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I'd be volunteering all over the vanilla world working towards feeling like I mattered like I did till 7 months ago as my need to serve and concern myself with others joy is too strong to ignore….orig: plantlady64

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Our life would be different in that some of the incredible people that we've met through this way of life would probably not be known to us, including some of the people who have lived in service with us…being a part of the BDSM community has enabled us to learn about techniques and philosophies that have enriched our scope and breadth of understanding ourselves and the individuals with whom we share a life….orig: LadiesBladewing

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The D/s community has brought friends, opportunities and acceptance. The drive I had was strong and D/s provides a structured outlet with all the security and confidence building that belonging to a group that I respect can create….orig:ExistentialSteel

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In many ways, I think my life would be so much simpler without BDSM. I wouldn't spend nights questioning myself, looking down on myself for having horrible dreams about violence and abuse in sexual situations. I might not consider myself weird and crazy….orig:KittenWithaTwist

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I would not have a sexual life.
Or, perhaps, I would have a very inactive sexual life….orig: perverseangelic

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Call it whatever you want, BDSM and this 'lifestyle' have given me back my sanity and let me be me, not what someone else thinks I should be….orig: OscarHargraves

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If we had never learned of BDSM, we would probably never have found each other. It was only because we had each discovered BDSM that we were able to put a name on what it is we were seeking and and proactively seek out our complimentary partners….Both of us, upon discovering BDSM, realized that there were others out there who felt similarly and chose to seek fulfillment among our own kind….orig: domtimothy46176

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I've never put much stock into any sort of "community". Most bdsm ones I have seen have more politics and backstabbing than a junior high school-and about as much emotional maturity….orig:JustaTop

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

Until 2000, this slave lived a “vanilla” life; expressions of this slave’s “kink” were reserved for fantasies and one night stands ONLY, as it always seemed to wreak havoc in a vanilla setting. Expressions of this slave’s submission were as common as breathing and permeated this slave’s entire life, however, this slave had never been in a relationship with a Dom.

this slave made a conscious decision to spend a year or two of being single, not even dating, just working through past trauma, educating this slave about herself and defining goals so hopefully this slave could be a positive part of a healthy relationship at some point. After 3 years this slave came to the realization of a few things, and three of them are:

1. What defines a meaningful relationship to this slave is, more often than not, in sharp contrast to the definition that this slave’s society deems acceptable, moral and/or legal. However, this slave couldn’t care less about social acceptance.

2. Outside of the realm of a D/s relationship, this slave is NOT cut out for ANY intimate sexual relationships and had she not discovered wiitwd she would remain single and celibate with masturbatory leanings.

3. This slave is not just a physical being, but a spiritual one as well.

This slave was unaware of such a thing as a D/s relationship, and upon discovery, researched it as much as possible over the internet. It seemed to be just the thing this slave was made for. It appealed to this slave physically, emotionally, mentally and after prayer and meditation, spiritually. After meeting Master, becoming His slave and meeting and interacting with many others involved in D/s and/or M/s relationships, it has only strengthened her convictions.

Being in a Master/slave relationship has made a HUGE difference in the quality of this slave’s relationships(yes, ALL of them), in her ability to serve and in the fulfillment of her spiritual purpose.

Now the question:

How would YOUR life be different, if there were no B, D, S or M in it?

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
How would YOUR life be different, if there were no B, D, S or M in it?

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ORIGINAL: JustaTop

Ultimately,the best matches come from a strong inner core knowledge.

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Overall there is ONE distinction that takes it beyond that to me. That people involved in a relationship manage to SUCCESSFULLY integrate an overall structure that works in a benficial manner, in thier day to day lives. If it only leads to failure-it's still in the fantasy realm.