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ORIGINAL: felineone

She sounds a lot like me when i was young. I too became a sort of feminist, to take control, to not let any man tell me what to do. This was mostly a protection/defensive kind of attitude. I had only known men who were not "good" who were damaging, domineering, abusive. Growing up, my only examples were of these kinds of men.
I know that she needs you to be strong, and that it is a conflict for her, to let go. it's very scary to give up the safety of controling everything. she will be looking for that weakness in character.. pushing to try to find it. I used to push to see if they would let me. they always did, and it was disapointing to me.
you don't have to speak of the S&M part of BDSM, but the M/s, or D/s might be very appealing to her.

good luck!

~feline~