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Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/22/2008 12:08:20 PM   
MissLynnsboy


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Status: offline 		My Mistress has already chastised me 3 weeks ago and last night Mistress told me that i would be cuckolded this September following our August wedding. I want to please Her more than anything , but i am afraid of how my emotions will be during the experience. Mistress is being more than fair by allowing me to use safe words if neccessary and i will be allowed to participate during the play after awhile. Does any one have any advice on how to handle the emotional issues of being cucked ???
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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/22/2008 12:18:26 PM   
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Mistress is being more than fair by allowing me to use safe words if neccessary and i will be allowed to participate during the play after awhile.
 

I'd be more concerned with the poor third party here.  What happens to him if fifteen minutes into the sex, YOU suddenly call safeword.   Not only do most guys like to finish at least once, it also reduces him to a biological vibrator that she can turn off if you can't handle it.

What sort of provisions have been made for the other person in this temporary triad?

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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/22/2008 12:34:16 PM   
MissLynnsboy


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Status: offline 		Thanks for your reply !I told Mistress that i would not use the safe words , no matter how intense things get . I will not ruin this for Her or Her Bull. Just looking for advice on how to make this go smoothly for us all.

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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/22/2008 3:58:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm not really understanding the set up here (or maybe it's the cold medicine talking)... she is going to humiliate you by having sex with another man (that's the part where you're being cucked)... so why do you get a safeword?  And then you get to join in?  So basically you're having a threesome with either your wife or this other guy in charge? 

And you want to know how to make this go smoothly?  Do you want this? How do you feel about your wife (about-to-be-wife) having sex with other men?  What part do you think is not going to go well?

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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/22/2008 4:35:30 PM   
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   I'm not entirely sure whether you're actually reluctant or pulling the "I don't want to ::pleasemakemepleasemakeme::" reluctance that seems a big part of cucking. If you are really uncomfortable with the idea, then you might want to talk to your mistress about things. The idea that you don't get a safeword (and that the emotional damage would likely be done before you called "red") would make me nervous, but then, I'm not big on the cuckolding.
  As far as keeping control of your emotions, your mistress probably wants to see them. Unless she expects you to be completely happy and comfortable with the triad, she is doing this to work up your emotions and she'll get off on seeing you struggle with yourself. If you fear a more physically bad reaction (like trying to pry them apart), you could ask her to tie you down, so she can see you struggle both emotionally and physically. Again, however, if you don't want to do this, then the bondage is a particularly bad idea.
  Good luck and congratulations on the wedding!

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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/23/2008 11:29:52 AM   
Shawn1066


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Status: offline 		Well, seeing as my Owner's other pet, Angel, is cuckholded...  I do have some views on this entire matter.  To recap, Angel is not a romantic slave with my Owner and it's a role he will never fill for his personal religious reasons and due to the fact my Owner and I are sexually monogamous.  Sex has never been a part of their relationship, and while she'll allow him a romantic one elsewhere if he finds it, he's cuckholded.

Why?  Because it's something he enjoys fantasizing about and it works off of their dynamic better.

If it ever reaches a certain point, many years from now...   My Owner would like him to watch us.  Because it's something he thinks he might enjoy, and because it's something she knows she will enjoy.  She just wants to make sure he -really- wants it before it happens.  Even if he does, she realizes that the fantasy may not equal the reality at all, and she's allowed him a safeword.  The last thing she wants is for him to be humiliated and hurt in a manner that isn't enjoyable.

The last thing -I- want is for him to be upset by our relationship.  He and I will never interact beyond being friends.  99.9% of the time(the .1% was mentioned already) we will be utterly vanilla when all three of us are together.  It's the best way for us to interact.

I don't understand what he gets out of it, but if my Owner wants to try it then I have no problem trying it at least once.  I have my reservations, but that's really it.

My advice?  Make sure you can handle it.  Make sure it's what you want.  Make sure that your Owner realizes your feelings behind the manner.  Make sure that the 3rd party fully understands things.  If that means everything is basically scripted the first few times to make sure everybody's alright, then who cares?

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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/23/2008 11:51:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		can you handle seeing her have sex with another man ? ecspecially if he is well endowed  more then you are ? does she expect you to be the cleanup boy ? can you handle swallowimg another mans cum ? what about if he is black and you are white ? watching live sex can be pretty erotic and itimate indeed but how well is your relationship with her ? because if you are not ready to share her then your marriage wont last very long and alot of damage can be done by doing this ..if your very liberal in your views this might be for you if not dont do it !! mal

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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/23/2008 12:49:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MissLynnsboy

I told Mistress that i would not use the safe words , no matter how intense things get . I will not ruin this for Her or Her Bull.


Good choice. I can't really see the need for safewords at all in connection with cuckolding. - I think that as long as it's something you really want to experience yourself, you'll be fine.


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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/23/2008 1:52:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		i'm sorry but i didn't think that cuckolding was about choice. 

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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/23/2008 2:09:10 PM   
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i'm sorry but i didn't think that cuckolding was about choice. 


there is a choice about whether to please the Dom or not, isn't there?

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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/23/2008 2:28:16 PM   
dragon2760


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ORIGINAL: MstrVik

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i'm sorry but i didn't think that cuckolding was about choice. 


there is a choice about whether to please the Dom or not, isn't there?


but is choosing to please your Dom by watching her have sex with someone else the same as be cuckolded.  According to the dictioanary a cuckold is a man whose wife has committed adultery.  By it's very nature adultery is committed without the consent of the other.  So to consent to your wife having sex with other would that still be adultery or just having an open relationship?  Sounds like a bit of a catch22 to me.

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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/23/2008 3:07:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: dragon2760

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ORIGINAL: MstrVik

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ORIGINAL: dragon2760

i'm sorry but i didn't think that cuckolding was about choice. 


there is a choice about whether to please the Dom or not, isn't there?


but is choosing to please your Dom by watching her have sex with someone else the same as be cuckolded.  According to the dictioanary a cuckold is a man whose wife has committed adultery.  By it's very nature adultery is committed without the consent of the other.  So to consent to your wife having sex with other would that still be adultery or just having an open relationship?  Sounds like a bit of a catch22 to me.


The dictionary, especially on very old words that have been adopted by various fetish communities, is not always accurate.  You only need to look at the number of dominant women with profiles stating they are looking for a male to be their cuckhold to see that nonconsent is not nessicarily part of it.

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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/24/2008 9:43:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MissLynnsboy

My Mistress has already chastised me 3 weeks ago and last night Mistress told me that i would be cuckolded this September following our August wedding. I want to please Her more than anything , but i am afraid of how my emotions will be during the experience. Mistress is being more than fair by allowing me to use safe words if neccessary and i will be allowed to participate during the play after awhile. Does any one have any advice on how to handle the emotional issues of being cucked ???


No advice...but a question:

Has she got a sister? :)

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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/24/2008 12:00:07 PM   
dragon2760


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Status: offline 		As a man who has been cuckolded in the literal since of the word it was not a good experience.  i saw it as a violation of a trust relationship that had been built up over 15 years.  Of course i am no longer married to that woman either.  Then again it did not occur within the BDSM context.  So i guess context has everything to do with it.  For me it's not really cuckolding if you already know about it ahead of time.  It's just watching/agreeing to your  partner having sex with someone else.

I guess this really is something i shouldn't be posting to considering my feelings toward it.

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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/24/2008 12:13:06 PM   
IdiotMale


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Status: offline 		If she wishes to cuckold you and you are her slave,then that should be the end of it. It is here right to have sex with other men while denying you the same luxury.

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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/25/2008 8:47:33 PM   
slavekal


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Status: offline 		The emotions can be gut-wrenching.  The trick is to transfer that intensity into sexual energy.  Actually, that is more your Mistress' responsibility than it is yours.  If she is in tune with you, she should be able to use your jealousy to the advantage of all concerned.

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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/28/2008 4:25:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: slavekal

The emotions can be gut-wrenching.  The trick is to transfer that intensity into sexual energy.  Actually, that is more your Mistress' responsibility than it is yours.  If she is in tune with you, she should be able to use your jealousy to the advantage of all concerned.


YES,YES,YES!!!!  The perfect answer!!!!  So glad I read this before I posted.  I am a cuckqueaned slave and believe me this is SO true.  However, there's certainly a personal responsibility to let her know if you aren't quite ready yet... a little time is not too much to ask (IMO) in this situation.  In short, don't let your emotions cock up the cuck.... the sexual charge is vital.-- Bitch

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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/28/2008 5:53:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		ok first the advise to channel the energy into sexual excitement is a great advise. now if you are not ready for this step then call yellow now She obviously loves you if not then why would She marry you (congrats) next sex in a cockold scene is sex physical pleasure what i hope you both have is a emotional sex and that runs deeper no matter how hung you are this partner can never replace that emotional bond. i am bi and Mistress and i do cockolds all the time i love them and so does Mistress and the third always loves them hell he better he never goes home without haveing atleast 2 orgasiums. do you know what my reward is the time W/we have together in bed alone after it is so intense She never goes to me I wish so and so was still here I like him better it is always I am glad he is gone now for O/our time come get your reward.

ok that is my 2 cents other then one more thing BDSM is about trust both ways do you trust Her and does She trust you

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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/28/2008 9:24:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MissLynnsboy

My Mistress has already chastised me 3 weeks ago and last night Mistress told me that i would be cuckolded this September following our August wedding. I want to please Her more than anything , but i am afraid of how my emotions will be during the experience. Mistress is being more than fair by allowing me to use safe words if neccessary and i will be allowed to participate during the play after awhile. Does any one have any advice on how to handle the emotional issues of being cucked ???


If she has left you to figure this out on your own, you are fucked and NOT in a good way.  I highly recomend you try this and her out LONG before you are married as I have a feeling the hot fantasy is going to fade faster than your hard on.


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RE: Advice for a Soon to be Cuckold - 5/30/2008 11:13:27 PM   
simonross


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Status: offline 		Having acted as the 3rd person in a number of cuckold senarios, I think you are getting some very good advice from the people on this thread.

Bottom line, don't do it if you have the SLIGHTEST concern over it's effect on your relationship, yes it can be very erotic for guys who are into it, but your relationship will never quite be the same again, be prepared for that.

Make sure the 3rd person is a stranger to you both, you really only need him to turn up, do the business and leave, don't use friends or someone you are likely to bump into in everyday life.

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