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RE: i like this dom... - 5/24/2008 6:13:31 PM

Indemnis

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To me this seems like common sense. I've spoken to guys like this before, and I'll give you my two cents on the subject. If you're trying to build a relationship, it takes, as they say, a solid foundation. If he can't take the effort and time to continue communication with you, he's either not serious or not ready/equipped to handle the beginning of a new relationship. These are supposed to be the times you're building trust, affection, testing the waters, and it takes time and effort.

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RE: i like this dom... - 5/25/2008 1:18:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
You teach others how to treat you.

Good advice. Just wanted to say I can soooo relate. It is so frustrating and confusing when you think things are going great and then suddenly the other person flakes out. My advice...just shrug and move on. Take the opportunity to reevaluate what you want in a dom and what you need to do to prepare for the right dom. Heard this quote once:

“Experience is what you get when you don’t get what you wanted”

I try to remember that when I face dissapointments like this.

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RE: i like this dom... - 5/25/2008 12:08:17 PM

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I've never understood this "under consideration" bs, you go with somebody or you don't.

This is not posted with any intention of taking this thread off-topic, but I had to say something.

My submissive was 'under consideration' for a short while after W/we met. For U/us, it was not bs at all, but something which gave us 'space' to make sure O/our relationship was going to be right for U/us both:

1) I'm married, and although My marriage is an open one (thus I had My wife's approval to have a sexual D/s relationship with a submissive woman), My sub wasn't sure how it would work out for her to be seeing a married Dom. Further, she had already agreed to meet with a couple other Doms within a day or two of meeting Me, and she wanted to keep those meetings, out of politeness, if nothing else.

After meeting those other Doms, she and I met a second time, and had O/our first session. After O/our second session, W/we both felt that W/we were very compatible, and she told Me that she was not interested in playing with any other Doms. At that point, I wanted to collar her; since I didn't want her playing with any other Doms.

For the sake of convenience, she remained 'under consideration' until the actual 'collar' arrived. I presented it to her over a very nice Mediterranean dinner, along with two copies of the D/s contract W/we wrote together, which W/we signed.

We've been together almost five months, and things are going very well for both of U/us.

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RE: i like this dom... - 5/25/2008 12:29:57 PM

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i like a lot of attention from Dominants and when one is courting me He best come with His best game and i expect daily contact.i think He should give you the attention you need or should at least let you know if contact will be canged and why.i would feel neglected if my Daddy did that so i understand why you are upset.Good luck hon.

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RE: i like this dom... - 5/26/2008 1:16:49 PM

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As someone who owns his own business and knows how much time it takes, I would suggest the next time you talk to him make sure he will tell you if he is going to be out of town for a few days. If he does not call, then simply call his work and ask to be connected to him. If they ask who is calling, you can say his fiance and should get a response from the person on the phone or from him if he is married. If nothing else, he will make sure to let you know in the future if he is going to be gone on business. Or could tell work you are a prospective landlord and need to verify employment and then ask to talk to him to tell him he got the apartment. If he answers the phone, you will know he is not out out of town on business.

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RE: i like this dom... - 5/26/2008 5:31:43 PM

Saffleur

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Frankly your relationship seems too green to ask for attention. If you're coming here asking that now, I'd hate to see how it is in a few months when you "know" he likes you and isn't giving you the attention you need or feel is deserved.

Seems like a mutual strangulation of the relationship to be honest.

Under consideration is malarky. It's unneccessary and a patch. If you've got woman in mind, get to know her. There doesn't have to be a title to it. That's like labeling a box a square.

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RE: i like this dom... - 5/26/2008 6:39:05 PM

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You like this dom, but you <heart> cupcakes. Sounds like your priorities are perfectly in order.
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RE: i like this dom... - 5/27/2008 12:06:44 AM

GoddessTeaze

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ORIGINAL: iheartcupcakes

& i think he likes me... sometimes. other times he falls off the planet for several days & ignores me :(. he's away on business a lot & we haven't spent much time together so i guess i'm still under consideration. what should i do to get him to pay attention to me?

Did He tell you you're under consideration? or do you want to be?

Communication is the key to any relationship,
although My instincts tells Me that he just likes you for who you're. But it's all guessing work.

So ask Him, then you'll know!

I wish you enough

GoddezzT`

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