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BarbarianKnight -> For those who are new or relatively new to the lifestyle (5/15/2008 8:05:54 PM)
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Many women find the idea of being bound, spanked, sexually teased, and giving up erotic control to another very highly arousing. Thus they being to explore what the lifestyle is all about, or maybe they have experienced something similar in the past, and like a dream that will never go away, it reappears in their mind and fantasy's
Those who have experienced some level of play be it as light as a boyfriend who passing by gives his girlfriend a playful swat on the ass, can leave a lasting impression and set off a trigger in her emotionally.
This often increases their need for more, and to explore more.
I remember when I first experienced the lifestyle, it was a scene of just light bondage, her hands were tired behind her back, a blindfold was placed over her eyes, and when everything was set into play, I got this overwhelming rush much like a fever. I guess I could best describe much like an athletes high, that I use to get a hour after working out or running.
That feeling is about as addictive as any drug you can imagine and the physical sensations are wonderful, not to mention the physical and emotional bond that can be created between two people, one being of course the Dominate and the other the submissive.
Domination and submission is a journey, not a destination. And the scenery changes along the way, as we grow and change ourselves.
The lifestyle to me is about passion, intimacy, communication and intensity and a level of trust that most people will never truly understand.
There is no true way to live the lifestyle, or to enjoy what many call love style. It can be very emotionally rewarding, but it can also be devastating, if you are not able to communicate with a partner, whether your partner understands what the lifestyle is about or not.
Being a dominate requires you to be patient, strong and understanding, to me the journey begins when you have that physically and mental chemistry, and seduction into the lifestyle is probably one of the most erotic first moments you will ever share together. Domination begins with the mind, known to many as psychological play, you must first be able to master the mind set of your partner before you can even think of mastering her body and will.
Her need to submit should come naturally, much like my need to be Dominate, it is two parts of a puzzle that is working together to make a perfect fit along the way.
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