* 

       So many I talk to think living this L/s is about nothing but *play* 24/7.....oft times it's hilarious as to the comments they make or ideas they have floating in their heads.  Ahhh well it does keep me entertained :)

            Renee'

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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/14/2008 2:25:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		The house is not necessarily the home. I live in two different houses, in two different countries, but home is when I am with my slave. When she is not there, I do not feel that I am home.

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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/14/2008 11:51:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Hisgidget

  I have a question for the Masters/Dominants out there who have established a D/s House.   How did you come up with your house name, colors, philosophy?  What does the house stand for?  How is the house structured?
 
Thank you,
 
Sir MKs gidget



Master and i move a lot. It goes with the whole military-life territory. Our "world" might be just as fitting as "house".

We have actual property, and named it something very meaningful to us. The name came from a fictional world i created. Owning land was always a dream We shared, so the day We bought the land it seemed as though fantasy became reality.

As for home, We are home when We are together. We call Our place in this world, Chaos Forge, another name with great meaning to Us. He is much better at explaining that meaning, but sadly, We're not home.

Color have had little to do with the Master/slave dynamic We share. Still, He likes black, and i like red, and these colors appear a lot in Our household goods...

As for bringing in others, Master/slave works for us, but We seeking a mutual parter in life, and not requiring this dynamic. We're not opposed to it, just not limiting the hopeful relationship to that venue.

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RE: D/s House Structure - 5/15/2008 12:41:07 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Hisgidget

I posted this question on the general board and was not clear in the wording.  I have a question for the Masters/Dominants out there who have established a D/s House.  I’m not talking about the building you live in with your submissives but the organization of taking on submissives, training them, living with them (if you do), etc.   How did you come up with your house name, colors, philosophy?  What does the house stand for?  How is the house structured?
 
Thank you,
 
Sir MKs gidget



To start with we are a M/s home not a D/s home (splitting hairs I know but it is important to us). Originally we had the House of iron Bear a Gorean Home. That says it all really we had a home suited to our Gorean Lifestyle. When I left the Gorean lifestyle I had already decided what we would do and thus we changed the name of our home to Bruin Cottage (I tossed up about Bruin Manor but it didn’t sit well with our physical abode). Our lifestyle and thus our home is based on the late Victorian period with the etiquette, manners, mannerisms and what have you of that period. On formal occasions when High protocol is in use we enjoy dressing in the elegant finery of the period with servants for the function wearing the appropriate garb including powdered wigs. It make for an enjoyable interlude and doesn’t happen all that often although things will change over the next year or so.

Iron Bear
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(A Victorian Lifestyle poly home)

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