Hissweetshiv
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Okay... Master and i lived 2000+ miles away from each other (Texas and Ontario, Canada) and couldn't afford a lot of visits back and forth. We spent a few years getting to know one another via net, phone, and physical letters. As far as this being no way to judge compatibility, we had a strict policy of "nothing taboo" as far as conversation went. We'd bitch about our day, talk about life the universe and everything, and yes, sexual fantasies and such. I trusted Him enough to allow Him unsupervised contact with my son, and i have never regretted that. When we got to visit one another, yes, we had sexual contact of course, since that's an aspect of compatibility i wouldn't want to forget about, lol. However, we also sat up till 3 am more than once doing just what we did on the net and the phone... talking. About EVERYTHING. In the end, we managed exactly 2 visits. One visit each to the other's home to meet everyone. We have been together and married now (i came to Him) for just over 9 months. If we ever finish fighting with the INS and get me work-legal, lol, everything will be fine.
That rambling overwith, how long did we wait before beginning actual physical service? There's more than one answer to that actually. I was serving Him with physical acts before we were physically together, and that happened within a few months of my becoming His. Once we were physically together on my visit to His hometown, we waited about 2 hours, lol. Long enough to collect my luggage at the airport, go for lunch, and get to His apartment.
I think the bottom line to this issue is "not until you know it's right". My visit to Him occurred at the beginning of the war, when SARS first broke out, and almost everyone i knew had dire predictions of the outcome. If i wasn't going to die on the flight, i was going to get beaten(snicker) and raped and left for dead somewhere. Everything in me told me that i would be fine and come home ok, so i went. And i came home in one piece. Ditto the permanent relocation - i knew He would never be happy living where i was, and i knew that my son and i could be happy where He was, so we started working on it. If i hadn't been SURE we could work it out, the relocation never would have happened. Follow your instincts and i wish you luck and happiness.
~shiv
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