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Re: Non-sexual service slaves - 5/22/2008 5:42:02 PM

PortlandMaster13

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Howdy y'all.

I've recently been offered a non-sexual service slave. he is interested in doing housework and other mundane tasks. he enjoys punishment and abuse, but his main focus is on the housework.
What perplexes Me, is what do I do with him? I have never had a non-sexual slave and the fact that housework is the priority for him... I guess I just have a hard time understanding that since I hate housework Myself.
Do I just put him to work and go about My own business or do I stand over him, scrutinizing his work? Do I flog him as he's working?
What would you expect in such a situation?

Thanks for your advice.

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RE: Re: Non-sexual service slaves - 5/22/2008 5:44:26 PM

DiurnalVampire

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Depends on what you get when you chat with him. Is he in it for the compliments on a job well done? Does he want to earn playtime (obviously, not sex, but punishment) for doing the work? Sometimes people just need to feel useful and doing the little things around the house you dislike make them feel that way. Other times there is something in it for them. ASk him what he would like to see come of the arrangement. Find out his motivation and you will better know what to expect.

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RE: Re: Non-sexual service slaves - 5/22/2008 5:48:48 PM

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being a service-oriented submissive (not a slave), doing such things without the expectation, desire or need for sexual activity, makes me happy. would never do anything to intentionally get punished, but it's part of life. i feel better doing things unsupervised, but checking the work afterwards is up to the Dominant...as is any punishment that occurs if things are not done to the Dominant's liking. not every submissive, slave or bottom (whichever term You prefer) is out for sex.

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RE: Re: Non-sexual service slaves - 5/22/2008 6:24:05 PM

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Find out if he's task or goal oriented. If he's goal oriented, give him a list of stuff that needs to be done. If he's task, give him one thing to go do, then have him report. Then give him another thing to go do.

Find out if he's praise or punishment driven, or if simply serving is enough reward. If the former, expect to inspect what's been done and praide or punish accordingly. If the latter, a "good job", "good boy" or "good slave" usually works.

Find out if he even wants a reward or trade for services. Find out if he wants to play with you before assuming he does. He might not.

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RE: Re: Non-sexual service slaves - 5/22/2008 6:32:44 PM

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What MasterFireMaam said, I could keep one busy full time for years without sex.

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RE: Re: Non-sexual service slaves - 5/22/2008 6:34:53 PM

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The question one always asks of a service slave is...
"What do they see in YOU?"

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RE: Re: Non-sexual service slaves - 5/22/2008 7:33:59 PM

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I can only speak for myself, but...I like doing stuff, independant of sex/play. I don't mind the sex/play (thats a bit of an understatement) and as a female I find its usally part of the relationship, but thats separate from 'service'.

I find it very gratifying to be able to do something useful and know that someone's benefitting from it. I especially like to do housework but will do (or try) pretty much anything. Except climbing ladders. I'm no good at pushing snow off roofs. :)

Everybody's probably different, but I like to be left alone so I can concentrate on what I'm supposed to be doing, unless we're working together on something. If I'm involved with someone, and they're around, I'm going to be focused on them and not the job at hand and it causes me a lot of anxiety.

I don't need a lot of reward or even punishment. I think I would have a break down if someone followed me around with a flogger while I was dusting. :)

I do need to feel that what I've done is valued, and have it checked so any mistakes can be corrected and I can do better the next time. I guess I need to feel that the other person cares as much as I do about the job. Otherwise, why do it?

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RE: Re: Non-sexual service slaves - 5/22/2008 7:47:23 PM

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I really want to tell you to box him up and Fed-Ex him to Edmonton!

I guess you could ask him what he expects from you while he is cleaning. When that offer has been made to me, I let them clean and went about my business.

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RE: Re: Non-sexual service slaves - 5/22/2008 8:48:22 PM

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Smiles at all them,that when you remove sex from the dainamic are so lost.

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RE: Re: Non-sexual service slaves - 5/22/2008 8:50:57 PM

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who needs sex anyway?

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RE: Re: Non-sexual service slaves - 5/22/2008 9:07:02 PM

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What MasterFireMaam said- your relationship is with him, ask him how he works and figure it out together.

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RE: Re: Non-sexual service slaves - 5/23/2008 4:47:08 PM

PortlandMaster13

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Thank you all for the responses!

I asked and received the following response:
Goal or task doesn't really matter to me....it's what You prefer, Sir. Getting a chance to serve is motivation enough for me. Hopefully i can be useful and/or entertaining, Sir, even if it's just through serving as your foot stool, body rubber, or bathroom scrubber. i'll work hard for your approval.

Now that I understand his motivation, I believe W/we will be well matched.

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RE: Re: Non-sexual service slaves - 5/24/2008 3:55:06 PM

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i started as a service submissive for play time. i would eagerly do chores dishes and mowing and such for the opportunity to play. i still relish the play time but i still do like to work as well. enjoy what you have and teach him well for he may become more someday.

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