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slavelooking2006 -> never hearing back (5/20/2008 3:47:15 PM)
I would like to know why is it when a sub meets a Dom and they play or talk and He says He will talk to You that evening or the next day and one hears nothing. Has this happened to others and how do you feel?

CalifChick -> RE: never hearing back (5/20/2008 3:52:27 PM)
About the same as it does when you go out with someone and they say, "I'll call you" and they don't. It's not special to BDSM. Cali

JohnWarren -> RE: never hearing back (5/20/2008 3:56:48 PM)
You were looking for a relationship and he was looking for a one-night stand. It's not exclusive to BDSM. One way to deal with this is have some vanilla meetings. The quicky people won't stand for that since they usually lack patience Given the lack of information in your profile, I have to wonder just how seriously you are taking finding a compatable match

DesFIP -> RE: never hearing back (5/20/2008 5:37:25 PM)
Same as when you go home with a guy you met in a bar. They say "I'll call" as a way to slide out without you making a scene. If you don't like one night stands, then don't have them any more. Make friends first. Take as long as you need to feel comfortable. If they rush you, then you know they don't care about your comfort level. If they care about you as more than a quick beat and fuck, they'll slow down to your speed.

KatyLied -> RE: never hearing back (5/20/2008 5:58:51 PM)
quote: Has this happened to others and how do you feel? It's never happened to me. But if it did, I'd call it a one night stand.

corsetgirl -> RE: never hearing back (5/20/2008 6:07:35 PM)
I try not to let that frenzy get to me especially when it comes to playing. I have to agree with the others. I would rather know a dom as a person first before playing with them just to find out exactly what they are looking for a in a relationship as there are many different dynamics. Usually, some doms who will initially contact me on this site will never get a chance to meet me because they are more interested in just casual play, which I am learning to be more selective. If a dom comes off being desperate to play with me and without a face to face meeting, I will politely turned them down. I am not looking for that casual fling anymore.

Dnomyar -> RE: never hearing back (5/21/2008 3:58:50 AM)
It is hard haveing a face to face meeting with Katy. Cali always keeps her back to you. OP get used to it and try not to take it personaly.

GreedyTop -> RE: never hearing back (5/21/2008 5:32:35 AM)
What you're not saying is that the reason Cali's back is to you is because she's on her knees giving ya a BJ...

DesFIP -> RE: never hearing back (5/21/2008 5:53:17 AM)
Judging by her avatar, Cali's got a great back(side).

SleepyDom -> RE: never hearing back (5/21/2008 6:34:16 AM)
Cali's obviously begging for a spanking with her cute little butt sticking out like that. Either that or constantly mooning people.

CalifChick -> RE: never hearing back (5/21/2008 11:14:17 AM)
I'm always begging for a spanking. SIGH So few can really deliver though. Cali

DiurnalVampire -> RE: never hearing back (5/21/2008 11:17:10 AM)
One nighters arent all that unusual. I dont do them, I dont move that fast... But its the oldest story in the book... its up there with "Call me" and getting a fake number. He got what he wanted, next time you make sure smeone is in it for longer term... unless you want to be a one night toy.

MladyHathor -> RE: never hearing back (5/21/2008 11:41:22 AM)
*He probably got what he came for, next time be more discriminating and take things slow--any person worth their weight in gold would get that.*

lronitulstahp -> RE: never hearing back (5/21/2008 12:20:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavelooking2006 I would like to know why is it when a sub meets a Dom and they play or talk and He says He will talk to You that evening or the next day and one hears nothing. Has this happened to others and how do you feel? Meh...it happens. i've had some uncomfortable first meetings with Doms that i WISH would've pulled the old disappearing act... Sometimes it's not that he's a total user, it's that he realized you weren't compatible. Maybe you should make some rules that you aren't willing to break...for instance i have a rule(after making a couple mistakes, myself) "no sex on the first meet"...no matter HOW much i like the guy.(Way to get around this one, is schedule two dates for the same day....) i find having some pre-set boundaries helps me be more aware of problematic behavior and able to deal with it. Less chances of frenzy or hard-upness kicking in, basically. Better luck next time.

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