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Looking for a sub..need help - 10/19/2005 8:48:19 PM

ladylaura

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We are a new couple to CollarMe and we are actively seeking a female sub, but we are having a hard time. Do you have any ideas that you could give us on where to look (other websites) and/or how to find one. Thank you,
Lady Laura

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RE: Looking for a sub..need help - 10/19/2005 9:05:11 PM

sub4hire

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Go to a munch. Get to know a person in person. Respect them. Communicate..be honest.

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RE: Looking for a sub..need help - 10/20/2005 5:30:50 AM

FTopinMichigan

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ladylaura

We are a new couple to CollarMe and we are actively seeking a female sub, but we are having a hard time. Do you have any ideas that you could give us on where to look (other websites) and/or how to find one. Thank you,
Lady Laura

My suggestion is to be sincere in what you seek. Your profile looks like your only interest is sex. Are you sure you're searching on the correct site for a third? If you're seeking a "submissive," you might at least touch on the subject of what that means to you, or describe some interests...anything.

There are sites to seek out sex alone.

K

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RE: Looking for a sub..need help - 10/20/2005 5:30:06 PM

pandoravampire

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having read your profile, it is a little confusing. You want to please the sub? so your a sub yourself right? thats what this implies to me anyhow.

But your called ladylaura, so that implies that you are dominant. And that your partner is your submissive and you wish to add a third.

The fact that you dont address a submissive's side, apart from sex, i find odd. It suggests that you are more into swinging than bdsm? Which is cool, but like someone allready said, thats just sex and there's plenty of sights that cater for that community.

I personally would not of replied to that add. There is a hint of D/s but its almost a afterthought in your add. I doubt from the add, that you would understand my needs for a powerexchange, that my submission can be demonstrated and enjoyed sexually, but that is a very small part of the overall picture.
For a fuck, it sounds fine, for a D/s powerexchange, nope.

Im not saying my assumptions are correct, just what your advert conjured up for me.
I wish you well.

other websites? do a google, mine shows me thousands i can join.

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RE: Looking for a sub..need help - 10/20/2005 6:28:57 PM

MissDiandSirHugh

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We also read your profile and just like FTopinMichigan and pandoravampire were left scratching our heads as to what you are seeking a sub for except a 3sm encounter and thats all.
So best to sit and reword it from the start with a good description of what you were trying to put originally in the roll of your selves and what your sub is to be part of but if it is just for a sex romp then join other sites also for a wider contact of people.
With that said you only joined collarme not long ago and so patience and time ae things you will have to harness and use lots of.

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RE: Looking for a sub..need help - 10/20/2005 6:53:04 PM

mnottertail

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So do you guys wanna fuck..

you been here a couple days. We are all looking for the same things in the end.

Want ads are frowned upon here. your profile speaks for itself. How are you different than any other wank (or wonk) here? Perhaps chatting a few up, developing a relationship (as tenous as the web may be?) You af course, are a dime a dozen (as am I) .........

So welcome to the net.....

I wish you and yours well.

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RE: Looking for a sub..need help - 10/20/2005 8:20:54 PM

subversiveone

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Wow, a whole 2 weeks here and you're having trouble, i can't imagine. Perhaps you should post a pic of the male half.

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RE: Looking for a sub..need help - 10/21/2005 12:30:13 PM

trueshadow

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And don't forget the 'competition'. There are many couples here who are looking for a submissive/slave female third. Yet many women (most) want to be the one and only.

This whole process takes time.

Agree with the suggestion to post a picture of you both. That will give prospective subs a better idea of who you both are.

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