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RE: Another thread got Me thinking - 5/20/2008 6:43:14 PM

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For my household, we use whatever title the person chooses. It is nothing on us to call them a name...it is everything on them to live up to it. In other words, how they act has nothing to do with us and everything to do with them.

It does catch in my craw a little when they INSIST on the title, but I choose to let that go. It's part of their journey to be insecure and, hopefully, they'll grow out of it.

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RE: Another thread got Me thinking - 5/20/2008 7:13:14 PM

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The fact that orientations are nothing to do with social standing means that there should be no reason for any orientation to have any specific social name or symbol. Add that to the fact that in real life it's NOT actually printed on everyone's forehead what orientation they are, and that quite a fair number would dislike the presumption of a social status relation to orientation thrust upon them by someone they just met...I go with the obvious- until you form a specific personal bond with someone (sub OR dom OR whatever) do not assign or presume any orientation or symbol of their orientation in your interactions.

It's so weird how no one thinks to call someone a specific title just because they are born homosexual, but being a dominant somehow suggest social status? Very weird.

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RE: Another thread got Me thinking - 5/20/2008 10:08:51 PM

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... For s types, what is the policy that your D has given to you?

I am a courteous person (most of the time ) and do not wish to embarrass myself or anyone with whom I am associated by behaving rudely. I treat everyone with a cautious level of respect by default. It's just the way I am and if I was not that way without his direction, then he would not have chosen to be with me.

I have been given no special policy or rules with regard to addressing other dominants, submissives, or anyone else. I am expected to behave in the same manner he observed when he decided to choose me.

Thank you for saving me the trouble of writing this. It's the same for me. i know my Master would tell me, if He didn't like how i spoke to others, just like He would tell me, if He didn't like anything else i was doing. As far as how i address people, i usually just call them by whatever name they introduced themself by. If the name happens to be Master Mickey or Mistress Minnie, then that is how i address them, unless and until i am told to use a different name, such as just Mickey or just Minnie. Of course, my Master's directives supersedes all else. What He says, goes.

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RE: Another thread got Me thinking - 5/20/2008 11:16:38 PM

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In bdsm world I prefer others to address Me as Jay as they are most usually interacting with My Domme side, i am violet to Master. However that has been clouded a bit now We moved as I am using violet more often in everyday life (with His encouragement and permission). I tend to use names rather than Sir or Ma'am with other bdsmers, Australia isn't a very Sir/Ma'am sort of place. However, I usually ask how they prefer to be addressed if they don't volunteer that information, and will go with what they prefer. I would direct My sub to do likewise.

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RE: Another thread got Me thinking - 5/20/2008 11:33:11 PM

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he doesn't have a policy with me; he knows i'll call them the appropriate thing, whether that be asshole, or sir.

Oh that made my day too ;-)

The only person in the world I feel compelled to call 'Sir' is my Sir. Everyone else is my equal and will be treated in a similar manner to the way they choose to treat me.

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RE: Another thread got Me thinking - 5/21/2008 3:14:02 PM

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Thank you all for the various replies. I've always told My sub to be courteous , which is absolutely his way. If someone is disrespectful to him, it's usually Me who takes offense to him first. I never insist that he call anyone by anything who doesn't have the manners to treat him properly.

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RE: Another thread got Me thinking - 5/21/2008 6:36:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

The fact that orientations are nothing to do with social standing means that there should be no reason for any orientation to have any specific social name or symbol. Add that to the fact that in real life it's NOT actually printed on everyone's forehead what orientation they are, and that quite a fair number would dislike the presumption of a social status relation to orientation thrust upon them by someone they just met...I go with the obvious- until you form a specific personal bond with someone (sub OR dom OR whatever) do not assign or presume any orientation or symbol of their orientation in your interactions.

It's so weird how no one thinks to call someone a specific title just because they are born homosexual, but being a dominant somehow suggest social status? Very weird.

QFE. Be courteous, because that's how society keeps rolling. After that, use your best judgement.

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RE: Another thread got Me thinking - 5/21/2008 8:42:35 PM

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My Miss would agree with you. Other than her i am not required to give specific titles of honor to anyone. i am expected to treat all people with respect.

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RE: Another thread got Me thinking - 5/21/2008 8:51:09 PM

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Of course, that is if they deserve it.

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RE: Another thread got Me thinking - 5/21/2008 9:11:04 PM

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So, I'm curious, as I usually am. For D types, what are your directions for yours when it comes to this? For s types, what is the policy that your D has given to you?

For me and mine, Sir and Maam are pretty standard issue. We all work in some sort of industry where we have to cal everyone we are in contact with Sir and Maam... so I dont realy consider that as much a respect thing as I do a filler. You dont know their name, or done have permission to addres them by it, or arent comfortable doing so.... you use Sir and Maam. I find it more respectful to use someones name, and a title they may choose. That has to be earned. CAlling someone Sir is just courtesy, calling them Sir Shawn, for instance, would be respectful.
The boys and their southern manners know their rules for address. Everything is polite and they get permission from me before using honorifics and titles. I wont have them calling anyone My Lord or anything like that.

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