First Time Bein Dom-Need Some Pointers

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puppysslave13 -> First Time Bein Dom-Need Some Pointers (5/20/2008 10:05:11 PM)
I finally have an oppurtunity to dominate my bf,,,even though this is something ive always wanted to do- this is my 1st time... so if anyone had any ideas to make this a great experience.. i would appreciate it

Dnomyar -> RE: First Time Bein Dom-Need Some Pointers (5/21/2008 3:53:00 AM)
Get rid of the puppysslave name.

LotusSong -> RE: First Time Bein Dom-Need Some Pointers (5/21/2008 10:12:14 AM)
What would you LIKE to do to him? Use your imagination :)

MsIncontrol -> RE: First Time Bein Dom-Need Some Pointers (5/21/2008 10:26:52 AM)
Congratulations. First, before I wielded a paddle or swung a flogger I would make sure I had some training. So, as a beginner, I would recommend you make a list for yourself of all things you enjoy. Start training your new charge in those things. Making it known how you want to be addressed, how you wish him to dress while in your presence, how he should act around you etc. For example, anytime I take on a new submissive I do an "inspection". Make him undress and take his measurements, inspect every inch of him and make notes in a notebook. It is funny..they have no idea what you are writing...and will panic...feel a little humiliated. I say thing like "You are now my property and I want to make sure I know what I own. Shoes size?" LOL Teach him the proper ways to address you...maybe start formal protocol or position training. Just have fun....go slow...let things build up...learn together.

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: First Time Bein Dom-Need Some Pointers (5/21/2008 10:49:45 AM)
make him give you all of his money [:D]

LotusSong -> RE: First Time Bein Dom-Need Some Pointers (5/21/2008 12:47:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl make him give you all of his money [:D] ..bad faery.. baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad!!!! Now go lay down by your dish LOL

submale4u2spank -> RE: First Time Bein Dom-Need Some Pointers (5/21/2008 4:37:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsIncontrol For example, anytime I take on a new submissive I do an "inspection". Make him undress and take his measurements, inspect every inch of him and make notes in a notebook. It is funny..they have no idea what you are writing...and will panic...feel a little humiliated. I say thing like "You are now my property and I want to make sure I know what I own. Shoes size?" LOL Teach him the proper ways to address you...maybe start formal protocol or position training. Just have fun....go slow...let things build up...learn together. Awesome!

Mustardseed -> RE: First Time Bein Dom-Need Some Pointers (5/21/2008 7:37:02 PM)
When you get stuck for something to do and he's just looking at you and waiting, have him kneel in front of you -- preferably naked -- and grin mischievously. Maybe swing your legs a little while you're doing it and looking him over. If you feel like groping bits of him, do that from time to time. Inside, you're probably still freaking out about what to do. On the outside, it could very well look like plotting for the future. Either way, you get to stall in style. [:D]

BBWMarieTx -> RE: First Time Bein Dom-Need Some Pointers (5/21/2008 8:38:19 PM)
I love this idea! I have done inspections, but never writing the information down. Great Advice! Lady Marie

MasterFireMaam -> RE: First Time Bein Dom-Need Some Pointers (5/21/2008 10:52:21 PM)
Find some BDSM 101 Topping books. There are some listed in my signature. Master Fire

submale4u2spank -> RE: First Time Bein Dom-Need Some Pointers (5/22/2008 5:40:31 PM)
Make sure to tell us how it goes over.

AtlantaMistress -> RE: First Time Bein Dom-Need Some Pointers (5/23/2008 5:03:02 AM)
Do your best to really try to learn - reading some books (The Loving Dominant is a classic) is a good idea. Keep safety always in mind, and don't try to do things you haven't been properly taught how to do - nothing ruins a scene worse than someone really getting hurt. Know what his buttons are - both for reward and punishment. Have a general idea of what you would like to do in a scene, but don't script it out...just be natural. Realize that you are in control and try to tap into what will make you happy by having him serve you. The more REAL it is, the better!

lateralist1 -> RE: First Time Bein Dom-Need Some Pointers (5/23/2008 12:48:54 PM)
You won't be dominating him you will be topping him. If you want to dominate him then don't play at it do it.

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