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Leatherist -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 8:51:10 PM)
She can get around it by just not replying to subs-it's not rocket science.

bestbabync -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 8:53:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NormalOutside quote: ORIGINAL: bestbabync are there any Doms out there looking to find rt ltr happiness with a very submissive, obedient bbw submissive? what do Doms think of the bbw submissive? why do so many not take us serious, think we are gross or use us for temporary satisfaction? Fat girls aren't attractive to me. There's a evolutionary biological reason behind that. I've experimented to a degree (just like I did with bisexuality) and found that I'm not into it. My eyes don't like fat girls, my arms don't like fat girls, my cock doesn't like fat girls, and various social and other reasons all point me toward girls with a healthy amount of body fat. Another reason fat girls don't make suitable mates for me is that they very often have self esteem issues resulting from being fat, as well as emotional issues which LED them to being fat. Not all, but many. Do I want to get involved in that if I don't have to? Nope. Why choose something equal in every way except fat and possibly messed up? A side rant of my own, not answering your question....... large amounts of fat aren't healthy. We're disgusting eaters in the Western world and it grosses me out how we treat our bodies and still demand to live to 85 in decent shape. It's not THAT hard to be healthy, but you have to actually want it. Anyone who wants it will get it. "It's a disease" or "I got it from my Dad's side" are false cop-outs. Take in less calories than you're using in a day ----> weight loss. True for 99.9% of the population. So do more moving around and less eating. If you want to be fat, be fat, that is your right. You won't be sleeping in my bed, and you probably won't be healthy when you hit 40. thank you for your opinion. i understand you have your preference and i respect that. and at least you are honest and you do not use the fact that a woman is overweight to take advantage of her. you just plain have your preference. just like everyone else. thank you again! i am 47, overweight? yes, healthy? yes. i am active. i have been this size almost all my life. i am strong, full figured, solid & thick. i do not have high blood pressure, high cholesterol or diabeties. so not all overwieght are unhealthy. but again thank you for your opinion Normal Outside.

akisha -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 8:57:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bestbabync quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick So the OP resurrected their three-month old thread just to pick a fight with RedMagic and others??? Okayyyyyyyyyy. Cali i did not mean to pick a fight. but i do wonder why others are so abusive & hateful here. why do people find humor & comfort in insulting and demeaning others? i have found alot of friends here on CM, but the mean hateful people keep showing up more & more! i thought the thread got lost or something. i never recieved emails alerting me to all the post that carried into june. when i was changing/deleting my subscriptions, i found the thread with all the hateful post! If you don't like what people have to say you have to option not to read it. Pretty simple. You had to go looking for it to find it. A three month old thread would be burried probably 5 pages down the list by now.

bestbabync -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 8:59:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick quote: ORIGINAL: bestbabync oh god!...my opinion and question here was discounted, insulted and made fun of from the very beginning by you and many others. i understand why alot of people find this site so disagreeable! No, I did not insult you, I was trying to get you to see the issue from a different perspective. I was trying to show you that you were putting the emphasis on the wrong thing. Much like a certain poster who says things like, "Do Dominants Lie?"... I was trying to show you that dominant men are no different than any other man when it comes to many things, including their size preferences. You can choose to be insulted, or you can choose to see some value in what I said. Or not. Cali lol...but no value was found in the question i posted here for the most part! once i read all the jokes & insults all the other post just seemed pretty meaningless. most of the time when folks post or blog they do it to vent or learn from others. i have learned today, this particular site is not the place for that!

angelicbitch -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 8:59:27 PM)
I don't understand why people get so uptight about weight. If they ( Dom, sub, slave, switch) whatever if they don't like what the person looks like then why berrate them. Just avoid them and be done. Simple as that. If you aren't/can't be comfortable in your own skin.. and you place so much stock in what other people think of you .... then that to me is an issue. I am not a small girl by any means. But I earned my belly. I have two beautiful daughters to show for it. I am happy with myself. And if some Dom or any one else for that matter is gonna have an issue with how I look, act, or speak then they are not worth my time. And I refuse to be subjected to anyone making me feel inferior. I can do that all on my own. So if a Dom isn't happy with the way you look because you have a few extra pounds. Why get upset about it. Move on ... there is someone out there for you... and sooner or later you will find that person and be happy. Just my .02 worth... Peace Angelic

SensualPassion41 -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 9:01:33 PM)
For the most part, my experience with the Dominants here has been positive. They have offered me guidance when I asked and encouraged me when I needed it. I have come across a few not so wonderful dominants here as well. We exchange an email or two and for one reason or another I dont feel they are the right one for me. Once I say that I get called every name they can think of. All they accomplish with that is giving me a good laugh and letting me know I made the right decision. I mean really, they contact me me first, saying how much we have in common and what a wonderful submissive I am. They tell me I am pretty and have beautiful. I say no and they call me every name they can think of and make a few up. I laugh and am thankful I said no. I then wonder, if they cannot control themselves...how can they control me??

Leatherist -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 9:02:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SensualPassion41 For the most part, my experience with the Dominants here has been positive. They have offered me guidance when I asked and encouraged me when I needed it. I have come across a few not so wonderful dominants here as well. We exchange an email or two and for one reason or another I dont feel they are the right one for me. Once I say that I get called every name they can think of. All they accomplish with that is giving me a good laugh and letting me know I made the right decision. I mean really, they contact me me first, saying how much we have in common and what a wonderful submissive I am. They tell me I am pretty and have beautiful. I say no and they call me every name they can think of and make a few up. I laugh and am thankful I said no. I then wonder, if they cannot control themselves...how can they control me?? And there are always the ones in the views list-who never write. Are they uncontrolled as well?

bestbabync -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 9:03:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: akisha quote: ORIGINAL: bestbabync quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick So the OP resurrected their three-month old thread just to pick a fight with RedMagic and others??? Okayyyyyyyyyy. Cali i did not mean to pick a fight. but i do wonder why others are so abusive & hateful here. why do people find humor & comfort in insulting and demeaning others? i have found alot of friends here on CM, but the mean hateful people keep showing up more & more! i thought the thread got lost or something. i never recieved emails alerting me to all the post that carried into june. when i was changing/deleting my subscriptions, i found the thread with all the hateful post! If you don't like what people have to say you have to option not to read it. Pretty simple. You had to go looking for it to find it. A three month old thread would be burried probably 5 pages down the list by now. like i said, i posted my question seeking answers. i was inquisitive! i really wanted to know why someone would be so mean and abusive. also i thought the thread got deleted or lost. i found the thread today....i really would like to know why there is so much hate here!

angelspassion4u -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 9:05:24 PM)
This is a forum you may have posted to the Dominants only but everyone is entitled to give their opinion. You will see many threads where Dominants/Domme/switches reply on the submissive ones, and so forth. We are people first before we are whatever we are. No matter what weight will always be an issue as will religion, politics, etc.... we all have our opinions and when one poses a question then we let our opinions be known. Right or wrong. They are opinions. Some will take them to extreme just to get arise out of people ( maybe in their minds it makes interesting reading--drama ). We just have to remember that everyone has their own opinions whether we like their answers or not. It is up to us on whether we let it anger us or not. I, personally, am tired of the weight issue. We are who we are... we like what we like.... that makes us human first and foremost. This lifestyle incorporates alot of different aspects some we like, some we don't depending on our preferences. We just have to learn to be tolerant of others and yes that even includes the ones that belittle, say hateful things. We have right to ignore them and those who want to make drama in the threads. If we feed into it then we have just made their day/night. Giving them the attention they want. I am not saying that people who say hurtful things to me doesn't get to me but I try very hard to let it roll off my back, and ignore them. If I didn't try I would be an emotional wreck 24/7. This is not a perfect world. If it was lol it might be boring. After reading through this whole thread and ignoring the posts that are mean, most have had some really good and some really funny things to say, here. *Just my 2 cents worth, take it or leave it.*

angelicbitch -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 9:06:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bestbabync quote: ORIGINAL: akisha quote: ORIGINAL: bestbabync quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick So the OP resurrected their three-month old thread just to pick a fight with RedMagic and others??? Okayyyyyyyyyy. Cali i did not mean to pick a fight. but i do wonder why others are so abusive & hateful here. why do people find humor & comfort in insulting and demeaning others? i have found alot of friends here on CM, but the mean hateful people keep showing up more & more! i thought the thread got lost or something. i never recieved emails alerting me to all the post that carried into june. when i was changing/deleting my subscriptions, i found the thread with all the hateful post! If you don't like what people have to say you have to option not to read it. Pretty simple. You had to go looking for it to find it. A three month old thread would be burried probably 5 pages down the list by now. like i said, i posted my question seeking answers. i was inquisitive! i really wanted to know why someone would be so mean and abusive. also i thought the thread got deleted or lost. i found the thread today....i really would like to know why there is so much hate here! Why are people mean and abusive... because they are not happy with their own lives they have to make everyone around them just as miserable??? There isn't hate here. You posted a question and people can post as they chose. Its a public forum. Just because you don't like what is posted to a simple question doesn't make the people here or this site bad. Its an opinion.... simple as that. So you didn't get the responses that you wanted. Happens from time to time. But don't write off this site or the boards because of one incident. Peace Angelic

akisha -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 9:10:58 PM)
You'll find there is only alot of negative responses when the thread has been asked or repeated time again and again and again and again. Or if the OP has a decidedly negative tone. Alot of people tend to get really tired of the same thing being posted every 3 - 4 weeks. And the "Poor Poor me Fat sub" thread seems to be repeated more then others. I mean it really is rather narcissitic to assume just because someone is heavy and happy with themselves that every one should find them attractive. Hell I don't like short men. I jsut don't see anyone shorter then me as a possible match. Noarrow minded? sure, but it's my preference. Expecting dominant men, hell all men, to be attracted to heavy set or obese people is noarrow minded to. To ask why they are not.... Well think about it. Their reasons for not liking heavy women is the same reason why you don't like old men and I don't like short men PERSONAL PREFERENCE!!!!! Thank god everyone likes something difference or there would be alot of lonely friggin people in the world. My advice is quit beating a dead horse and move on. No one is going to suddenly say " OMG you are sooo right!!, What the hell was I thinking?" You are never going to get the responses you feel you deserve. Just put it behind you.

bestbabync -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 9:12:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelicbitch quote: ORIGINAL: bestbabync quote: ORIGINAL: akisha quote: ORIGINAL: bestbabync quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick So the OP resurrected their three-month old thread just to pick a fight with RedMagic and others??? Okayyyyyyyyyy. Cali i did not mean to pick a fight. but i do wonder why others are so abusive & hateful here. why do people find humor & comfort in insulting and demeaning others? i have found alot of friends here on CM, but the mean hateful people keep showing up more & more! i thought the thread got lost or something. i never recieved emails alerting me to all the post that carried into june. when i was changing/deleting my subscriptions, i found the thread with all the hateful post! If you don't like what people have to say you have to option not to read it. Pretty simple. You had to go looking for it to find it. A three month old thread would be burried probably 5 pages down the list by now. like i said, i posted my question seeking answers. i was inquisitive! i really wanted to know why someone would be so mean and abusive. also i thought the thread got deleted or lost. i found the thread today....i really would like to know why there is so much hate here! Why are people mean and abusive... because they are not happy with their own lives they have to make everyone around them just as miserable??? There isn't hate here. You posted a question and people can post as they chose. Its a public forum. Just because you don't like what is posted to a simple question doesn't make the people here or this site bad. Its an opinion.... simple as that. So you didn't get the responses that you wanted. Happens from time to time. But don't write off this site or the boards because of one incident. Peace Angelic angelic thank you so much for ur kind words! but i am not alone. this site is full of rude hateful people! i have recieved emails from others with the same feelings. when posting, why should anyone be insulted or demeaned for asking a question? this is a free site and a public forum. the only responses i found i did not like was the ones that was full insults or sarcassim.

bestbabync -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 9:21:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SensualPassion41 For the most part, my experience with the Dominants here has been positive. They have offered me guidance when I asked and encouraged me when I needed it. I have come across a few not so wonderful dominants here as well. We exchange an email or two and for one reason or another I dont feel they are the right one for me. Once I say that I get called every name they can think of. All they accomplish with that is giving me a good laugh and letting me know I made the right decision. I mean really, they contact me me first, saying how much we have in common and what a wonderful submissive I am. They tell me I am pretty and have beautiful. I say no and they call me every name they can think of and make a few up. I laugh and am thankful I said no. I then wonder, if they cannot control themselves...how can they control me?? Sensual i have found that the people that were rude & mean to you were not real. they are not genuine and do not deserve our second look. good luck to u!

bestbabync -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 9:26:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: akisha You'll find there is only alot of negative responses when the thread has been asked or repeated time again and again and again and again. Or if the OP has a decidedly negative tone. Alot of people tend to get really tired of the same thing being posted every 3 - 4 weeks. And the "Poor Poor me Fat sub" thread seems to be repeated more then others. I mean it really is rather narcissitic to assume just because someone is heavy and happy with themselves that every one should find them attractive. Hell I don't like short men. I jsut don't see anyone shorter then me as a possible match. Noarrow minded? sure, but it's my preference. Expecting dominant men, hell all men, to be attracted to heavy set or obese people is noarrow minded to. To ask why they are not.... Well think about it. Their reasons for not liking heavy women is the same reason why you don't like old men and I don't like short men PERSONAL PREFERENCE!!!!! Thank god everyone likes something difference or there would be alot of lonely friggin people in the world. My advice is quit beating a dead horse and move on. No one is going to suddenly say " OMG you are sooo right!!, What the hell was I thinking?" You are never going to get the responses you feel you deserve. Just put it behind you. then don't read it! noone makes anyone read every thread that is posted. and every thread posted is not going to interest everyone! why read the thread if u do not want to hear a narcissitic fat bitch whine? just my $.02!

Lucylastic -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 9:26:19 PM)
Yanno this is beginning to sound awful familiar Lucy[:'(]

KyttynTheMynx -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 9:50:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bestbabync this site is full of rude hateful people! (Then why play in the sandbox if you feel the others arent being nice?) i have recieved emails from others with the same feelings. (Did they stick around for the "abuse" or did they leave?) when posting, why should anyone be insulted or demeaned for asking a question? (From what I can see, you havent been insulted. No one has said "youre a dumbass, and your thread sucks", so yea...) this is a free site and a public forum. (YA GET WHAT YA PAY FOR!!!) the only responses i found i did not like was the ones that was full insults or sarcassim. (There are people who are sarcastic all over. Dont like it? Hide under a rock. Its something you need your big girl panties to deal with. The insults only bother you, if you let them. If you do, they WIN and SUCCEED in fucking up your shiny day.) Just my 2 cents worth of observations. Feel free to read, or disregard.

bestbabync -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 9:51:38 PM)
i think it is time for the rude people to stop! everyone is different. everyone has a right to post in a public forum. no one deserves to be made fun of, insulted or pushed to the side like their feelings do not matter. why can't we discuss & debate issues that are important to us without being demeaning & hurtful?

bestbabync -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 10:01:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KyttynTheMynx quote: ORIGINAL: bestbabync this site is full of rude hateful people! (Then why play in the sandbox if you feel the others arent being nice?) i have recieved emails from others with the same feelings. (Did they stick around for the "abuse" or did they leave?) when posting, why should anyone be insulted or demeaned for asking a question? (From what I can see, you havent been insulted. No one has said "youre a dumbass, and your thread sucks", so yea...) this is a free site and a public forum. (YA GET WHAT YA PAY FOR!!!) the only responses i found i did not like was the ones that was full insults or sarcassim. (There are people who are sarcastic all over. Dont like it? Hide under a rock. Its something you need your big girl panties to deal with. The insults only bother you, if you let them. If you do, they WIN and SUCCEED in fucking up your shiny day.) Just my 2 cents worth of observations. Feel free to read, or disregard. WOW!

bestbabync -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/16/2008 10:05:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bestbabync quote: ORIGINAL: KyttynTheMynx quote: ORIGINAL: bestbabync this site is full of rude hateful people! (Then why play in the sandbox if you feel the others arent being nice?) i have recieved emails from others with the same feelings. (Did they stick around for the "abuse" or did they leave?) when posting, why should anyone be insulted or demeaned for asking a question? (From what I can see, you havent been insulted. No one has said "youre a dumbass, and your thread sucks", so yea...) this is a free site and a public forum. (YA GET WHAT YA PAY FOR!!!) the only responses i found i did not like was the ones that was full insults or sarcassim. (There are people who are sarcastic all over. Dont like it? Hide under a rock. Its something you need your big girl panties to deal with. The insults only bother you, if you let them. If you do, they WIN and SUCCEED in fucking up your shiny day.) Just my 2 cents worth of observations. Feel free to read, or disregard. oh god! where do i start?...lol! i did not realize until today that this sandbox pretty much sucks! they are still members of CM, they just choose not to join in on the message boards due to the sarcassim and meanness. yes, several times i was told my thread sucked! exactly, this is a free site, i should have known! like i stated in one of my previous post, message boards, blogs and other forums is usually a great place to go to gain knowledge and helpful opinions of others that may have the same concerns or issues. too bad CM message boards are not one of those great places. i rather not have to weed out all the post that are rude and sarcasstic to find the post that are helpful. there are many other sites that this is not an issue.

WyldHrt -> RE: bbw submissives? (8/17/2008 4:30:09 AM)
Oh FFS! Please put on your big girl panties and deal, OP. I've read the posts before your page 4 temper tantrum and found them to be anything but rude, insulting, and/ or mean. Were some suggesting that this horse is dead, Jim? You betcha! That said, the overall response is better than I would expect for a subject so worn out. In particular, I found RedMagic's posts to be honest and in the spirit of helpfulness, as he most often is. Before you go off on me, I am by no one's definition "slender", yet I was not offended in the least by any of the posts made by people who prefer that body type. Why should I be? I don't like men shorter than I am, and I don't like skinny guys. That is my preference, so why would I want to deny others theirs? As to D types "using" BBWs for a quick lay, they cannot do that if we don't allow it, now can they? The Ds I see like me for who I am first. If that connection isn't there, then why bother? At the risk of being "mean/rude/insulting", I will suggest that a lot of your issues have more to do with your attitude than your weight. Having perved your profile, it really says nothing about who you are as a person, just stuff about your size and your preferred kink. It's no wonder that you are attracting the type of D that doesn't want to know who you are. disclaimer The above post came from a submissive, so feel free to disregard.

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