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LadyAngelika -> RE: do you believe everyone has same sex fantasies? (7/23/2004 7:53:42 AM)
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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty
Never had one. The closest I come is tying a husband up so he can watch me use his wife.
That said, I still consider my primary sex to be "dominant" and I do get a thrill thinking about topping a woman who is topping a man. Given the right situation, I am certain I would top (I am thinking of bondage or torture scenes here) a man, but there would be very little true "sexual" charge in it for me, and all of that would be from the power exchange.
I'm starting to really adore your kinky mind! I agree that BDSM doesn’t necessarily have to be sexual. I, myself, have played with one masochist woman who were pretty much hetero, as she appreciated my sadistic style, but there was nothing intimately sexual by as per her request. I am also now reminded of Lawrence’s post about he and his valet Johnny.
On the topic at hand now…
I like Dr. Kinsey’s theory on sexual preference. His research has been supported over the years by other researchers such as Masters & Johnson. Instead of saying that people are homo/hetero, he developed a 7-point scale and he also emphasized continuity between the gradations:
0 - exclusively heterosexual
1 - predominantly heterosexual, incidentally homosexual
2 - predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual
3 - equally heterosexual and homosexual
4 - predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual
5 - predominantly homosexual, incidentally heterosexual
6 - exclusively homosexual
He also took into account 2 variables: fantasy & frequency.
For example, I would consider myself a Kinsey 3 in fantasy but my reality is more a 2, maybe even 1.5, since in my “playground”, there are higher amount of male subs in the 0-4 area then female subs in the 2-6.
Two interesting tidbits on this topic:
1) Kinsey was a libertarian, a pervert and a self-masochist (he inflicted pain on himself, for example self-circumcision with a fountain pen) and self-admittedly a 4 on his own scale.
2) The word "homosexual" was coined in 1869 by Hungarian physician Karoly Maria Benkert. The word heterosexual was coined afterwards. Foucault, on who’s writings is the foundation of whole tenets of studies in sexuality, argues that before 1870, same-sex acts were seen as forbidden, illegal and sinful, but a temptation to which an individual my succumb. The act, however, was not understood to constitute a certain kind of individual.
- LA
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