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angelbites77 -> BE IN CONTROL (5/23/2008 7:48:33 PM)
I'm pissed off!! I got together with a man who has a post in this site claiming that he has had ten year experience as dom. It's a bunch of BULLSHIT!! this was first experience as a sub in relationship like this. He kind of ruined it for me, I was willing to do anything for him. Even being with another woman, I started to fall for him as well, and as my dom he could have stopped it just by telling that I was not for him. Yet, he just kept using me to get a threesome, the son of a bitch!! I want to hurt the crap out him, beat him down and spit on him, cause he's a FUCKING ASSHOLE!! The lesson learn from this is that I'm would've not made a good sub, I dont believe he was a good dom either. When you say that you have ten yrs of experience being one, you should know and be able to clearly communicate to your sub which way, your relationship should be heading towards to; BE IN CONTROL. He was not. However, I do think I would make a great mistress.

NumberSix -> RE: BE IN CONTROL (5/23/2008 7:53:54 PM)
LOL, it is like insight evaporating all over the place in all directions. Not to worry, probably no one is none the wiser.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: BE IN CONTROL (5/23/2008 7:59:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelbites77 I'm pissed off!! I got together with a man who has a post in this site claiming that he has had ten year experience as dom. It's a bunch of BULLSHIT!! this was first experience as a sub in relationship like this. He kind of ruined it for me, I was willing to do anything for him. Even being with another woman, I started to fall for him as well, and as my dom he could have stopped it just by telling that I was not for him. Yet, he just kept using me to get a threesome, the son of a bitch!! I want to hurt the crap out him, beat him down and spit on him, cause he's a FUCKING ASSHOLE!! The lesson learn from this is that I'm would've not made a good sub, I dont believe he was a good dom either. When you say that you have ten yrs of experience being one, you should know and be able to clearly communicate to your sub which way, your relationship should be heading towards to; BE IN CONTROL. He was not. However, I do think I would make a great mistress. Don't assume that because you had a bad experience that you are not a submissive. You just didn't have a real Master to commit to. I am not saying you wouldn't make good Mistress material, just that one bad experience should not color your perception of who you are until you find someone legitimate to Train or mentor you.

ThundersCry -> RE: BE IN CONTROL (5/23/2008 8:06:24 PM)
Well...poo Welcome to the world of bdsm... To bad it has to be this way for some of...us. Accept it for what it was and move on... You may end up a wonderfull submissive to the right man at some point or...the right...mistress I can`t say I did not learn alot...the hard way myself. It is what it is... Good luck in whatever you...do.

angelbites77 -> RE: BE IN CONTROL (5/23/2008 8:19:18 PM)
I did enjoy pleasing him, I like to please my man. I guess I'll just have to keep looking for the right one. You're right he was not a real master.

TwistedLeather -> RE: BE IN CONTROL (5/24/2008 1:38:42 AM)
Just because he wasn't a good Dom for you doesn't mean he's a bad Dom. He's just not a right match... for you. Everyone is different. There are more degrees and variences in this lifestyle then anyone can ever count. Was he just using you to get a three-sum or is he just expecting a sexual submissive that'll go to her corner when he's done using her? Humm... using her, sounds kinda Dom to me. my point is, make sure you know what you're seeking and NEEDING, and that it matches with what your next potential Dom wants, needs and EXPECTS from you. Have open communication and talk about all aspects of the relationship and not just sexual ones. And take care, because there are alot of people online that just want sex. But let's face it, there are alot of others out there that enjoy being used like that.

abcbsex -> RE: BE IN CONTROL (5/24/2008 1:28:45 PM)
I've noticed that a lot of people who seem kind of fake on this site (not saying they are, just that it looks like that) say they have ten years experience in the lifestyle. I dunno, just an observation.

JohnWarren -> RE: BE IN CONTROL (5/24/2008 5:25:02 PM)
Why is this in "health and safety?" As to your problem: first time is free. If you repeat this, it's your fault. Slow down; get to know the person.

kiwisub12 -> RE: BE IN CONTROL (5/26/2008 12:37:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: abcbsex I've noticed that a lot of people who seem kind of fake on this site (not saying they are, just that it looks like that) say they have ten years experience in the lifestyle. I dunno, just an observation. this must be like all the people that come into the emergency room, and say they only had one beer.[8\|]

ksdomcpl -> RE: BE IN CONTROL (5/28/2008 10:02:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kiwisub12 quote: ORIGINAL: abcbsex I've noticed that a lot of people who seem kind of fake on this site (not saying they are, just that it looks like that) say they have ten years experience in the lifestyle. I dunno, just an observation. this must be like all the people that come into the emergency room, and say they only had one beer.[8\|] Well it was only 1 Beer!!!! I had a bottle of Jack with it but dang it, it was only 1 beer tho! [:D] Sorry you had such a bad experience. Its hard to tell if you two were incompatible or if he was a bad dom. Keep looking and if you have questions feel free to ask

Missokyst -> RE: BE IN CONTROL (5/28/2008 10:17:17 PM)
Who knows? Nice round number? Or maybe they do have 10 yrs experience at getting laid. Since people keep taking the bait, I can only assume it works. Kyst quote: ORIGINAL: abcbsex I've noticed that a lot of people who seem kind of fake on this site (not saying they are, just that it looks like that) say they have ten years experience in the lifestyle. I dunno, just an observation.

abcbsex -> RE: BE IN CONTROL (5/28/2008 10:31:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst Who knows? Nice round number? Or maybe they do have 10 yrs experience at getting laid. Since people keep taking the bait, I can only assume it works. Kyst quote: ORIGINAL: abcbsex I've noticed that a lot of people who seem kind of fake on this site (not saying they are, just that it looks like that) say they have ten years experience in the lifestyle. I dunno, just an observation. maybe they're counting from when they first got hard from watching princess "so and so" get tied up and put on the railroad tracks. I'd be an expert at being a sub with their logic! To the OP, Sounds like the guy needed control of himself first, in order to call himself a dom at all.

Aileen1968 -> RE: BE IN CONTROL (5/29/2008 4:46:39 AM)
It takes two to tango...I'm sure you were also guilty of making poor decisions. It's never one sided.

MissMagnolia -> RE: BE IN CONTROL (5/29/2008 5:01:43 AM)
I'm with Aileen. We only have one side of the story and it really just sounds like you two didnt click. As always, one mans trash is another mans treasure. Just because you didn't think he was a "real" master, doesn't mean he isn't. It just means he wasn't for you.

KatyLied -> RE: BE IN CONTROL (5/29/2008 7:45:52 AM)
quote: However, I do think I would make a great mistress. Maybe someday, if you learn to get your emotions under control and stop blaming others.

RCdc -> RE: BE IN CONTROL (5/29/2008 7:54:04 AM)
My suggestion? Take your own advice. the.dark.

meatcleaver -> RE: BE IN CONTROL (5/29/2008 7:54:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelbites77 I'm pissed off!! I got together with a man who has a post in this site claiming that he has had ten year experience as dom. This is the internet, people lie, people pretend to be who they aren't. You shouldn't take anyone too seriously on the internet. Just as there are many men who proclaim they are 'He Man' there are also many women who just like to tease cocks but wouldn't actually consider sitting on a real one. That is the world of the internet. The best advice I can give you is, get out more.

kittinSol -> RE: BE IN CONTROL (5/29/2008 8:00:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelbites77 I'm pissed off!! (...) It's a bunch of BULLSHIT!!(...) the son of a bitch!! I want to hurt the crap out him, beat him down and spit on him, cause he's a FUCKING ASSHOLE!! (...) BE IN CONTROL. And then: quote: However, I do think I would make a great mistress. No comment [:D] .

Missokyst -> RE: BE IN CONTROL (5/29/2008 10:23:17 AM)
Ditto to Aileen's post. It takes two to tango. None of this is ever one sided and it irritates me when I see people who made the choice to participate, and then running crying "he is no dom!" "he is a fake" ect.. without seeing their part in it. I see that as her failure more than his. Kyst quote: ORIGINAL: abcbsex To the OP, Sounds like the guy needed control of himself first, in order to call himself a dom at all.

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