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slavegirljoy -> RE: TPE Is It Possible? (5/23/2008 11:19:05 PM)
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ORIGINAL: subsdmn
I was talking with a Domme friend of mine and we were talking about TPE relationships. She has been in the lifestyle for some time now and stated that it is very rare to have a TPE relationship with anyone due to compatibility issues, energy, time as well as other factors. Do any of you agree or disagree? Has anyone been in a TPE relationship or are in one that is sucessful?
This is my personal opinion and perspective.
Is it possible to be in a live-in, long-term, committed relationship, where one person is in the position of power in that relationship and the other is under the control of the other? Sure. Why not? People can make their relationship anything they want, with as many partners in it as they want, with whatever power (decision-making) structure they want, with whatever rules and privileges they want. It's up to the people involved in that relationship to decide how they want to live. And, they can refer to it with whatever term they choose.
Does everyone define TPE the same way? No. But, this describes my relationship with my Master and, He and i consider our relationship to be structured on the principle of Total Power Exchange and our relationship has been working successfully this way for over 2 1/2 years, and counting.
There are some people who reject the idea of TPE relationships, all together. That's their personal opinion. There are many different opinions about it. Some people don't like the term, "Total Power Exchange" and they choose to use the term, "Ultimate Authority Transfer" or something else.
There are no universal absolutes about intimate relationships. Each and every relationship is unique, even if there might be some similarities or common traits with other relationships. Ask 100 married couples what defines Marriage and you are likely to get many different answers. Ask 100 parents what defines Parenting and, again, there are likely to be many different answers. Are they all wrong, simply because they don't agree with each other? No. Are they all right, even though they are not in agreement with each other? Yes, they are right for their own particular situation. Defining our intimate relationships is totally subjective and based on each person's own perspective.
If you are wanting to get one universal definition for TPE, that's not likely to happen. If you are wanting opinions about what defines TPE, no doubt, you can get plenty of them. If you are just curious, you can read a lot of different opinions about TPE. If you are looking to possibly have a TPE relationship, decide for yourself what you would like to get from such a relationship and why. Then, talk with whomever you are considering such a relationship with to find out how they define TPE and what they are looking to get from it. After all, when it comes to defining relationships, it's really only the definitions of the people in the relationship that matters, because you are the one's who are living it. Everyone else's definition might be interesting to learn about and might give you some food for thought but, when it comes right down to it, you define who you are and you define (with your partner) what your relationship is.
More about TPE can be found in the following threads:
TPE relationships (help me understand)
http://www.collarchat.com/m_1363037/mpage_3/key_tpe/tm.htm#1373093
What does TPE mean to you?
http://www.collarchat.com/m_972157/mpage_1/key_tpe/tm.htm#972661
TPE = Totally Pointless Expression?
http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=1870127
Oh, and by the way, there are all sorts of different types of property, including animate and inanimate objects. And, not all property has the same purpose or the same value. Being the property of another, while not legally enforceable, is, again, up to the people involved in that relationship and, what that means is up to them, as well. There are people who reject the notion of a person being the property of another. That's their personal view. It's not universally true for all.
As for me, i am not treated like a dog or like any other type of property. i am treated like the unique and irreplaceable property that i am. i own a dog and my dog is not my slave. i am more like a slave to my dog. She does her best to dominate me every chance she gets. Luckily, my Master is bigger, stronger and meaner than she is and He is the only one allowed to dominate me so, He makes certain that she doesn't get away with that sort of stuff (except when He's enjoying the show, that is).
As i said, this is my personal opinion and perspective, based on my own unique life experience. While TPE relationships may or may not be rare, one thing i am certain, after having been involved in several D/s-type and BD/SM relationships since 1977, this is the first and only time i have ever experienced a relationship built on and operated under a Total Power Exchange approach. And, it's working great for me and my Master. It is also not a rigid or static relationship. There is flexibility built-in that, at my Master's discretion, allows for changes to be made to deal with the fluid and changeable nature that is a part of everyday life.
joy
Owned servant of Master David
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