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bbwdommelilith -> Switches who say they are doms (5/21/2008 7:52:23 PM)
A friend of mine recently suggested that I change my profile name to reflect the fact that I have realized that I am a switch. This, of course, makes perfect sense. BUT...I have also noticed that I get contacted by men whose profiles say that they are doms, but upon further questioning are really switches.So in some ways I am really getting what I want. What is going on here, and SHOULD I change my name? *Lilith*

RedMagic1 -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/21/2008 8:08:38 PM)
I enjoy a wiiiiide variety of things in bed. I am also in charge of my life and in charge of situations. My assessments of people and situations are often correct, and I don't submit much to the will of others. I am dominant in terms of life-path. I enjoy bottoming sexually. I enjoy the missionary position too. I chose the "Dominant" role in this profile because mental/emotional/spiritual seemed more important to me than sexual.

GreedyTop -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/21/2008 8:11:37 PM)
Don't change your name unless you feel compelled to.

Leatherist -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/21/2008 8:25:27 PM)
Do as you see fit...... Personally, I find no enjoyment in giving up control or bottoming. I do that enough to make a living, I have no interest in taking it home with me.

jim64 -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/21/2008 8:33:35 PM)
As a sub that has switchy feelings, i have ask a lot of questions lately. What i have discovered is there are lot of people who identify as a switch. Like everything else, just do what feels right to you. i don't think you should change your name. Unless, you decide YOU want to.

LadyPact -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/21/2008 9:02:02 PM)
No matter what your friend says, I'm of a firm belief that the best person who can identify who you are, is you.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/21/2008 11:05:56 PM)
Some people have two profiles, one for Dom and one for sub, because the label of switch can be negative. In the end, there's only one question: what makes YOU comfortable? Master Fire

Justme696 -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/22/2008 12:19:19 AM)
you always can "switch" back if you change

Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/22/2008 1:19:48 AM)
In enjoy recieving some pain every now and again, since when did having a maso streak not make me Switch in terms of Orientation? In terms of during play I might be considered a Switch (to a limited degrees). Try being in a DOM Power couple relationship and play rough with one another.. Do you see the perspective where I'm coming from. I myself was somewhat confused, thinking to myself am I a DOM or am I a Switch... It's a bit of a mind bender. But in reality! Even Dom/mes can kick back and enjoy recieving something.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/22/2008 1:43:01 AM)
For some of us, Topping and/or bottoming is a physical sensation and doesn't have anything to do with your role. Dominant and submissive are your roles (as are Master and slave). A Dominant can like to bottom, yet still be Dominant (Hit me harder, I said!). A submissive can like to Top, but not change role (May I hit you harder, Sir?). Switches are more complex. A switch can switch Top/bottom, Dom/sub or both. It's like mix and match clothing. Whatever's clean and fits is what gets worn. ;-) Master Fire

Justme696 -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/22/2008 1:45:02 AM)
good old topping from the bottom will be back!! IF people don't mind that, they should do what makes them happy.

Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/22/2008 2:07:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam For some of us, Topping and/or bottoming is a physical sensation and doesn't have anything to do with your role. Dominant and submissive are your roles (as are Master and slave). A Dominant can like to bottom, yet still be Dominant (Hit me harder, I said!). A submissive can like to Top, but not change role (May I hit you harder, Sir?). Switches are more complex. A switch can switch Top/bottom, Dom/sub or both. It's like mix and match clothing. Whatever's clean and fits is what gets worn. ;-) Master Fire I have to make a comment here. My BDSM/Kink Life was in many ways easier before discovering "the lifestyle" and having to dealing with all the wonderful labels and stereotyping that goes on.

Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/22/2008 2:21:01 AM)
Now Now.. a Trew DOM will never be a bottom to anything, not even a back massage! Topping from the bottom, gee, you mean people actually do that? I'm being sarcastic here. But there are so many people who's minds are wrapped up in D/s to the nth degree. "Switch" - now there's a word. Can a Switch honestly be involved in a D/s relationship? The answers might suprise a few people. Misconception is the Bitch Slapping Mother of Stereotypical Ingorance. Has your mother slapped you good today?

Dnomyar -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/22/2008 3:24:58 AM)
There is a forum here for Switches. For some reason the mentaly challenged people on here distain Switches. Mmmm if you remove the S from Switches I can see why.

DesFIP -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/22/2008 3:47:37 AM)
Do you actually enjoy having your partner tell you what to do or do you just occasionally want to be the bottom? And how often do you want to switch? One time in a month? Then you're a mainly dominant switch so you should look for a mainly submissive male.

Justme696 -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/22/2008 3:48:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave "Switch" - now there's a word. Can a Switch honestly be involved in a D/s relationship? The answers might suprise a few people. give the answer please, I pressume you have it. btw the lifestyle creates all these questions itself, because instead of living they try to name and box everything..lol almost seems a daytime job to discuss the meaning of the words. I don't mind in what box they stop me.. I do as I please....and I do give back rubs..but I call it maintenance on property [:D]

RCdc -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/22/2008 4:14:01 AM)
If you want to change your name because of someone else and because they tell you to - then do it. Or change your name because it is what you feel is more appropriate. You can be dictated to by the masses or be in control of your own life. You choose. the.dark.

Dnomyar -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/22/2008 4:31:16 AM)
Justme I like your property maintenance thing. Great way to put it. Just one question. If I don't own the person how can I do property maintenance?

Justme696 -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/22/2008 4:39:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar Justme I like your property maintenance thing. Great way to put it. Just one question. If I don't own the person how can I do property maintenance? conquer her..with your charm ...piece of cake ;)

ToysAndTies -> RE: Switches who say they are doms (5/22/2008 5:45:57 AM)
A better way for collarme to set up the sub/dom/switch part of profiles would be a slider bar of some kind, with sub at one end and dom at the other. Picking a spot on a spectrum is usually a better fit than choosing a box. True, some people have a Dom profile, as well as a sub profile, however, I feel that if you prefer both ends of the field, it makes more sense to select "Switch" for the simple reason that anyone who specifically singles out "not seeking switches" isn't worth my time anyway. We switches have the joy of not being "twue" anything: others assume that just because we like to change things up a bit, that we like to do that with individuals. Some do, having another switch playmate is fun because you greatly expand the possibilities in a given night. But I tend to find a certain dynamic with another person, and tend to stick to one role with most people. Just because someone switches, doesn't mean that they want to switch with you.

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