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McWhips -> RE: Is there equality in the lifestyle? (11/17/2005 1:37:53 PM)
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ORIGINAL: TexasMaam
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ORIGINAL: realsumissive
Why do some dommes get so upset when they want many slaves, (which I have a hard time believing unless they are professionals) and they find a male sub is contacting several dommes? I would like to get some feedback from dominant women, so I can understand.
Hmmm. Where to begin.
While I do not want many slaves, I enjoy having several submissives, or one alpha submissive and several slaves.
When I engaged several submissives at once in years past, it was simply because the sub/slave who wished to be a bathboy and personal assistant had no desire to cook. The sub who longed to cook for Me had no desire to be a houseboy. The houseboy had no desire to be either a bathboy, cook, personal assistant, gardner, etc.
The fact that I may engage more than one submissive in service does not mean I am intimate with more than one, or with ANY.
The simple truth is that there are submissive men, or male slaves, with personality traits who long to be of service. Not necessarily sexual service.
At present, I engage one submissive in service who prefers bondage to any other activity. He appeals to Me on many levels and we are emotionally involved and sexually intimate. He is the only sub with whom I am intimate.
I also engage a yardboy who wishes to be of service about the ranch; he asks for room and board, keeps the garden and the grounds and wishes to be recognized for such. We are NOT sexually intimate nor are we deeply emotionally involved. Still, I view his labours as 'service' and will session him (flogging) when he begs it of Me, because it is something that he needs.
I will entertain petitions from cooks and from houseboys who wish to serve. The parameters of service are set beforehand; very few submissive personas would ever expect sexual gratification from a Domme.
Whether or not intimacy ever develops depends completely upon the sub and his performance; not because I might choose to 'reward' him with same, but because performance with regard to service is often what arouses Me. That does not imply that I am poly. I am not. I prefer a sexually monogamous relationship. As with any relationship, the parameters, confines, limitations and negotiations are worked out through careful communication.
For those of you who will now rant 'well all TexasMaam wants is slave labor without paying for it' let Me assuage your misplaced concerns. I want submissive males around Me; no more, no less. If you are not amenable to such a situation, don't petition Me for service. [;)]
Having said that, let Me explain that I surmise any man who is not specifically committed in chastity to Me probably engages in conversations and contact with other Dommes. Once I demand his loyalty and fealty, however, his undivided attention is expected. Not before.
Yes, I expect his/their chastity while I may not give Mine in return. Why would I want to surround Myself with day laborers whose energy is focused on some other Woman? Hello.
Should I choose to collar a submissive, with whom I am sexually intimate, and W/we agree on mutual exclusivity, then that's the way it will be between the two of U/us.
It's My Party and I'll Domme if I Want To.
TexasMaam
This alpha sub of yours that you are intimate with. It seems as though he doesnt mind the situation knowing that you are intimate with each other and he is the main one. I wonder if you would be comfortable in the same situation such as if you werent into for instance foot worship so he did the same thing a you and found another woman for that.
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