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RE: Control Mechanisms - 5/21/2008 6:32:57 PM

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Adaptability: rigid thinking kills the dynamic.

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RE: Control Mechanisms - 5/21/2008 10:13:37 PM

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a) Your view on the most valuable control tools.

Self-discipline, the only kind that really matters

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b) Do you prefer (and why) to keep it simple and readily understood, or ensure you have a raft of means at your disposal to fit the occasion?

I think having a solid toolbox is good, with occasional special tools if necessary.

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c) To what extent do your control tools evolve in line with your subject?

Not sure how to answer this, it's not a quantitative thing. As far as it takes?

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RE: Control Mechanisms - 5/21/2008 11:04:23 PM

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Ok teach me something. What are control tools?

The means of generating behaviour in line with your expectations; for example, empowerment, discipline, supervision etc.

For the most part, this is how it works: I state what I want. I wait. The depth of the relationship is determined by the slave surrendering to what I want. Yeah, sometimes this means I wait for a while...that's ok. I waited for two years for anne to finish an assignment. I learned more about her feelings surrounding that assignment and about what she thought about the content in those two years than I ever did from the assignment itself. Our relationship deepened because of THAT much more than because of the assignment. In the end, I got what I literally asked for, but along the way, I got what I was really asking for. I think that makes sense.

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