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Mustardseed -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/17/2008 11:37:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Queencie

I never thought facesitting was about the submissive being comfortable… [8|]
Well, I don't think I'd change my view now… [;)]

I have to admit, I was wondering why it was preferable for the domme to be uncomfortable rather than the sub. [:'(]




HardToTame -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/18/2008 12:43:29 AM)

in the words of monty python "sit on my face and tell me that you love me" (I think it was Monty Python at least)

I think, it's the whole idea that, your giving the domme pleasure at your own discomfort, and theres reassurance in that I guess in her orgasm.  If a domme spanks you and tells you to scrub the floor, I'd find it hard to believe she's getting off on it, but if she was riding my face like a cow girl at the rodeo, then I guess I'd know she was getting off on it, and thus you KNOW, you are SURE that pleasure has been fulfilled. 

I think for the majority of it, it is just a sexual fetish thing, as opposed to a Slave/Mistress thing, and anyone can do it, but, I think people have the right to enjoy the sexual benefits of this field.  I don't see anything wrong in keeping it all in the bedroom and strictly sexual as opposed to some people who see it as a life style, and with that, if you can find someone who enjoys being dominant in the sack and could see the pleasure in recieiving oral sex from the top, then, whats the problem?  If it makes you happy go for it.  If anyones going to lash out on you then fuck them (not literally) because truth is, everyone has a fetish and they would have theirs aswell and it's probably a hell of a lot more indecent than having someone orgasm on your face.





LPslittleclip -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/18/2008 8:27:55 PM)

i enjoy pleasing my M'Lady if she wishes me to please her that way i will do so. i let her know my desires and if i am good she may let me have it, or not it is her pleasure that is important.  she may just tease me for awhile before she deems me worthy of such a gift.




torsionman -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/18/2008 8:59:31 PM)

I wonder if anyone has mentioned the Dominance of queening? It can be real painful for the sub/slave if she wears a tight, rough, new pair of jeans and wonderful for her. Unless the sub/slave is into pain on his face, it isn't pleasureable.




LadyPact -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/18/2008 9:05:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LPslittleclip

i enjoy pleasing my M'Lady if she wishes me to please her that way i will do so. i let her know my desires and if i am good she may let me have it, or not it is her pleasure that is important.  she may just tease me for awhile before she deems me worthy of such a gift.

Nice job, but I notice you still didn't call Me "Dude" again.




AAkasha -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/18/2008 10:08:10 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: HardToTame

in the words of monty python "sit on my face and tell me that you love me" (I think it was Monty Python at least)

I think, it's the whole idea that, your giving the domme pleasure at your own discomfort, and theres reassurance in that I guess in her orgasm.  If a domme spanks you and tells you to scrub the floor, I'd find it hard to believe she's getting off on it, but if she was riding my face like a cow girl at the rodeo, then I guess I'd know she was getting off on it, and thus you KNOW, you are SURE that pleasure has been fulfilled. 

I think for the majority of it, it is just a sexual fetish thing, as opposed to a Slave/Mistress thing, and anyone can do it, but, I think people have the right to enjoy the sexual benefits of this field.  I don't see anything wrong in keeping it all in the bedroom and strictly sexual as opposed to some people who see it as a life style, and with that, if you can find someone who enjoys being dominant in the sack and could see the pleasure in recieiving oral sex from the top, then, whats the problem?  If it makes you happy go for it.  If anyones going to lash out on you then fuck them (not literally) because truth is, everyone has a fetish and they would have theirs aswell and it's probably a hell of a lot more indecent than having someone orgasm on your face.




A trap a lot of submissives fall into is that they assume if they cannot eroticize an act, than surely a femdom must not find it exciting and hot.  So in reality there ARE women that get VERY turned on from spanking and watching you scrub the floor.   There are a great many things that I have a man do that really turn me on, and they have nothing to do with the proxmity of my pussy or ass and his face and/or mouth.  A fantastic submissive can understand this and wants to work hard to make sure that as he endures the spanking or scrubs the floor, he does it in a manner that heightens the experience for me, rather than does it and in his head is busy thinking, "I hope she sits on my face when I finish this floor."

I have no problem with queening, facesitting, smothering - so long as they are not purely self indulgent acts for the submissive. There are some subs that are so self absorbed that they actually make pussy worship a chore - because they do it for themselves, not the femdom.  If a man thinks pussy first, pleasure second, chances are he's a one-trick pony.  If he thinks "how can I push all her buttons...the ones related to brain as well as pussy...." then he's a keeper.

Akasha




khem -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/18/2008 10:25:08 PM)

The scrubbing of the floor sounds a lot hotter to me than face-sitting after this conversation. 






MstrssScarlet -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/18/2008 10:37:59 PM)

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

quote:

ORIGINAL: HardToTame

in the words of monty python "sit on my face and tell me that you love me" (I think it was Monty Python at least)

I think, it's the whole idea that, your giving the domme pleasure at your own discomfort, and theres reassurance in that I guess in her orgasm.  If a domme spanks you and tells you to scrub the floor, I'd find it hard to believe she's getting off on it, but if she was riding my face like a cow girl at the rodeo, then I guess I'd know she was getting off on it, and thus you KNOW, you are SURE that pleasure has been fulfilled. 

I think for the majority of it, it is just a sexual fetish thing, as opposed to a Slave/Mistress thing, and anyone can do it, but, I think people have the right to enjoy the sexual benefits of this field.  I don't see anything wrong in keeping it all in the bedroom and strictly sexual as opposed to some people who see it as a life style, and with that, if you can find someone who enjoys being dominant in the sack and could see the pleasure in recieiving oral sex from the top, then, whats the problem?  If it makes you happy go for it.  If anyones going to lash out on you then fuck them (not literally) because truth is, everyone has a fetish and they would have theirs aswell and it's probably a hell of a lot more indecent than having someone orgasm on your face.




A trap a lot of submissives fall into is that they assume if they cannot eroticize an act, than surely a femdom must not find it exciting and hot.  So in reality there ARE women that get VERY turned on from spanking and watching you scrub the floor.   There are a great many things that I have a man do that really turn me on, and they have nothing to do with the proxmity of my pussy or ass and his face and/or mouth.  A fantastic submissive can understand this and wants to work hard to make sure that as he endures the spanking or scrubs the floor, he does it in a manner that heightens the experience for me, rather than does it and in his head is busy thinking, "I hope she sits on my face when I finish this floor."

I have no problem with queening, facesitting, smothering - so long as they are not purely self indulgent acts for the submissive. There are some subs that are so self absorbed that they actually make pussy worship a chore - because they do it for themselves, not the femdom.  If a man thinks pussy first, pleasure second, chances are he's a one-trick pony.  If he thinks "how can I push all her buttons...the ones related to brain as well as pussy...." then he's a keeper.

Akasha



[sm=applause.gif][sm=applause.gif][sm=applause.gif] I  couldn't agree more.
Mistress Scarlet




HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/18/2008 10:49:35 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I couldn't tell you, so I'll tell you a (true) story instead.  This happened a few months ago, but since you're new, you probably haven't heard it.

My sub and I were joking around with each other while running some errands.  Out of the blue, he started his next comment to Me with "Dude"

For the fun of it, I asked him what he had called Me, and he said he had called Me "Dude".  So, I proceeded to ask him if he were familiar with the term "queening".  It turned out that he wasn't, so I explained it to him.  Then, I told him that, if he called Me "Dude" again, that would be My exact method for showing him that I, most certainly, wasn't a "Dude".

The boy has never called Me "Dude" again.



Great story, Dude.




Dnomyar -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/19/2008 5:30:42 AM)

I don't worry about getting smothered. I use a snorkel. Guys remember to wear eye protection.




HardToTame -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/20/2008 1:21:18 AM)

hahaha, ey, would you mind lieing underneath this glass table for me [8D]  Sorry thats wrong.

Mistress Akasha I agree, just, the reality is some blokes care more about their own load than hers.

It's all in the eye of the beholder (especially if she squirts [:D]) Sorry I couldn't resist.  

If your scrubbing a floor, well, anyone can ACT please, just as anyone can fake an orgasm, but I guess if a Mistress blows on your face, you KNOW you've done something right.  But, I don't think it's all about orgasms.   For me it's a bedroom passtime kinda thing, but, theres alot more to it all I think




AAkasha -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/20/2008 5:13:33 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: HardToTame

hahaha, ey, would you mind lieing underneath this glass table for me [8D]  Sorry thats wrong.

Mistress Akasha I agree, just, the reality is some blokes care more about their own load than hers.

It's all in the eye of the beholder (especially if she squirts [:D]) Sorry I couldn't resist.  

If your scrubbing a floor, well, anyone can ACT please, just as anyone can fake an orgasm, but I guess if a Mistress blows on your face, you KNOW you've done something right.  But, I don't think it's all about orgasms.   For me it's a bedroom passtime kinda thing, but, theres alot more to it all I think


Is the only way you know a woman is *wet* by licking her pussy or giving her an orgasm?  Doesn't anyone ever make love to a woman's entire body anymore?  Don't you look for flushed skin, changes in breathing, body language, eyes? When I make a man do a non-sexual act to turn me on, he knows how wet I am, even if I am not sitting on his face.  I could sit in a skirt and blouse and high heels after work, watching my slave struggle to free himself from a hogtie, and fifteen minutes later walk over, slip my panties off from under my skirt, turn them inside out and shove them into his mouth.  He then knows how wet I am, and how turned on I am -- no facesitting required.

There are many, many ways to show a submissive man he is pushing all the right buttons without sexually indulging him with my pussy up front and close -- that should not be the end-all, be-all of his submission.  His motivation should be to please me on all levels, not just the ones that give him a boner.

Akasha




LadyPact -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/20/2008 7:57:48 AM)

Not to change the subject, but scent marking is also a good way to accomplish this.  Or, have My boy lay with his head in My lap after a good scene.  There really isn't any doubt.

BTW. Harry.  I had a feeling somebody would take the opportunity to make that joke.   Thanks for the laugh.




MISTRESSKUMA -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/20/2008 8:06:07 AM)

OMG I am absolutely fanatical about it! As a sitter and seat both!




Dnomyar -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/20/2008 9:26:38 AM)

Mmmmm nice thought. Marking your territory. Mabey I should bottle this stuff and sell it on E-Bay.




malloves69 -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/20/2008 10:35:16 AM)

my mistress can sit on my face anytimes she wants too [:)] love the view and yes she can squirt which makes it very erotic indeed [:)] naturally when she squirts i try to swallow as much as i can but sometimes after i really am drenched [:)] wont hear me bitch about that ..whether she squirts or golden showers i always try and swallow it all [:)] see we do other things besides her fisting me all the time --lol [:)] shes cumming tomorrow ..gawd i love when that lady cums [:)] she does have some powerfull thighs i must say [:)] mal




Boondoggle -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/20/2008 11:45:35 AM)

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AAkasha titillatingly teased:

slip my panties off from under my skirt, turn them inside out and shove them into his mouth. He then knows how wet I am, and how turned on I am -- no facesitting required.

Yes, please. Now, I thoroughly enjoy having my face sat for hours (in fact, there's a great Sardoc? illustration of a woman sitting on a guy's face while he holds a book for her which is remarkably similar to one of the most enjoyable of such experiences I've had), but I totally agree with AAkasha that there are other, much more subtle (or not), fun and playful ways to get assurance that a Domina is aroused. When I watch scenes at parties, I don't generally watch the 'action,' but rather the reaction of the top and/or bottom. That is a much more beautiful and pleasurable experience than watching welts appear. I also absolutely adore auditory approval (a little alliteration, anyone?). So much so that I've been accused by a good friend of being an 'auditeur' (as well as a provocateur, but that's another thread).




HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/20/2008 11:03:57 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
BTW. Harry.  I had a feeling somebody would take the opportunity to make that joke.   Thanks for the laugh.


I was amazed that nobody beat me to it. 




GoddessTeaze -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/21/2008 5:52:36 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: malloves69

my mistress can sit on my face anytimes she wants too [:)] love the view and yes she can squirt which makes it very erotic indeed [:)] naturally when she squirts i try to swallow as much as i can but sometimes after i really am drenched [:)] wont hear me bitch about that ..whether she squirts or golden showers i always try and swallow it all [:)] see we do other things besides her fisting me all the time --lol [:)] shes cumming tomorrow ..gawd i love when that lady cums [:)] she does have some powerfull thighs i must say [:)] mal

Yeah I was wondering what it took you so long mal !!!

It's fabulous to do, as I gave My boy loads of squirts & pee Myself, it's something which I only want to do more often, so maybe redassdavid should move his redass over to Me, and then I'll b happy to smother him
*EG*


Warm Greetingz

GoddezzT`





danreeves -> RE: Queening/smothering (5/21/2008 6:02:46 AM)

Is squirting cum??-or is this a bodily fluid realse?




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