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LivLifeByMyRules -> RE: what makes her who she is? (5/27/2008 12:53:12 PM)
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In response to what I believe was the original intention of the question, "What makes her her?" as to what I would look to change or not I believe would be a matter of what originally drew the two of you together as a compatable couple. Was it your compassionate nature? Was it your attention to detail? Was it your level of honesty?
In reality, who we are as individuals is a very fluid concept. Change is inevitable, growth is an option. we will constantly have new experiences that can influence who we will become. Ultimately what makes someone "who they are" are the choices that they make. Who you are at this very moment is based on every choice you have made leading to this point. People will argue that "circumstances" have determined who they are. As one poster listed...
My past
My parents
My education
My internal and external infleunces
My present
My experiences
My morals/ethics/beliefs
I offer that it is not these specific things, but the meaning that you attach to them, the way you choose to accept, interpret/perceive them will be the factor that determines who you "become".
As an example, 2 sons raised by an alcoholic mother and a father who was in prison for murder. One son, ends up in prison for killing someone in a drunken rage, the other becomes a successful lawyer and an outstanding citizen. When asked why they ended up where they did... each gave the same answer. "What would you expect, look at where I came from!" It's not what happens to us, it is what we do that makes the difference.
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