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knees2you -> Explaining switch Dominance?? (7/22/2004 12:06:46 PM)
[:D]I've come to learn Male/female Dominance. But can someone explain Switch Dominance? Is it like a light switch on and then off??[&:] Sincerely, eyesofAslave[;)] quote: "No I'm not affraid of Who's behind the door~" [image]local://upfiles/19655/1777E80FD9D6452BA8DAE1DAB2FF266E.jpg[/image]

PassionateNights -> RE: Explaining switch Dominance?? (7/22/2004 12:16:34 PM)
As a submissive male i don;t think that i can explain it, however let me throw my thoughts into the pot. i have observed over the years that many people evolve and move from one side of the power exchange relationship to the others. Many submissives eventually becoming Dominants and some Dominants becoming submissive. i think that the concept of "power exchange" is the key element, i also think that many of us have elements of both within us. in fact i think that the best dominants are those who have tasted submission at some time or another. i think of it like bisexuality, everyone falls into some part of it with the extremes being purely gay and purely straight, but most of us fall somewhere inbetween. Some of us have tastes for different genders....perhaps it is similar for Dominants and submissives and those that are closer to a 50/50 preference identify themselves as switches. Just some thoughts... of course i am sure to some pureists (those who live closer to the extremes of pure Dominant or pure Submissive), this doesn't seem possible from their perspective, because they don;t have much if any of the desire for the other side....geez i hope this makes some sense.

Voltare -> RE: Explaining switch Dominance?? (7/22/2004 2:19:49 PM)
I'm not sure I understand your question - are you asking how a switch can be Dominant? Stephan

GoddessJules -> RE: Explaining switch Dominance?? (7/22/2004 2:51:21 PM)
Hello knees, I think that you will find people have created their won definitions as to what a switch actually is. Since you can't just look the word (in its BDSM context) up in a dictionary. . .there are many derivatives of definitions. Some people will call Me a switch. I do not view Myself as one. I do on occassion find Myself bottoming, but bottoming has nothing to do with being Dominant or Submissive. It has to do with being a masochist or sadist in a particular scene. I also will concede the fact when I meet someone more dominant than Me. It's absurd for Me to go around thinking that I'm the most dominant person in the world. And in relation to that person (for example: a more dominant boy friend or a Bull Dom should I decide to have on in My life) I would peg closer to the submissive end if we were to place dominant and submissive in binary opposition on a continuum. I can't say that I "switch" because to Me. . .switching would imply that I take on BOTH roles with the SAME person. That is how I personally define it. (I'm sure people will disagree, but that is how I define it) Is it all clear as mud now? grins ~Goddess~

SherriA -> RE: Explaining switch Dominance?? (7/22/2004 4:17:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: knees2you I've come to learn Male/female Dominance. But can someone explain Switch Dominance? Is it like a light switch on and then off I don't know about anyone else, but for me it's all about the energy I get from/with a particular individual. Some people's energy pushes my bottom buttons and other people have energy that pushes my top buttons...and a few rare individuals can access both. Ultimately, though, the energy dictates which way things flow.

Laura -> RE: Explaining switch Dominance?? (7/22/2004 10:45:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SherriA I don't know about anyone else, but for me it's all about the energy I get from/with a particular individual. Some people's energy pushes my bottom buttons and other people have energy that pushes my top buttons...and a few rare individuals can access both. Ultimately, though, the energy dictates which way things flow. That's how I'd describe it too. It's not a light switch or indecision. I know who I am and how I feel.

Zoycite -> RE: Explaining switch Dominance?? (7/23/2004 12:06:51 AM)
I would not know how to put it in words exactly but I can try. I know I am submissive around certain people, my ex I was very subissive around. I was basically his kitten. But around others I am very Dominating. I enjoy the power exchanges, I enjoy seeing how far I can be pushed or push the other. My personality is very powerful, but my actions are very submissive (sometimes). But it depends on the other person for me really, and how I truly feel for them. But when I hit 'love' I generally become very very subimissive and forget my dominating side. Plus you can 'train' in either lifestyle. I enjoy being a switch, I can stand on my own. It's like being two different people with the same eyes.

basiasubrosa -> RE: Explaining switch Dominance?? (7/23/2004 2:55:55 AM)
Ditto all the way to Sherri. Which side i feel more at any given time is determined by circumstance, not by deliberate mechanization. The "switch on/switch off; switch D/ switch s" approach strikes me as a bit flippant and superficial, but that's only because it doesn't work for me. I'd be very interested to hear from people who are able to "switch in a snap" and possibly amend my views.

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