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RE: Being found out - 5/15/2008 11:23:46 PM   
ballerinaboy


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Status: offline 		Well,I think if youre with any partner for any length of time,you WILL get found out,as its impossible to keep your kink to yourself forever....its "ruined" a couple of previous vanilla relationships I had,consequently I now realise Im much better looking for a partner that is already kinked up themselves...then we can reveal the shocking truth to each other!!

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RE: Being found out - 5/15/2008 11:43:55 PM   
GreedyTop


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From: Savannah, GA
Status: offline 		*runs to google MasterFire*

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RE: Being found out - 5/15/2008 11:53:12 PM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		great site, Master Fire..:)

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RE: Being found out - 5/16/2008 12:06:15 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		cmail, Master Fire :)


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RE: Being found out - 5/16/2008 12:19:48 AM   
Skully7000


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

I'm out on a national level. If you google Master Fire, my website pops up on the first page. If you google my given name (the name the employers would have), the first 19 hits are me, most dealing with my lifestyle related book (Hey! It's for sale on ebay! I've made it BIG time!), but some dealing with my professional life (before returning to school). So, it's going to depend on how openminded or how little places care about my personal life. If they care and don't want me because of it, I'm better off not being hired at all.

Master Fire



my scene name is really just a nickname (which is based off my real name) and i've had it since I was barely in highschool.

I have the opposite problem:
but both my real name and my nickname are so "common" that its almost impossible to find me via Google without adding in a few choice nuggets of additional information.

Cheers
Skully

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RE: Being found out - 5/16/2008 12:48:16 AM   
BBWnNC72


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Joined: 6/22/2007
From: NC since Jan of 2007, but born and raised in Cali
Status: offline 		i googled the name i use on here. Lord, there is alot of stuff. It includes some postings i have done on here, it includes names of others from here that have posted before or after me.  It also has one of my aol screen names i use and even a list of my buddies on said aol screen name. 
my mom knows, doesn't care, says to each their own. my ex found out, that was difficult to deal with, to him, i was sick and twisted, there were threats regarding the kids but all i did was remind him of the shit i have on him from his past, that stopped that in its tracks.  One of my co-workers found me on CM by brousing one day, but hell, if he was looking, then who is he to judge?

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RE: Being found out - 5/16/2008 5:03:01 AM   
born4serving


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Joined: 8/18/2007
Status: offline 		i work in the legal profession and i thought just that when i first uploaded my picture.  It could be a problem with people who are on the oppossing side to me when i am in court. nevertheless, i am actually proud because i have not done anything wrong and if anyone does find my picture on some of these BDSM sites, its only because they have some interest in them, and perhaps i could open up with them in this lifestyle.

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RE: Being found out - 5/16/2008 5:15:35 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Oh no! Now Im going to have to stop useing Dnomyar. I don't think that I will have to much trouble with it because even I can't pronounce it.

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RE: Being found out - 5/16/2008 8:34:59 PM   
mztresn0w


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Status: offline 		I don't hide who I am. I have ran into so many people that I know at certain events. That it isn't a big worry for me. I don't boardcast it but if anyone is around for very long they figure it out.

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RE: Being found out - 5/16/2008 8:39:23 PM   
Real_Trouble


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quote:

ORIGINAL: born4serving

i work in the legal profession and i thought just that when i first uploaded my picture.  It could be a problem with people who are on the oppossing side to me when i am in court. nevertheless, i am actually proud because i have not done anything wrong and if anyone does find my picture on some of these BDSM sites, its only because they have some interest in them, and perhaps i could open up with them in this lifestyle.


You would be surprised how many lawyers are into this kind of thing.

On second thought, maybe you wouldn't be surprised, but it would surprise a lot of people.

In fact, I'd suspect they are only behind doctors, investment bankers, and priests.

Yeah, I went there.

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RE: Being found out - 5/16/2008 8:55:26 PM   
bipolarber


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Joined: 9/25/2004
Status: offline 		Oh, members of my family already have Googled me, found my usual net nickname, and have put two and two together. I could not possibly care less! I'm 46, my wife knows, my house is 100% paid off, and I only have to work part time to make ends meet. If my boss wants to fire me because my wife and I are open, or that we like a little hanky spanky now and then, well... all I can say is, "good luck finding someone to do my job for the wages you pay me."

Oh, and to my shithead brother in law Duane, (who was the first to Google me, and attempted to emotionally blackmail me in front of my family during a vist back home for my Father's funeral...and who is probably still getting his jollies keeping tabs on my life [which is far more interesting than his])... I just want to say this to you...

Grow the fuck up already!

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RE: Being found out - 5/16/2008 10:34:53 PM   
azropedntied


Posts: 1829
Joined: 7/25/2005
From: Phx AZ
Status: offline 		I shall Never tell , you may have to beat me ,but i shall never tell

quote:

ORIGINAL: mztresn0w

I don't hide who I am. I have ran into so many people that I know at certain events. That it isn't a big worry for me. I don't boardcast it but if anyone is around for very long they figure it out.

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RE: Being found out - 5/16/2008 10:51:55 PM   
hizgeorgiapeach


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quote:

ORIGINAL: tiara2000

What would you do if your Vanilla Relationships found out about your non-vanilla life?  Is it possible for this to happen and how possible?  How do you feel?

Can a potential employer/interviewer do a 'name-search' and find the many diverse incarnations of you on the web?  Is there a Profiles-R-Us or Man-hunt database for the Human Resource Department to view for prospects now or could there be in future?  Do you feel your rights being stretched to the limit?  Will you be hire-able?  Will anyone?




What's a vanilla relationship?  Seriously - all of my friends, most of my casual aquaintances, all of my family that I'm still in contact with - already Know about my Kink activities.  They're either involved in kink themselves, don't care what I do in my private time, or their opinions don't make a lickshit of difference to me anyway.  They either accept me as I am - tattooed, pierced, with blue and purple streaks in my hair (though sometimes green or fireengine red, depending on my mood) and an uninhibited slut who revels in her sensuality - or they can kiss my rosey red buttcheeks on their way right out of my life.
 
Since I own and run my own company, of which I'm the only employee, I also don't have to worry about  being "outted" at work.  The boss is a kinky slut who's covered in tattoos and piercings, and takes entire days off a couple of times a month specifically to have all day beating sessions with playpartners and then get screwed blue.  If she's gonna get pissy, she's gotta look in the mirror to do so!  (Trust me, I Have bitched myself out in the mirror a few times prior to coffee and whilst hungover.)  The customers for my business are just that - customers, not relationships, and what I do in my private life has no bearing on the quality of product that I produce.  If they feel oddly about doing business with a woman who has multiple tattoos and a few piercings that they'll never see since they aren't facial - there are plenty of other people who have no qualms with it, which my business growth over the past 6 months has proven to me.

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RE: Being found out - 5/17/2008 5:04:56 AM   
ScorpGirl444


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Status: offline 		A friend of mine in college got me one of those Spencers kinky kits for my birthday one year.  I can't remember if she knew or just thought it would be funny...
Anyways.  I came home from college for break and apparently had this whip in one of my bags.  My mother's beagle opened my bag and took it out and was chewing on it.
Well I come home and my mother has the whip on the kitchen table.  I look at it and immediately think, OMG, what is she going to say?  My mother isn't into anything alternative.  She doesn't understand alot of my interests and therefore gets mad because she automatically doesn't like them.
Well I walk in and she says to me...what is this?  I say, C* thought it was funny and got it for my birthday.  She's like...are you sure you're not a dominatrix?  I said, no mom, I can assure you that I am *not* a dominatrix.  Of course she didn't know that she just had it completely backwards. 

Other than that, if I feel like someone needs to know I'll tell them.  I had two friends at work who knew because there was one day I came in and we were talking in my office.  I went to sit down and gave a small wince.  Nothing I thought was too much and they both looked at me like...what did he do to you?  I said it was nothing like they thought and they persisted.  It went on for hours until I finally said, OK, you want to know?  So, I came out with it very slowly.  One didn't quite get it but said she wasn't going to judge me.  The other just thought I was crazy and laughed and said, whatever you want to do.  We're still friends.  They don't judge anything I do.

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RE: Being found out - 5/17/2008 9:18:01 PM   
unbroken33


Posts: 56
Joined: 2/19/2007
Status: offline 		i'll never forget the day it happened.  Oh well.

What's real interesting is running into co-workers on here.  i'm 99.95% certain i have been secretly outed at work...  Don't really much care about that either. 

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RE: Being found out - 5/17/2008 11:57:42 PM   
azropedntied


Posts: 1829
Joined: 7/25/2005
From: Phx AZ
Status: offline 		I always found that interesting - the OMG  what if someone i know see's me at the fetish ball  thing . If they see you  they too are there ,hello now you have even more in common with them . Perhaps it's just me , maybe its me getting  older and not caring who knows , or what they think of the real me .I am a BDSMer  shouts it loud n proud 

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