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RE: Assignments - 5/18/2008 8:26:20 AM   
TishAddams


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That's why when i give assignments to my slave in most cases I give him/her something they should do/think independently.
I expect my slave to tell me if he have a problem with any task he got, not other people.
no chance to get an easy way out and if he'll try, I'll make it more difficult for him.

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RE: Assignments - 5/18/2008 10:47:22 AM   
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  I would expect to do my assignments completely on my own unless my mommy said that I could get help, I think a sub should be punished if caught cheating like that, though he might find better methods of bein humiliated through the additional means of using a message board and might produce better results!

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RE: Assignments - 5/18/2008 1:16:24 PM   
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In the last relationship i had with a Domme, we only saw each other on weekends, and before her arrival at my house she would usually give me a list of assignments.

Most of them dealt with preparing myself.  She was extremely fussy about me being entirely smooth.  If my legs weren't shaven properly or my chest unwaxed - i'd be in deep trouble!  She would do a little inspection when she arrived.  And if she found any stubble behind my thighs, my toenails not clipped, my nails not filed smooth, my eyebrows not plucked... i was sure to find myself over her knee. 

She would also have me pick up certain food items at the grocery store, her favorite bottle of wine... make reservations for dinner... pick up a gift for a party we were going to... little things like that.  None of which i minded, because it was nice knowing what she liked - and it was an easy way to make her happy.

As far as chores around the house - she never had to give me assignments.  I was a lot neater and cleaner than she was!  I was always straightening up, cleaning up... that's just part of my nature i guess.  She found it immensely amusing when i would just naturally do the dishes or the way i waited on her hand and food around the house.  One of her nicknames for me was "Miss Tidy."  lol

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RE: Assignments - 7/30/2008 10:55:36 AM   
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hello All,

i am a sub who is given plenty of written assignements and like to suggest some more creative and pyhsical assignments to my Owners. i have to thank those that have written before about what they ask Their subs to accomplish for Them, but wondering if more people can suggest tasks that don't involve writting or "household chores" as i don't live with Them.
i thought i might share my list of what i've come up and stole form here since it might spark other ideas.

- having your sub write on themselves (boobs, ass, cunt, face, etc) daily to remind herself that they are Your "pet/slut/cunt/whore/etc" and leave it on for example. atleast one hour/one day
- determining a goal (humilation, sluttiness, posture) and making your sub find 3 ways on how to achieve such goal, and perhaps acting on 1 of them
-training their ass, wearing her buttplug atleast a total of example. 5 hours a week or have anal sex atleast once that week
-posture training or tightlacing, wearing a corset made for specifically for tightlacing
-learning to wear heels, must wear a certian height of heel (2.5", 3", 4") outside for atleast example. 3 hours/2 times a week
-doing something public (wearing her collar in public, masturbating outside, etc)
-dieting (not eating a certian food all week (visa versa eating something all week), making weigh loss goals, etc)
-excerise (strecthing every morning, going the gym example. 3 times a week, trying yoga, joining a class of some sort, etc)
-making Your sub choose some questions for You to answer, to know You better
-servicing/pleasing a stranger sexually
-mental training (mantras example. on the street after each person they pass they must say to themselves "i am not better than them")
- speech training, making them remove a common word from Their vocabulary and journalling how many times the word mistakingly gets used a week

And i also have a question. Would it upset you if Your sub suggested other tasks other than what You have provided Them in the past?  

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RE: Assignments - 7/30/2008 11:15:41 AM   
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Pixel brought up something that gave me some thought. Delegate and Assignment. Is there a difference when you ask your slave to do something?

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RE: Assignments - 7/30/2008 11:44:19 AM   
Lockit


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I would be very disappointed in my submissive if I gave him an assignment that I wanted his feelings, needs, etc. on and he went out and asked other's for idea's.  If I found a thread asking for idea's, I might be a little ticked.  But then, I doubt I would be asking him for idea's on this! lol  I would have my own sweet torture planned and would most likely ask many questions if I didn't already know... so that the humiliation or whatever would have the most effect.

As for assignments, I find them mostly useful when away from one another and in the early days of a relationship.  Taking into consideration life demands, I will give a time frame in which I would like something done, rather than a daily basis type of requirment.  I also look at what he is most comfortable with.  If he hates writing, he will most likely block himself with his feelings for writing.  So my assignments will be for the most part, situational and something he can actually do.  If I am trying to bring about more comfort in something or to refine something that might need a little work, to better our relationship or dynamic's, then I will go a bit past a comfort zone, always adding a little grace if I don't think he is simply trying to get out of doing it.

I see an assignment as a personal thing and I expect a personal completion of the assignment.  In some things I wouldn't mind him researching something or whatever, but I better get that personal or there might be another assignment coming on how to do an assignment from self rather than somewhere else. lol

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RE: Assignments - 7/30/2008 11:48:34 AM   
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At backseatbebe:
Good ones. Those actually remind me of the time i was owned. Since i was a crosdressing slave, my Mistress ordered me to make a program that will generate my in- and outdoor clothing for every day. It was not without sense because assortment of clothes was rarely updated and She didn't want to bother giving me a list every day. However, i was aware that there were penalties intended in case She does not like how i was dressed.

Beside this, i was getting at least one humiliating task a day, and here are some of these:
* The slave gets a humiliating lyrics. Within a day, the slave must think of a melody for it and sing it for two hours in a 2nd floor room with an opened balcony (Mistress' house had such). Slave's voice must also be high to sound like a female's.
* In a park, slave must first cum and then urinate inside his pants and then have walk to the house (at least 2 kilometers).
* In early morning, slave must have at least two orgasms and eat all the goo. No mouthwash or other food or drink (except own urine) allowed for the whole working day.
* Slave spends whole night in the basement, walking in high heels. The slave must also have a walkman (or anything of type) and listen to music of Mistress' choice - loud enough to hear nothing else - and occasionally sing. i was also having a vibrator buzzing up my ass on this type of assignments (indoor high heels training and dancing).
* Make a slave be a Christmas tree. What can be very challenging are burning Christmas lights - for the next week or two i had small burns all over the body. Not to mention possibility of invited friends and singing roles that might be given to this tree.

But imho strangers should be limit, unless Dom/me chooses the partner. You never know if someone has a sort of disease, less or more severe.

< Message edited by sillyslaveboy -- 7/30/2008 12:12:10 PM >

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RE: Assignments - 7/30/2008 1:02:33 PM   
backseatbebe


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thank you for your imput sillyslave
they all sound like very creative assignments, especially walking home in your own cum and urine :)
and yes the stranger thing would have included condoms etc

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RE: Assignments - 8/1/2008 1:59:24 AM   
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after reading this posting i see some do make the assingments a punishement  or is the assingnments just supose too feel like a punishement ...

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RE: Assignments - 8/1/2008 2:17:44 AM   
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I have given assignments to subs who I don't get to see as often as I'd like, because it ensures that they are thinking of me, and servining me when we can't be together. I would sometimes give research assignments or short essays on a type of training that they were going to encounter, so they would be learning more about the lifestyle, as well as what to expect (to a degree). Then I would make them send it to me, I'd grade it, and punish them for any errors to teach them to pay attention to detail. They were not allowed to use outside help.

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RE: Assignments - 8/1/2008 3:47:37 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: iwearpanties

after reading this posting i see some do make the assingments a punishement  or is the assingnments just supose too feel like a punishement ...

What i've read here looks just like obedience training and having fun to me. By the way, i am of opinion that today it is easier to make a video record than to write an essay. i write much of stuff as the part of my non-BDSM daily duties and the time just would not be sufficient to have a quality life if i had to write about the BDSM part too. Here it is: either doing it, or writting it.

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RE: Assignments - 8/1/2008 3:57:06 AM   
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If I set tasks, it is normally a simple test to see how well he obeys or it is something the individual is well suited for.  My Westie is AMAZING at finding things on the Net.  When I need information, I set the boy to looking for it.  He normally finds what I need and sends the answers to me in less than an hour. 

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RE: Assignments - 8/1/2008 4:05:46 AM   
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Just speaking to Westie about how ticked off I get about How MANY subs fail their first task.  I give them a VERY simple assignment, go buy themselves a choke chain and send me a photo of them wearing it.  EASY, less than $5 expenditure, don't have to send the item to me.  Just buy a 'training collar' and put it on.  75% of the men who beg to 'do anything to serve me' can't even do that one simple thing.  Then they wonder why I don't pay any more attention to them.

I think Westie went out and got his immediately.  Had a photo of him wearing it before the evening was over.


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It is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed,
the hands acquire shakes, the shakes become a warning,
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RE: Assignments - 8/1/2008 8:56:17 AM   
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I have given an assignment as a corrective measure, but typically it is a way of connecting with a submissive that goes along with communication.  It also records whatever might be going on so that we can look back at it later if need be.  I do have some memory issues, thus the 'dingy domme' title I sometimes wear. lol  Just as chastity works to get someone's focus or attention, an assignment can also do the same.  I don't use either that often and if I need to, there is a problem that needs far more than some corrective measures! 

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RE: Assignments - 9/7/2008 2:05:53 PM   
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I do give assignments just to see how far my slave will go for his Mistress....plus he loves them too, he begs me for assignments.  I've had him buy a pair of women's panties and wear them to his workplace...then asked him to take pics of these panties (with the price tag on so that I knew he bought them) while he wore them underneath his hospital uniform...he surpassed my expectations on this one and for that he was rewarded...for a brief moment of course...I'm not that nice, lol.

Answering the original question, if I gave him assignments for his personal growth and for me to learn more about him, I'd certainly wouldn't want him asking others for ideas or advice...it would need to come from within him.

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RE: Assignments - 9/7/2008 4:20:11 PM   
lilsubrt


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Hello LadyPact,

  Yes Ma'am, Goddess gives Her little one assignments, She has him find out about this or that for Her, one might call them secretarial duties. She also has him write a tribute to Her everyday and keep a journal, these help to keep him in the right frame of mind. She also has him run errands for Her as She needs him to, these could be anything from very minor and mundane to major and for his growth.
Her slave welcomes each and every task as they give him a sense of satisfaction and  accomplishment, he Thanks Her constantly. To answer the original point of the question, She requires that he do all his own work on any of these assignments.

Thank You for Your time,
lilsubrt


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