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RE: Thoughts on playing with folks much older or younger - 10/22/2005 8:37:18 AM   
plantlady64


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Status: offline 		Hello There,
IF I'm old enough to be someones Mother that's wierd for me.
I have never dated anyone who was not born by the time I was 14 when I started my cycle before.
I've actually crumbled and am planning on dating a guy who's only 24 & I'm 41.
It's a rare special case of him being the most physically hot guy I've ever seen & the fact that he's a good person, he's honest, he's very mature for his age, and extremely interested.
As I'm a slave to my Master and a sub to others I have not topped someone.
I just found myself kinky 2/05. I consider myself in my training period for the first year.
I'm actually planning on topping this kid. I think that's a big part of why I'm willing to play with him. Being so young will help me to top him. I couldn't sumbit to him if he wanted to top me.
As far as an older man I have no limits as if I'm not old enough to be his mom the age is just a number to me.
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sub suzanne

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RE: Thoughts on playing with folks much older or younger - 10/22/2005 10:01:17 AM   
MsSara


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Status: offline 		Some can say that age is just a number. In some cases, it is. I have played with a variety of people, and it always seems to come down to their maturity level. Have fun and respect the people you play with, respect the relationships of those you play with as well. In the end you can all have a lot of fun together.

Sara

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RE: Thoughts on playing with folks much older or younger - 10/22/2005 10:26:52 AM   
Kasia


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ORIGINAL: ruthfw
My comfort zone is about plus or minus 8 years from my own age.

I've noticed this is different from my husband's behavior; he was really rather miffed when I asked him to limit his activities to women over 21 (he is in his late 30s; I am 35).

My comfort zone is too 10 years plus or minus. I find idea of getting involved with someone younger or older totally repulsive.
I have ex husband who was drooling over smooth young 19-20 yo girls all the time and it was always disgusting for me. (One of the many reasons he is ex now.)

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RE: Thoughts on playing with folks much older or younger - 10/22/2005 10:33:15 AM   
TexasMaam


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Status: offline 		While reading the responses I thought to Myself: "Self", I thought, "it appears there is a serious aversion to playing with anyone 8 to 10 years older going on here."

Then, of course, I realized that the reverse is true in My case. *chuckling*

I won't entertain the thought of playing with a fellow under the age of 45 or so. Yet, I will consider service from a man 20 or even 30 years My senior. I'm comfortable with older men.

Ergo, I'm just as guilty of 'reverse' age discrimination, aren't I???

TexasMaam

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RE: Thoughts on playing with folks much older or younger - 10/22/2005 11:27:00 AM   
Belladonna82


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Status: offline 		Greetings...

Age is but a number.....Master is 11 yrs older then me(and tech. old enough to physicaly be my father...TECH.).No,i do not play with those the same age as my parents but thats a emotional step which if Master told me to i would do without question. Each person has their own preferance.....but if the Master/Mistress wishes to include someone older or younger thats ok ..as long as they are of legal age to cencent...and physical able to...not kill over during sex lol.As for cultural issues.....BDSM and Gorean is taboo no matter what anyways......so age is just anouther taboo which can be crossed,its just something that is diffrent for all....but Good luck....

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RE: Thoughts on playing with folks much older or younger - 10/22/2005 1:05:39 PM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		I asked a mate of mine t'other day about this and his comment was emphatic "If its female and breathing without the pox or anything like that, it'll do me!"



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RE: Thoughts on playing with folks much older or younger - 10/22/2005 7:16:19 PM   
OscarHargraves


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Status: offline 		My current Sub is a lady who is less than a year younger than me, however........

When I was in my early twenties I met and dated a lady who was considerably older than me. She was a total submissive and taught me the pleasures of a Dom/Sub relationship. She showed me the value of a good and true Sub and we had extraordinary sex. She was willing to do anything I wanted without all the hassles that I had encountered repeatedly from girls my own age. To this day I remember the things we did with fondness and I believe she is the one who set my feet on the path toward being a Dom. Until I met her I knew what I wanted but I didn't know it had a name. She also taught me that age, like many other things, is not as important as the attitude of the person you are with. Many young girls today have beautiful bodies and I would gladly spend time with them, but the older ladies also have many wonderful assets that more than make up for their 'lost youth'. I still tend to judge a perspective Sub for her attitude more than anything else. BTW, this lady was 61! so I'm not prejudiced about age one bit.

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RE: Thoughts on playing with folks much older or younger - 10/22/2005 7:36:04 PM   
bronxboy


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Status: offline 		Just to put my two cents in.. I am 35 years old and the last two people I have been in relationships with were 38 and 42 and I was Daddy to both of them (at different times).
I find that the more mature a woman is the more she will communicate her needs and wants to me.

Thanks

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RE: Thoughts on playing with folks much older or younger - 10/22/2005 8:17:51 PM   
Evanesce


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quote:

I'd be interested to hear other's thoughts on this. What sort of age range do others play with? Have you had similar misgivings and overcome them? Right now I feel I am automatically ruling out the men most likely to be suitable partners, except for the number on their birth certificates.


Well, let's see... the "youngest" man I've ever had any type of relationship with was 12 years younger than me. The "oldest" man I've ever had any type of relationship with was twice my age (I was 18 at the time). Except for that older man and one other, who was 3 years older, everyone I have had any type of long-term relationship with has always been younger than myself. Master is 9 years younger.

However, I don't restrict the age of potential play partners. While my relationships tend to be with men up to ten years younger than myself, I don't care about the age of a play partner, as long as they're legal. I've done scenes with persons two years younger than my daughter, and I've done scenes with persons in their 50's. As long as they're willing and we're compatible, it's all good.

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RE: Thoughts on playing with folks much older or younger - 10/27/2005 2:07:29 PM   
Soulhuntre


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ruthfw
I'd be interested to hear other's thoughts on this. What sort of age range do others play with? Have you had similar misgivings and overcome them? Right now I feel I am automatically ruling out the men most likely to be suitable partners, except for the number on their birth certificates.


For training purposes I have few preferences. Since I am not goign to own most of those I train nor am I gougn to hve sex with them I don't need to be attracted at all.

For people I intent to own or have in personal service? I tend to prefer younger (18-25) and soemtimes older (up to 35/36 or so). This isnt a hard number, it just represents the average age where the higest concentration of physical and other traits I like occours at.

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RE: Thoughts on playing with folks much older or younger - 10/27/2005 9:12:46 PM   
dombill32


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Status: offline 		Having things in common and enjoying one anothers company should count for more then age.

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RE: Thoughts on playing with folks much older or younger - 10/28/2005 5:48:11 AM   
Rayne58


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From: Sydney Australia
Status: offline 		I too have problems doing anything sexual with people young enough to be my children. I have a profile on adultmatchmaker looking for female playmates. I get winks and messages from girls in their late teens/early 20s. Master thinks I should maybe give it a try but I have a hard time getting my head around it.

I'm not really sure why either. Perhaps it's a body image thing. I'm no longer as trim and taut as I was in my 20s. I'm not even that experienced with women yet. I just feel more comfortable with women over 35.

I prefer my men older, though would (if I were single) probably be ok with a man 10 years or so younger. Up to 10 years older (I'm 47) would work too. Master is nearly 6 years older than me, my ex husband 3 years older. The youngest man I was with was only just younger by a year and a half, the oldest 11 years older.

These limits include both relationships and casual play.

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RE: Thoughts on playing with folks much older or younger - 10/28/2005 5:58:37 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		For people who find it difficult just because of their childrens age- try remembering yourself at that age, and whether you considered yourself desireable and a good person to have relationships with.

Again, we can make whatever age restrictions we want for whatever reason, but this might help give a twist on it.

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RE: Thoughts on playing with folks much older or younger - 10/28/2005 6:41:09 AM   
Phoenxx


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Status: offline 		I am a member of the “maturity counts more then age” gang. I have meet 18 year olds capable of running a household, managing a business and raising children.
And I know 50 year olds that I wouldn’t trust to own a fish.
I grew up fast and was lucky enough to find a wonder older girl to have a relationship with. I’m sure glad she didn’t ask for my ID and proof of age.
But again it is up to you. If your turned on by a sexy, younger legal aged person go for it. If you want someone ready to retire hey that’s up to you. If you have shared interests, enjoy each other’s company, and have great kinky sex, it’s all good J
Tony

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