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RE: Orgasms and Other Things - 10/20/2005 4:52:04 PM   
swtnsparkling


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Status: offline 		This seems to be ridiculous. Just a Top never mentioned a name.
If I were blonde does that mean every time some makes a comment about blondes being stupid I'm offended? Gosh no
I am over weight so every time I hear, or read someone make a comment about overweight people being lazy and me being part of the overweight group do I feel offended, no. People can say whatever they want, but if my name is not specifically mentioned I've no reason to take offence.
someone, anyone, those, them, they, certain people, red, black or blue.
chill out


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RE: Orgasms and Other Things - 10/20/2005 4:56:02 PM   
thetammyjo


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ORIGINAL: Kasia

If I dont have sex with orgasms regulary I turn into arguing bitch. But thats me.
If you are happy without orgasms who am I to judge you? I may internally think its ok or not ok, but I am happy as long as you are happy. And I am never shocked, I may be disgusted with something but never shocked.
I think I have seen too much in my life to be shocked with anything anymore. In fact I find being shocked and showing it equals being rude.


This said it was in reply to me but I actually always orgasm, usually multiple times, when I have sex.

I just don't focus on it and it comes much more easily and happily. I didn't intend for the post to suggest otherwise.

The key for me is to relax.

I am the mistress, afterall, and it is (at least in my relationships) all about me especially if its involving sex

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RE: Orgasms and Other Things - 10/20/2005 5:39:36 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		Now hold on there, cowboy. You've been here all of two weeks and are already prepared to typecast everyone on this site?

Why don't you take a breath of fresh air, put on some thicker skin (commensurate with the controversial things you like to say), remember that this is the anonymous internet, and stay here if you enjoy participating--or not, if you don't.

quote:

ORIGINAL: JustaTop

Evanesnce,I am used to this by now in this "'community". The self centered and generally hedonsitic attitudes encourage it.

They hear what they want to hear,and adore creating drama. Lives would be horribly boring without something to be offended by. Let me put it this way, for anyone choosing to be offended by something I have to say in the future-if I didn't say your name-I wasn't discussing YOU.

Get over yourselves,you aren't as important as you think you are.



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RE: Orgasms and Other Things - 10/20/2005 6:05:00 PM   
IronBear


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Now hold on there, cowboy. You've been here all of two weeks and are already prepared to typecast everyone on this site?

Why don't you take a breath of fresh air, put on some thicker skin (commensurate with the controversial things you like to say), remember that this is the anonymous internet, and stay here if you enjoy participating--or not, if you don't.

quote:

ORIGINAL: JustaTop

Evanesnce,I am used to this by now in this "'community". The self centered and generally hedonsitic attitudes encourage it.

They hear what they want to hear,and adore creating drama. Lives would be horribly boring without something to be offended by. Let me put it this way, for anyone choosing to be offended by something I have to say in the future-if I didn't say your name-I wasn't discussing YOU.

Get over yourselves,you aren't as important as you think you are.




Hey Lam,

You got the horses and rope ready for the roundup and the large branding iron white hot yet????


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RE: Orgasms and Other Things - 10/20/2005 8:42:16 PM   
OscarHargraves


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Status: offline 		Very few of us have an orgasm every time we have sex. Like IB, I too enjoy bringing my Sub to her knees with pleasure. Whether or not we have penetration sex is not important.

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RE: Orgasms and Other Things - 10/20/2005 9:37:40 PM   
KittenWithaTwist


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ORIGINAL: Sensualips

I am guilty of being a bit orgasm-obsessed. But not my own - his. Although I cognitively am aware that orgasm may or may not be that important (depending in the indivdual) and that that is not the focus (or even a part) of play, I still fret over it from an an emotional standpoint. I think it is a measurable concrete way of feeling like you did a "good job." I was married to a man for 13 years that I could make orgasm quickly and frequently, so the change is hard for me to cope with and still feel everone is fully satisfied with the experience.

Yeah yeah. I am working on it.


I went through this as well when my relationship with my current partner began. I thought I was a failure because I could not come to orgasm through the same means. I felt selfish because it took a special effort to make me orgasm separately from intercourse, when it never used to. I can tell you that as you come to realize that it's not as important, you'll stop fretting so much about it (that is, if you choose to go this route).

However, sometimes I'll still freak out a bit if my partner does not orgasm. He can't, always, because he's diabetic and his blood sugar gets very low (esp during just-woken-up sex), but it will still make me feel a bit sad, like I've failed. We may think that it's a, as you put it, "measurable way of feeling you did a good job" but when other factors are a concern, it really isn't at all.

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RE: Orgasms and Other Things - 10/20/2005 10:55:10 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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was taught and is one of the most powerfull is to orgasm internally. The energy release is not blown into the æther about you but remains inside. It is a mind blowing experience


oh god is it ever. My mate rubs my skin with his nails and stuff and the resulting explosion of energy and sensations is my orgasim. Better than an orgasim. It don't have the same trauma asociated as sex does, and I am not sticky or endanger of getting pregnant lol

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RE: Orgasms and Other Things - 10/21/2005 1:22:25 AM   
CaliforniaSlave


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Status: offline 		Does anyone know a male slave who's given up orgasm forever, the rest of his life?

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RE: Orgasms and Other Things - 10/21/2005 1:28:47 AM   
IronBear


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ORIGINAL: CaliforniaSlave

Does anyone know a male slave who's given up orgasm forever, the rest of his life?


I know one kajirus who is trying to but we both agree that forever is a long time and for liofe is a variable since he could die in a car accident tonight or live to reach tripple figures... People change so i honestly cant see someone doing that unless he was one of the .0001% of the population who is probably and extremely advanced adept and a Master of his arts too.

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RE: Orgasms and Other Things - 10/21/2005 9:47:13 AM   
Kasia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kasia

If I dont have sex with orgasms regulary I turn into arguing bitch. But thats me.
If you are happy without orgasms who am I to judge you? I may internally think its ok or not ok, but I am happy as long as you are happy. And I am never shocked, I may be disgusted with something but never shocked.
I think I have seen too much in my life to be shocked with anything anymore. In fact I find being shocked and showing it equals being rude.


This said it was in reply to me but I actually always orgasm, usually multiple times, when I have sex.

I just don't focus on it and it comes much more easily and happily. I didn't intend for the post to suggest otherwise.

The key for me is to relax.

I am the mistress, afterall, and it is (at least in my relationships) all about me especially if its involving sex

No Tammyjoe, I am sorry, obviously I hit the wrong reply button. The reply was actually to OP as my opinion on orgasms and people being shocked with people not having them, not to you.

And as she said, this is not a thread about women who are having orgasms and men who are incapable of dealing with that, but about something else. I apologize for hijacking.

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RE: Orgasms and Other Things - 10/21/2005 3:29:21 PM   
pinkpleasures


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I've always been highly amused when I hear people talking in lowered voices and in a state of shock about others not having orgasms. Orgasms are great when and if they occure. Personally, it's like penetration, it is the icing on the cake and nothing more. from a diabetic view too much icing is not good. However for more years than I care to remember, I've practiced as part of my Pagan Faith, sex magick in a wide variety of ways including kundalina and other tantric practices. One of the earliest techniques I was taught and is one of the most powerfull is to orgasm internally. The energy release is not blown into the æther about you but remains inside. It is a mind blowing experience and according to my partnets it is extraordinary for them too. Outside the Lifestyle, I get more fun out of pleasing a partrner and bringing her not just to orgasm, but to submission. If I use penetrative sex it's just for my fun after but really not very important, I have what I want - a woman on her knees, nakid and willing to do my bidding.

IronBear


Can You do this long-distance, LOL?

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