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RE: Cuckold - 5/25/2008 5:52:57 PM

DiurnalVampire

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Im done with the thread. Enjoy yourselves, but it isnt worth my time with someone who has decided to try and play the hypocracy card.
Not my deal.
Have fun

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RE: Cuckold - 5/25/2008 8:44:04 PM

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Getting away from the theological discussion, Ms. Mlicious (aka Catwoman) loves the cuckold lifestyle. She is planning a trip out of town this weekend, and she has plans to enjoy the services of a guy we know from collarme. She writes about all of her adventures at earthacatslair.blogspot.com

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RE: Cuckold - 5/25/2008 8:48:00 PM

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I was waiting for you to make a comment on this Kal. I hope MsM enjoys Her trip.

MsK and I have talked breifly about Her cuckold fantasies and acting them out. Though it may be a ways off...and I never thought I'd get into it...there is a certain appeal to knowing that Her desires and needs are met.

boi...who's figuring stuff out

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RE: Cuckold - 5/26/2008 4:18:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: hardbodysub

Traditionally (meaning always, until misuse of the word became widespread) a cuckold was a man whose wife had sex with other men. Period.

Thank you! It's a more polite term than calling a woman an Adulteress as it puts the shame (humiliation) more on the man who cannot keep his lady satisfied than on the woman who keeps 'extras'. The word can also mean "to render impotent" as in to take away one's power.

In the BDSM lifestyle, the 'Cuck' is a man who is not having sex with the Domme. The 'Bull' is. Sometimes the Cuck is forced to watch acts of intimacy between the Domme & the Bull, sometimes he is only told about these things in a humiliating way. ie: "He's the real man who knows how to pleasure a woman! You are just a pathetic worm who's tiny member couldn't pleasure a Chihuahua." That sort of thing.

There are as many different degrees of the act as there are different people who enjoy it. Personally, I'm a married woman who has always kept 'extras' on the side. Traditionally, that would make my husband cuckold even though we still have sex. Currently, I do not have sex with any of my subs, which makes them the cucks and my husband the bull. So you see, it can be somewhat complicated.

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RE: Cuckold - 5/26/2008 6:00:54 AM

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Hiya Jen. Nice to know I'm so predictable. Your situation, while similar, does have a different flavor in that you are two chicks. Is Ms. K looking for another girl, or a guy? Would be interested in hearing about how it plays out, the dynamics of it all.
I am sure Ms. M will have a great time. Our friend Bob the Builder will be taking care of her. He has a rickshaw he built that has not been broken in yet, and he has a new smotherbox upholstered in lambskin. She probably won't need the plane to get home. She'll just float in.
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RE: Cuckold - 5/26/2008 6:21:27 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavekal

Getting away from the theological discussion, Ms. Mlicious (aka Catwoman) loves the cuckold lifestyle. She is planning a trip out of town this weekend, and she has plans to enjoy the services of a guy we know from collarme. She writes about all of her adventures at earthacatslair.blogspot.com

And what a great blog it is! Ms. Mlicious has truly got it all together. Wish there were more like her - particularly near Boston!

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RE: Cuckold - 5/26/2008 7:22:25 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavekal

Hiya Jen. Nice to know I'm so predictable. Your situation, while similar, does have a different flavor in that you are two chicks. Is Ms. K looking for another girl, or a guy? Would be interested in hearing about how it plays out, the dynamics of it all.
I am sure Ms. M will have a great time. Our friend Bob the Builder will be taking care of her. He has a rickshaw he built that has not been broken in yet, and he has a new smotherbox upholstered in lambskin. She probably won't need the plane to get home. She'll just float in.
Feel free to use my regular email or call me any old time.

A RICKSHA! I have always always wanted a ricksha, it's my total fantasy..... My best to Ms M, I know she will have lots to share!

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RE: Cuckold - 5/26/2008 9:14:15 AM

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Kal you are a wealth of information when it comes to cuckolding. I expect you to respond to these types of thread because of it! :)

We've discussed the possibility with both males and females. And given our history, we've also already learned that some people can just feel that it's cuckolding (on the same level type) no matter what sex the "Bull" is.

Now wouldn't that be a thread? Is it cuckolding if the Domme is using a male as the cuck and a female as the "bull"?

Anyways Kal, no matter whom it may be with, I'm sure I'll be coming to you personally soon about it. I enjoy your insights. BTW nice blog yourself.

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RE: Cuckold - 5/26/2008 2:14:53 PM

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moki1984:
to me cucking falls into the same category as chastity... it very much so sets a slave into their place, establishes a great mindset of this is where you belong, and this is where the true men belong ie the bull. bull being the man that the cuckee would watch engaging in activities with the Dominant

I always find it interesting how different each group of kinky partners interprets things. For example, there was a thread a few weeks back asking whether receiving intercourse was an inherently submissive act. Some found it inherently submissive (due to the fact that the fuckee is opening their body to the person doing the penetrating), others found it very dominant (under the auspices that the person opening their body is getting what they want), and there was a large number of people who found it open to interpretation based on the negotiations, symbolism, and power exchange dynamics between the partners.

So, on to cuckolding. Myself, I don't put cuckolding into the same category as chastity at all. Likewise, as a submissive, I never consider myself anything other than a "real man". Were a bull brought in to "put me in my place", I'd probably laugh. And then I'd eat him for breakfast, medium rare of course.

Side note: apparently, for a submissive boy, I'm occasionally a capable of being a switchy bitch. Who would'a thunk it? :-)

More to the point, none of my Dominas would ever just bring in a bull because they know I'd consider this cheating. Now I'll admit, there is something extremely hot about the idea of watching my partner enjoy herself with someone else. But this is where, in my case, fantasy and reality collide and make for very poor bedfellows. I'm monogamous with room for a little flexibility. Thus, if a Domina and I ever did engage in a cuckolding type of scene, this would only happen after much negotiation and careful consideration of all parties physical and emotional safety, and enjoyment. Even then, I'm not sure if I'd want this to take place for fear of permanently damaging the sanctity of my relationship with my Domina. And yes, I'd be concerned about my Domina's feelings, but I'm equally concerned about my own. Envisioning someone else fucking my partner is one thing. Actually watching someone have sex with my partner is an entirely different thing and would likely bring on a slew of unexpected emotions (possibly good and possibly extremely damaging for either of us or both of us).

Elan.

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RE: Cuckold - 5/26/2008 7:07:06 PM

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Lady Hibiscus, rickshaws were very high on my list as well. That is why I made one for the lady a couple of summers ago and why I made her a newer, better one for as a Xmas gift. Our friend in Florida made a really nice one she is itching to try out on the beaches down there.
Hardbody, you are right. She is wonderful in so many ways.
Jen, no matter what label one puts on it, it's still the same thing at heart. If two people are in a relationship that is based on a double standard where one must remain faithful while the other is free to pursue others for romantic and sexual purposes, it's the same as cuckolding.

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