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Slave Life - 5/14/2008 6:41:09 PM   
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I am going to be moving into a new condo, and, theres an ideal area where i can "seal" off, which gets heat/ac and is connected to the bathroom with shower. Its a perfect area where i can get some plastic and seal it off, and have plenty of room to do whatever i need to do.

Anyways, what my main concern is that I want her to be in that particular room/enclosed area as much as possible. But, theres some conflicts/concerns:

I work 3rd shift, and, she will go to college and/or work. So when i leave for work, she will be there alone, My plan was to have a IP based webcam so i can keep an eye on her. She can get up and get herself ready for work and school. When she gets home, i will dress her and she can go back into the area. But, how much time should she have outside that area? Are there times/situations where she should be in the living room, kitchen, etc? How often should I go in the room with her?

I plan to allow tv/laptop in there, so, she has things to do. But, do i do everything alone? Sleep, watch tv, eat, etc, or, go into the room with her, or, have her come out with me?

I was going to have a catsuit as a uniform, maybe a hood, depending, so her wearing that outside the room may not be do-able, as, i dont want to have to crank the AC for the entire condo.

So, from a SLAVE/SUBS point of view, do you have a situation like this? What can you recommend to me? Im pretty open to ideas and such, but, i want to make the experience ideal for her, but also, i want our relationship to still be strong without doing everything seperate.

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RE: Slave Life - 5/14/2008 6:46:44 PM   
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It really depends.  It sounds like you mostly want her to be a puppy that you don't have to take outside to poop and put in pretty outfits.
 
That's great if you want it, but you'd have to make sure your expectations were the same as if she were just a puppy and that she's fulfilled in that position.


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RE: Slave Life - 5/14/2008 7:03:21 PM   
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I'd go insane. I didn't submit to Valyraen to not be with him. I can't fathom myself being happy in a relationship where we don't watch movies together and just hang out. Heck, even our computers are less than three feet away from each other so when we are in our own little gaming zones we are still together.

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RE: Slave Life - 5/14/2008 7:52:58 PM   
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You seem to have it planned out pretty well but, a lot of times plans don't work out the way you thought.  So, my only recommendation would be to keep an open mind to being flexible and making adjustments to your plan, if and when needed.  After all, it's true that "The best-laid plans of mice and men often go awry..."
 
As for my situation, my service to my Master requires that i be able to move throughout the house and yard, especially the kitchen, the laundry room and to be able to take the big dog outside regularly.  So, being kept in a room for long periods of time would defeat one of the primary purposes for me being here.  There are times when He likes to put me in a cage but, not on a regular basis.
 
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RE: Slave Life - 5/14/2008 8:46:31 PM   
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So, basically you want to be the guy we read about in the paper that kidnapped a girl and kept her locked in a secret room for years, except that you want her to be in there willingly.  As you put your plan into action, consider that should she decide after a period of time that she is unhappy with the arrangement, it would look very bad for you should she decide to go to the authorities.  Even letting her out to work wouldn't absolve you, because of the psychological implications of the situation.

Just a little something to think about.

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RE: Slave Life - 5/14/2008 8:48:40 PM   
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So what happens when the treatment makes her crack and go screaming to the cops?
 
Got any plans for THAT one?

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RE: Slave Life - 5/14/2008 8:50:28 PM   
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Maybe I am missing something, but why keep a submissive who you restrict to one rom in your home? How exactly is she suposed to serve? There are tons of people into the caged idea, but if I am going to be keeping someone they are going to be useful around the house. Fox does chores, and keeps me company. I coudlnt imagine him ever being separated. I dont see a point to a reationship like that, nor how it COULD be strong. I can see short fantasies about what you propose, scenes for days or so... but long term, youd never be able to build anything with someone who is essentialy a caged bird.

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RE: Slave Life - 5/14/2008 9:06:40 PM   
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It would kill me to be kept seperate from my owner.  But that's me. If she (and you) want to be in that arrangement, well, it's your lives.  Personally, a room like that sounds perfect for a 'play room' with the bathroom close, and the abilities to tune it (making it unbarably hot or cold for some sessions for instance) and so on, plus, secluded, so as to be kept closed when your parents or siblings visit.....

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RE: Slave Life - 5/14/2008 9:11:38 PM   
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Hmmmm.... what would I recommend.  For starters... a reality check.  Seriously.

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RE: Slave Life - 5/15/2008 3:52:48 AM   
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[So, from a SLAVE/SUBS point of view, do you have a situation like this? What can you recommend to me?]

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RE: Slave Life - 5/15/2008 4:34:16 AM   
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Try a goldfish instead, they are cheaper, look better behind glass and if something goes awry--you might get your money back.

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RE: Slave Life - 5/15/2008 5:28:12 AM   
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*shakes head*

stuck in a homemade plastic room all day while you're watching from webcams ...uh huh ...yeah right - need to stop reading literotica.com and re-think this in reality. 

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RE: Slave Life - 5/15/2008 5:30:30 AM   
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I think you should find a submissive who is willing to live this way.....and then worry about the details.

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RE: Slave Life - 5/15/2008 5:43:49 AM   
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Per usual on here, I get some good replies, some constructive criticism, and others who just want to post sarcasm.

My plan isnt to keep her there 24/7... as, id get bored and lonely, and have no companionship. So yes, I may have her do work like wash dishes or get the trash ready to be taken out, etc.... Also, we wouldnt be sleeping together much, as, id be working while shed be sleeping, so the few times we can, id have her sleep n my bed or id come in there with her, etc...

I am seeing someone who is willing and ready to try this. We’ve done things like this in the past and various other activities, but, we both want to get more "long term" instead of just playing around.

Its going to be trial and error. If something dosent work, then, we can forgo it. If we find something we both like and we havent done it yet, we can try it. Im not going to set a contract in stone, when, I havent even tested the waters, so to speak.

Thanks to all who provided me with mature answers or sound advise.

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RE: Slave Life - 5/15/2008 6:28:38 AM   
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You want to know why you are getting so many snarky answers... its simple.  You sound like someone who has read way too much online fantasy, had little or no actual experience and is asking questions most people with actual experience would never ask.  In short, its more than a little difficult to take you seriously... and apparently you're the only one who doesn't see that.  I'm not trying to be cruel by saying so, you asked and that's an honest answer.

You want some more honest answers to your questions... read on.

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But, how much time should she have outside that area?

How should we know?  Its your life and her life... what works for the two of you?

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Are there times/situations where she should be in the living room, kitchen, etc?

Again, how should we know?  It depends on what the two of you want. 

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How often should I go in the room with her?

Ummm... as often as you want to... you're the dom. 

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I plan to allow tv/laptop in there, so, she has things to do. But, do i do everything alone?

If you want to... or not... what do you want?

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 Sleep, watch tv, eat, etc, or, go into the room with her, or, have her come out with me?

What do you want? 

You act as though there's some universal manual for how to do this... there isn't.  You seem to expect us to tell you as a dominant how to run your relationship... we aren't going to.  You describe this as a relationship, but what you describe sounds like functionally its not a relationship at all... and to some it comes across as more than a lil creepy.  Creepy doesn't bother me... but the fact that you seem to be casting about for instructions on how to make your fantasy work does concern me.  I'm left with the impression that you have very little actual experience with what you are attempting and perhaps with relationships in general.  Do you understand how dysfunctional this sounds?

Again, none of that is meant to be snarky, mean or cruel.  You asked questions, the above are honest answers.  If you still can't handle that commentary, my advice is stop asking questions of strangers.

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RE: Slave Life - 5/15/2008 7:44:35 AM   
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Sometimes the fantasy we have in our heads is not what will the reality be. I have freedom throughout the house, come and go as I want. He doesn't have a cam to watch me as he trusts me to do things. It is hard for someone to serve from just one room in the house. I work and have horses to tend to and he works. We have a relationship not an arrangement to be a robotic slave.

I'm sure you could find someone to live this way but please think about all the implications on everyone involved before you try to carry it through.

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RE: Slave Life - 5/15/2008 4:47:04 PM   
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As a sub/slave i would have to say   ...   boring!!!!       I'd go out of my tree if you stuck me in a small area and didn't let me out.  I hope your prospective sub isn't very bright, so she will be able to stand the monotony.

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RE: Slave Life - 5/15/2008 5:34:32 PM   
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If you are seeing someone who is willing to give this a try, then why not ask her what she thinks time frames should be for your sharing tim,e how much in-the-room time she thinks she could tolerate and how much wandering time she wil need. She is the one you will be restricting, after all, so her input is vital to make it work.
What works for you might not work for us, and what has worked for us might not work for you, even if it was dealing with a similiar situation. If you are going ot have someone specific move in and try this, then do trials. Say, one day first, see how it goes. Then, try 2, then three. See what your threshhold is for haivng her put away, and what hers is for being comfortable in the situation. You get your limit that way, and then you work from there.
When you initialy presented it, you made it sound more like an erotic fantasy than something you were actualy looking ot try with a partner already in mind. You might find it works terribly in reality and that that room turns into a rather good playroom rather than a seclusion room.

See what works and run with it.

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RE: Slave Life - 5/15/2008 7:14:55 PM   
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   This is nothing that would appeal to me...presumably she's interested in this kind of set-up, but I frankly can't imagine why this would be an attractive idea to a woman...

    That being said-let me address your concerns. You say "She will go to college and/or work." This indicated to me she is currently doing neither and you intend to make her do one or the other? Good luck with that. Anyways. When I went to college and worked, I had about zero free time to be locked in a room. I spent all my free time sleeping. So, unless she's sleeping in that room, she probably won't be spending that much time there.

  Why do you need to keep an eye on her? Sure, I can understand watching a girl in a pretty uniform, however, I also kind of worry that you are intending to LOCK this room. That's a terrible idea. What if someone breaks into your apartment while she's there? What if something catches on fire? I consider that the same as leaving someone in any kind of bondage-dangerous and possibly illegal. 

 But, how much time should she have outside that area? Again, I don't understand why having your slave in this plasticed-in living room instead of the real living room would be any more sexy. Is it supposed to be like a cage, or something?

  Are there times/situations where she should be in the living room, kitchen, etc? I reckon that depends on how fond you are of doing dishes, laundry, mopping floors yourself. If you really like doing those, well, your slave never needs to be out of the room at all! If not, then your girl should be let out to do those things. She'll be fitting the chores in between the schooling, working, studying, and presumably, time spent with you.

   How often should I go in the room with her? If I wanted to live alone, I would do so without some random jerk coming in and leaving crumbs on the bed, hogging the bathroom, farting, and generally being a guy. If I wanted to live with my master, I'd want to spend time with him. I'd want to cuddle while watching TV and to greet him when he gets home and cook dinners with him, etc. How often should you go in the room? Depends on how much you like her-if you hate her and she smells, well, keeping her in the locked and sealed room is brilliant!

I plan to allow tv/laptop in there, so, she has things to do. Why not give her something...useful to do? Honestly, if I had a slave locked in a room in my house, that bitch would be making sneakers. Or floggers. Or knitting me sweaters. Or doing something productive other than sitting on her ass eating cheetos and watching TV (since eating and vegging out were two of her only three options).


But, do i do everything alone? Sleep, watch tv, eat, etc, or, go into the room with her, or, have her come out with me?  Again, it depends on how much you hate her.

I was going to have a catsuit as a uniform, maybe a hood, depending, so her wearing that outside the room may not be do-able, as, i dont want to have to crank the AC for the entire condo. Why couldn't she wear this outside of the room? Do you still live with your parents? Hers?

So, from a SLAVE/SUBS point of view, do you have a situation like this? What can you recommend to me? I would recommend you try  more restrictive bondage for shorter periods of time. Keep her locked in a cage for some of the precious hours you have together.

     Im pretty open to ideas and such, but, i want to make the experience ideal for her, but also, i want our relationship to still be strong without doing everything seperate. Again, I can't imagine what ideal you could be referring to? Being caged is one thing...but what you're thinking doesn't seem to follow those lines. Perhaps if you explained more of what you were thinking we could get a clearer picture of the realities of your idea.


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RE: Slave Life - 5/15/2008 7:44:41 PM   
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This is nothing that would appeal to me...presumably she's interested in this kind of set-up, but I frankly can't imagine why this would be an attractive idea to a woman...

   That being said-let me address your concerns. You say "She will go to college and/or work." This indicated to me she is currently doing neither and you intend to make her do one or the other? Good luck with that. Anyways. When I went to college and worked, I had about zero free time to be locked in a room. I spent all my free time sleeping. So, unless she's sleeping in that room, she probably won't be spending that much time there.

She currently is enrolled in college and just finished her 3rd year. She also works, but, is looking to find a different job with more hours. She will be returning to school in september. I made it out to be she would be in this room 24/7, obviously, if shes working, going to school, she wont be.

  Why do you need to keep an eye on her? Sure, I can understand watching a girl in a pretty uniform, however, I also kind of worry that you are intending to LOCK this room. That's a terrible idea. What if someone breaks into your apartment while she's there? What if something catches on fire? I consider that the same as leaving someone in any kind of bondage-dangerous and possibly illegal.

Well, ive always wanted to set up an ip based webcam to try it. Im a tech guy, so, id love to see it actually work. But, it really isnt for bondage use, mainly because we wont be seeing  alot of each other and i can easily be reminded of her. I wont have much time to do so while at work anyways. And no, i absolutly dont intend to keep this room locked, esp if im gone.

 But, how much time should she have outside that area? Again, I don't understand why having your slave in this plasticed-in living room instead of the real living room would be any more sexy. Is it supposed to be like a cage, or something?

It would be like a cage, but, a lot more free space. And dont think of it like the plastic your parents might use on a couch... i wanted to try and do something like you see in movies, where theres some bioharzard going around and they go into this steril room.... but, i could easily find other materials. I may simply use curtins with rails.

  Are there times/situations where she should be in the living room, kitchen, etc? I reckon that depends on how fond you are of doing dishes, laundry, mopping floors yourself. If you really like doing those, well, your slave never needs to be out of the room at all! If not, then your girl should be let out to do those things. She'll be fitting the chores in between the schooling, working, studying, and presumably, time spent with you.

Id want her to help with dishes, cleaning up, etc. I prefer cooking and doing a few things myself, but, id def like her to help out. So yes i do plan on having her do things.

   How often should I go in the room with her? If I wanted to live alone, I would do so without some random jerk coming in and leaving crumbs on the bed, hogging the bathroom, farting, and generally being a guy. If I wanted to live with my master, I'd want to spend time with him. I'd want to cuddle while watching TV and to greet him when he gets home and cook dinners with him, etc. How often should you go in the room? Depends on how much you like her-if you hate her and she smells, well, keeping her in the locked and sealed room is brilliant!

5 days out of the week, we wouldnt be sleeping together, so, the 2 days we can, id fully intend to have her be with me. I like her  alot and she dosent smell, so, no worries there!

I plan to allow tv/laptop in there, so, she has things to do. Why not give her something...useful to do? Honestly, if I had a slave locked in a room in my house, that bitch would be making sneakers. Or floggers. Or knitting me sweaters. Or doing something productive other than sitting on her ass eating cheetos and watching TV (since eating and vegging out were two of her only three options).

Well, im not cleaning the bathroom and kitchen everyday so, sometimes, there isnt a lot to do. She should be able to have time to talk to her friends, go online, e-mail, etc... as well as watch tv shows.  Most things like shopping, going to a movie, and other activities, we do together. If she wanted to go to get some milk or something at the store, that would be fine. I certainly understand people need time for them too.

I was going to have a catsuit as a uniform, maybe a hood, depending, so her wearing that outside the room may not be do-able, as, i dont want to have to crank the AC for the entire condo. Why couldn't she wear this outside of the room? Do you still live with your parents? Hers?

No, its just us, but, if i keep the upstairs cool (where she is) downstairs, it may not be as cool. I dont want her being uncomfortable and getting all hot. Ive been in a catsuit before, and, they can get really hot and uncomfortable.

So, from a SLAVE/SUBS point of view, do you have a situation like this? What can you recommend to me? I would recommend you try more restrictive bondage for shorter periods of time. Keep her locked in a cage for some of the precious hours you have together.

We've done a lot of short term bondage before, and experimented with most of the things i wanna do long term. I was never a fan of a cage, as, its almost too restrictive. I liked the idea better of an "open area" so to speak, that we can do a lot in bondage wise.

     Im pretty open to ideas and such, but, i want to make the experience ideal for her, but also, i want our relationship to still be strong without doing everything seperate. Again, I can't imagine what ideal you could be referring to? Being caged is one thing...but what you're thinking doesn't seem to follow those lines. Perhaps if you explained more of what you were thinking we could get a clearer picture of the realities of your idea.

Im terrible at explaining my thoughts and feelings, so, im sure thats why its coming out bad. Again, i almost want it to simulate a cage, but, i want more room to be able to do bondage, or, where she can stand up and walk around, use the bathroom, etc... See my other responses, and, i think it may clear up a few things,



To answer someone elses question/insult, no, i dont read any online fantasy books, novels or stories. I have a unique imagination, and, sometimes its a bit twisted, other times, ill have an idea for a few days and relize, its nothing more then a fantasy.


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