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How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/20/2005 11:53:44 PM   
FangsNfeet


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Status: offline 		I could use a little adivce on this situation.

When pet and I sleep, she ends up taking up most of the bed and the sheets. I awake in the middle of the night finding myself with the prediciment that my sub has dominated the bed while I was asleep. I don't necessaly want to wake her up because she has a 7am job to be at. Bondage dosen't help because she ends up needing to be in a new position or to be scratched. I perfer her to be in the bed with me rather than tossing her on the floor on sending her to the couch. What advice can my fellow doms give me in keeping half my queen size bed and sheets to myself and keeping it that way?

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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/21/2005 12:07:00 AM   
Soulhuntre


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What advice can my fellow doms give me in keeping half my queen size bed and sheets to myself and keeping it that way?


This is a fairly simple issue of body training. It's also a somewhat common one. Basically, you just need to get her sleeping body to come to the conclusion it doesn't have much room. It will eventually adapt. Since this is not a reflexive action, some slack in the consistency of the training isn't a real problem.

For a while, you will need to make her someplace to sleep that is narrow. I have known folks who used the bathtub, but I find a small pallette matress is better. Place it on the floor, and have her sleep there as often as you can. To start with, do it on days she doesn't need to get up for work. While you want to have her in bed with you, a few days a week for a few weeks or a month or two won't kill you I hope :)

In it's desire to stay ont he softer surface, her body will adjust to using less room. It will just happen on it's own. As she learns to comfortably sleep in less space it usually true that even when granted more space she will use much less of it.

It doesn't work all the time, but it has worked in 4 of the 5 cases I have seen it used in and one of them was vanilla (they used the couch, no BDSM overtones... it happened by accident because the couch was narrow).

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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/21/2005 1:35:00 AM   
JohnWarren


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Status: offline 		Queensize fitted sheet underneath. Two standard size sheets on top and blankets to match, one set for each of you.

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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/21/2005 2:15:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: FangsNfeet

I could use a little adivce on this situation.

When pet and I sleep, she ends up taking up most of the bed and the sheets. I awake in the middle of the night finding myself with the prediciment that my sub has dominated the bed while I was asleep. I don't necessaly want to wake her up because she has a 7am job to be at. Bondage dosen't help because she ends up needing to be in a new position or to be scratched. I perfer her to be in the bed with me rather than tossing her on the floor on sending her to the couch. What advice can my fellow doms give me in keeping half my queen size bed and sheets to myself and keeping it that way?



G’day Fangs,

My smart arsed answer is: I handle sheets like I’m making a hospital bed all straight with correct tucks that would pass inspection.

Seriously though, we have a queen-sized bed with a sheet on the bottom, we have a doona or sheet each (depending on the temperature) that way we can be as restless as we want (I’m the main offender there). However to add to the mix, a slave may be added from time to time and placed in between us for us to play with, and nightly the bed has to be “Sasha” proofed so that we go to bed and find one large female Malamute on the bed we can use the doonas/sheets to move her into the middle. She does “pillownap” my pillow though so there are some negotiations to retrieve it (mostly her nightly cuddle with me before turning to sleep with her head toward the bottom.) Thus at times there may be One Master, One Mistress, One Malamute and one or even two slaves on a queen sized bed.. (Who said that beds were made for sleeping on?)



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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/21/2005 4:34:40 AM   
fastlane


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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/21/2005 5:08:37 AM   
EmeraldSlave2


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Status: offline 		If I'm regularly sleeping with someone else I have simply learned to get two sets of everything. If I'm with a partner I can tell what to do, I let them know that I don't sleep well if I'm "cuddling" (it's a pre-sleep thing for me) and shove them over to give me space.

In your case, if you don't want two sets of blankets, you can either just yank them off of her, make her sleep on the floor or somewhere else, or chain her down so she has limited movement.

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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/21/2005 7:26:40 AM   
OscarHargraves


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Status: offline 		I just use the 'roll over and grab' system. If I wake up and want more covers I just roll over and grab what I want. If it wakes her up then she'll go back to sleep pretty quick. I did like some of the other ideas though........

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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/21/2005 7:45:29 AM   
KatyLied


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zip her ass up in a sleeping bag next to you.


Uh oh!

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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/21/2005 8:32:34 AM   
FLButtSlut


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Fastlane:
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zip her ass up in a sleeping bag next to you.


Uh oh!


This is actually the best advice I saw on here so far. It keeps her in the bed which is desired, she has covers to keep her warm , which is probably also desired, and will help with the other idea of "training" her body to sleep less restlessly.



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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/21/2005 9:40:39 AM   
Kinkypupper


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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/21/2005 9:59:03 AM   
Kasia


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Status: offline 		I would probably kick her out of bed, I hate when someone occupies my space.
If not that, I would get read of whatever size bed and buy two separate ones. Whats the use of the big bed if you cannot sleep well in it.....

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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/21/2005 11:56:25 AM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		Ron say's that 1 divided by 0, women always get all the covers and all the bed. The only advice he says he can offer is practicing sleeping on a
2x4. Or as an alternative he says to try taking your place out of the middle to begin with........ that way you may get 15 to 20 minutes of
prime bed space.


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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/21/2005 12:35:40 PM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		Get a king size bed.

Doug and I have slept together almost 7 year's now. To this day he still takes all of the blankets. He still ends up with his legs in my little area. I've learned to keep to my own small area or end up possibly being hit in the middle of the night by a dreaming person.

You can try to re-train her. No idea how long that takes.

What has worked for me at least in the winter month's is...I like a very warm bed. I crank up the electric blanket and he doesn't steal it anymore.

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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/21/2005 1:49:24 PM   
FTopinMichigan


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I would probably kick her out of bed, I hate when someone occupies my space.


This would "my" solution as well, but since it appears the OP would like to keep her near , I'd like to offer a recent experience that changed my own sleeping habits. (Warning....story ahead, but I get on topic soon)

I have rather severe left hip pain when laying down, whether on my left hip, or even on my back. Any position, in bed hurts (standing or walking is best). After doing some online research, I was able to figure things out. I probably have bursitis of my left hip, due to exercise, and the improper use of a new piece of equipment. I've had trouble with the hip before, but am now (after two other episodes) able to figure out the source of the pain. (soft furniture is not my friend either, but I digress)

Because the pain is more prevalent at night, and upon waking, a few suggestions were given regarding using a pillow. A pillow is used, when sleeping on the right side, by being placed between the legs. Apparently it lifts the hip just enough to open the joint. Another pillow was used if I lay on my back, and is placed under the knees.

I keep both pillows on the bed, in position, in case I toss and turn during the night.

Well, several nights have passed, and it turns out that the pillows are not only helping to relieve my pain, I'm apparently sleeping in the exact position during the entire night. My sleep is the best EVER!

I guess the pillows are sort of preventing me from moving, without that being the intent.

Sure it sounds a little silly, but I think it might work.

Pillows are used around babies to keep them on a bed, right? Maybe it'll work to keep a submissive on her side of the bed too.

Might be worth a try.

K

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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/21/2005 8:53:59 PM   
RiotGirl


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Status: offline 		i've the same problem, but opposite. Master ends up all over the bed and sleeping on top of the sheets.

i either

A) Get a blanket

B) try and wrestle as much covers as i can out from under him

C) Find a good spot and tuck myself into him.

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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/22/2005 6:06:32 AM   
mystictryst


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Status: offline 		I suffer the same problem (freezing and no covers), however Master says it is because I toss off all the covers as I sleep. If he would only listen to the truth....!!!! ;)

Master is out of town all week. So I share the bed with a Schnauzer (not as big as IronBear's malmute and considerably less furry) and a Bengal (housecat before anyone asks) who thinks she runs the joint... So, I am often without covers because said Cat dominates the bed... Really, she only weighs 9 pounds but when ruling the bed, I swear she weighs a thousand!

On weekends, Master is home and is used to having 2 queen size beds (he lives in a hotel). Add me, the cat, the dog, and my three pillows (similar reasons to FTopinMichigan), and there is little room for anything else. I've successfully trained Master to stay on his side of the bed. I've also managed to train him that the covers are mine and what I don't have, the cat does. I also don't allow the thermostat to be turned about 19 c, 17 at night. Sooo...

We have four extra large quilts on the bed. Two of them are so large they hang nearly to the floor. My suggestion would be use queen size bedding, but purchase king size blankets/quilts. That way there should always be a corner somewhere for you.. :)


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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/22/2005 6:51:05 AM   
subcheryl


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Status: offline 		Depending on what type of headboard and footboard you have you could rig up a form of the old chasity board, plus use his and her blankets, but than if she is like Master is to me, she will steal those too. LOL I have the problem that Master steals my pillows, esp. my soft one I sleep on, I too use to be a bed hog, but since sleeping with Master I think he has requested me to move over only twice, and I went right back to sleep with no problem. You could try the snuggle up routine and gently guide her back to her side of the bed too. If I take masters side of the bed it is usually due to the fact am looking for the physical contact and his body temp to keep me warm, so he gives me an extra blanket and snuggles for a bit and I am satisfied and back on my own side of the bed.

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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/22/2005 8:16:43 PM   
siamsa24


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Status: offline 		We had this problem, but we, like many of the others here, have since started using two sets of sheets and blankets. As for the hogging the bed part, the way we solved that is rather odd and I am not sure if it would work for anyone else.
I used to take up more then my fair share of the space (and anyone who knows my size compared to his will be amazed at this fact) until Leroy came along. Leroy is a giant stuffed turtle. I sleep on him every night and don't move at all, maybe it's the fear of falling off the turtle or maybe it's just because he's comfy, but you can always give it a try (just to long as you don't mind sharing a bed with a giant turtle )

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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/22/2005 10:54:23 PM   
cinnfulhussy


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Status: offline 		I sleep like a log, its Master that hogs the blankets. He just reels them over... and onto the floor, where the lab mix is delighted to weigh them down, so retrieval is impossible. When Master is gone, (4 nights a week) the Lab and the pit bull, and three cats all join. I typically have a dog on each side, two cats at the feet and one at the top. Who can move?
Maybe thats a solution. Two dogs as weights on either side of her.
Seriously, theres been some good advice. I think the sleeping bag trick might work.

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RE: How do you handle bed sheets? - 10/23/2005 3:41:18 AM   
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