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RE: Accepting a Collar - 11/3/2005 10:36:24 PM

MistressLisa1

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Collaring is a ritual and helps the sub/slave/slut have a feeling of purpose and signifys that they have given their gift of submission to their domme/mistress/master. It is a rite of passage for both parties and no different than giving somebody a ring so to speak. It is very important as it sends a message to them the interest a dominant has taken with their submissive. My subs get screened and interviewed for 60 days before they ever receive a velvet collar and then if they are a great slave they graduate to a leather collar after another period of time. I had a slave who could not make it the 60 day timeframe to a velvet even after the initial interview and was dropped by me. It is a sense of pride and accomplishment for the submissive and a sense of belonging to their dominant and that they have pleased their domme/master/mistress...so yes, it is very important because the purpose of the submissive is to have their needs fed by the dominant but never fully satisfied and that keeps them coming back for this symbotic relationship. A domme is not truely a domme w/o the slave and the slave has no purpose without their domme, so it is a very symbotic relationship for sure. I was formally trained by a dominatrix and she covered everything with me from ettiquette, protocols, honor, collaring, psychology and more. BDSM/Bondage is not just some kinky lifestyle thing to do from some individuals but a way of life and no different than other ways we choose to live our lives. I hope it makes sense but feel free to ask me more as I learned from an excellent professional dominatrix. Oh, it also is a message for other dommes/masters/mistresses that slave belongs to somebody and in honoring our traditions is off limits to other dominants and that is very important because a slave again shows that they have been successful in pleasing a dominant. When a dominant trains a slave, much work goes into the training and can be emotionally draining on a dominant because some slaves need more help than others. I have a slave not know what her gift of submission was or how the whole ettiquette, honor and the proper protocols were especially that she could not play with other dommes so I had to put so much training in with her. She is doing better but I am still having to work on her further about what the gift means and how to properly withdraw her gift is she chooses to leave so it becomes a complicated issue.
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< Message edited by MistressLisa1 -- 11/3/2005 10:44:15 PM >

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RE: Accepting a Collar - 11/5/2005 2:08:26 PM

MsIce

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I think there is a lot of misconception that 24/7 means living in a cage at all times or some such nonsense. Let's face it, in order to be a well rounded sane individual, we all need more than that - most of us HAVE to work, and we certainly need time for things like friends, family, hobbies, both physical and mental exercise, etc.

I am always surprised when people ask curiously if my slave is allowed to work! Well of course he has to work, so do I. I totally agree that there is a misconception. Being a slave doesnt mean you live in a cage, it means that you devote your life to pleasing another person, and always put that other person first in your life.

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