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OmegaG -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/22/2008 7:41:10 AM)
only you can decide on your own comfort level, however blocking all forms of communication seems like a pretty decisive statement to me.

KatyLied -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/22/2008 7:48:34 AM)
quote: you should open my truck glovebox. What? I have not. I repeat, I have not sent Dnomyar used panties [:D]

sabirah -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/22/2008 7:55:33 AM)
Maturity in any relationship is a must, communication is an absolute.From the sound of your post, you have neither coming back to you from your partner.I do realize that closure is needed in order to move on. sadly, sometimes we never get that peace of mind to know exactly why or what went wrong.( we tend to pick up and just move on) I would suggest that you look at the actions of your Domme, to me it is very clear there was no concern about your feelings or a wish to continue.

Mercnbeth -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/22/2008 7:56:36 AM)
this slave has never had an online relationship, but would assume that putting someone on "iggy" or "block" would be but one online relationship way of ending it. this slave thinks perhaps you are putting expectations of non-online relationships on an online relationship. ever see the video by Kelly, "You can't text-message break-up!!"?? it's sort of like that, but in reverse. this slave would not expect an online relationship to function or end in the same way as an off-line one. flesh-on-flesh relationships (thanks erin!!!) have different parameters---and no keyboard---so alternate methods of ending things, such as a face-to-face conversation wouldn't be an unreasonable expectation.

sweetNsmartBBW -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/22/2008 8:07:27 AM)
It's been a while since I posted, but needed to weigh in on this one. If I am reading you correctly, you are concerned that she is just ignoring you as punishment- and that you have not been released? My suggestion is this: write her an email explaining this, also- have your mutual friends forward a message to her with the same information. Inform her that while you have waited this long, it is reasonable for you to expect communication of some sort and that if you do not have it by such and such a date, you will consider yourself released. Otherwise, what I suspect will happen is this: you will declare yourself free, and she will come back and blame you for being too hasty in your actions. You will be told she never intended to release you, but that your actions ended things; thus putting the onus on you and she will have a clear conscience. It's hooey, of course, but...highly likely in a situation like this. Remember: you are a submissive; not a mind reader.

Dnomyar -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/22/2008 8:44:11 AM)
Katy don't hold out to long or the glove box will be to full. Sweet NSmart. She put him on block.

mistoferin -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/22/2008 9:13:55 AM)
Note to self: Never carpool to a munch if Dnomyar is the driver.

Aileen1968 -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/22/2008 9:18:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar Katy don't hold out to long or the glove box will be to full. Sweet NSmart. She put him on block. Soooooo...how much you paying for used panties? Aileen needs a new camera lens.

chaah -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/22/2008 9:27:52 AM)
quote: sweetNsmartBBW: It's been a while since I posted, but needed to weigh in on this one. If I am reading you correctly, you are concerned that she is just ignoring you as punishment- and that you have not been released? My suggestion is this: write her an email explaining this, also- have your mutual friends forward a message to her with the same information. Inform her that while you have waited this long, it is reasonable for you to expect communication of some sort and that if you do not have it by such and such a date, you will consider yourself released. Otherwise, what I suspect will happen is this: you will declare yourself free, and she will come back and blame you for being too hasty in your actions. You will be told she never intended to release you, but that your actions ended things; thus putting the onus on you and she will have a clear conscience. It's hooey, of course, but...highly likely in a situation like this. Remember: you are a submissive; not a mind reader. My concerns are.. I do not what she expects of me, if this is punishment, or if it my release and what exactly caused this. I did email her asking her what is happening with no response received. One mutual friend messaged her for me when she was online and she immediately left or blocked her. That could be because it was a friend more of mine than hers though. I do not know, but I do not wish to have her angered by me sending others to bother her, and/or cause her to block other friends. I will probably try to send one more email to one of her other email addresses. I do not think it is proper, but I need to know though I do not wish to make demands. I am worried that in a few weeks or something if I do guess that I am free, and stop following the rules she has set, that she may return and be upset and leave me as you said, though I worry it would be sincerely on me then. It is so confusing and I think I got in way over my head very quickly without ever seeing the tide come in... Thank you.

OmegaG -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/22/2008 9:53:25 AM)
without reasonable and responsible communication your only resort is to be a bit selfish and do what is right for you and you alone. And personally, I wouldn't care if she made me the scape goat to her mistakes.

RCdc -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/22/2008 9:53:41 AM)
Dearest chaah What you have to do above anything else IMO - is decide if this behaviour is acceptable to you. You do not seem to like this, nor do you seem to have be informed. Is this the kind of relationship you really want? One where you are left not knowing either way? Is this healthy or postive for you? Is it causing you disturbance? If you are being given silence and you are informed - then you would not be asking us and your dominnat communicated clearly and would be punishing you. If you are suffering in this silence and have no idea whether you are to move on or whether you are expected to wait then that is poor communication of the dominants part and is nothing more than a head game should she return. I know my choice in this scenario. Mine would be to remove my submission to this person and find a relationship that is constructive to my development, not negative. But your choice may be different. Be safe the.dark.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/22/2008 10:25:46 AM)
If this were a vanilla girl you were dating, how long would it take of her exhibiting the same behavior for you to move on? Master Fire

xxblushesxx -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/22/2008 10:58:17 AM)
[sm=biggrin.gif] quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 Maybe she had a power failure.

sweetNsmartBBW -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/22/2008 12:25:15 PM)
chaah...you have to do what's right for you. Does not matter if you are submissive, slave, vanilla- ~you~ are ultimately responsible for your own well being. If that well being is best served by submitting to another- thats awesome. However, in this case, you really need to ask yourself if that's the case? And no, I beg to differ with your conclusion that if your dominant leaves you over this, it would sincerely be on you. You can't make a relationship work if you are the only one contributing to it; trust me, I have tried in the past. A few questions, if I may? Why would you want to stay in a relationship with a dominant where you are not even informed, after a more than reasonable amount of time, if they are withdrawing attention out of punishment? How long, exactly, are you willing to allow this to go on? Don't feel compelled to reply, but please, do ponder the answers for yourself. Best of luck to you...

akisha -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/22/2008 12:29:43 PM)
~FR~ This may have been said already as I have not read everyone elses response yet. IF someone blocked me, or hell just did not respond to me for a couple days. I would release them. YA sure I'm submissive but I have as much right to end a relationship as the D persona does. I don't go for drama or BS. relationships are a two way street. My question is, if your dominant partner is treating you in the way you describe why would you want to remain theirs? Why does it matter if they have choosen to keep you or not?? If they block you and ignore you once chances are they will again. If you are treated thus in just an online situation, imagine if and when you are living together and one day you come home from work and all the locks are changed and your stuff is in the front yard (if you are that lucky)

thornhappy -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/22/2008 5:49:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar happypervert you should open my truck glovebox. ewwwwwwwwwww [:'(]

Dnomyar -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/23/2008 4:39:45 AM)
Aileen you should let me look first. I will tell you if a new camera lens is needed. For some reason the smell from my glove box attracts females. Im seeing a Pro side of Aileen. Selling her panties. I wonder if the op even paid attention to wnat anyone said on here.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/23/2008 4:52:11 AM)
Chaah, I know you said you did something to upset her a few weeks ago but she said it was OK. She also may have said she blamed herself. However IMO, Although she said this obviously what happened altered her feelings in an irreversible way. I know I have been in situations where I said an apology was accepted and I did accept the apology but whatever transpired changed my view about the person in an irreversible way. The relationship was damaged and there was no going back. This is what might have happened. You don't have to ask release from someone who is ignoring you. Be strong, value yourself and move on. Good luck and (((hugs))).

chaah -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/23/2008 8:39:44 AM)
Dnomyar, seeing as I have responded several times thus far, obviously I have paid some level of attention. However I have been skipping over the posts in which you and others have chosen to simply mock and make fun of things, "contributing" what appears at a glance to be nothing more than mockery and nonsense... Perhaps I am wrong, but it seems so, and I have felt bad enough without reading through such things to compound it further if it seems it is only mockery. I am happy to read posts that seem to contribute, even when they say things that are unpleasant, but again... Only serious posts... Anyhow, this is not typical situations between she and I, else it would not be so confusing and painful. Generally speaking our relation has been a wonderful very positive experience for me, and she has said previously (before this last upset) that it has been for her as well, though she used different words. Just when she is made angry, it sometimes lingers for weeks. However, she has been very good for my growth as a person during our time together. As such, I wish to remain with her, should she too be willing. Even if I wished to end our relation (which I do NOT) I do not feel that is my place to make that decision, though I would tell her my wishes and ask. Anyhow.. She contacted me last night, and when I asked if I am hers, she did not answer. A while later, she told me she will not be around for a long while (she did not state such, but she meant for me, as she is allowing me to see when she is online, and she is retaining her general schedule) and that I should not message her until she messages me in the future. So, I do not have a clear verbal answer. But since she told me I am not to contact her, until she messages me and when I told her I would of course obey and continue to follow the guidelines she has set for what is permitted or not, she did not tell me I need not do so, I am still hers, at least for now. :)

SingleRarity -> RE: How do you know... (Drama-ish) (5/23/2008 9:02:36 AM)
Wait. So she's going to keep up with her normal life, spend her usual time on line, but you can't contact her? Why are you staying in a "relationship" with her? Do you have any value for yourself? I know better than getting into the ol/rl debate, but if anybody has ever needed a dose real life, it's you. You deserve better.

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