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Not a typical post for this forum... - 5/25/2008 2:34:26 AM   
cutefreckles


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Status: offline 		I couldn't figure out where to post this but I reached a new milestone in my journey this week and wanted to share it.

A little background...I have dabbled in this lifestyle throughout my adult life but only recently took steps to dive in deeper. I am loving every minute of it. Last week I discovered that I really enjoy being slapped in the face. I got slapped hard enough to leave bruises on both sides of my face. We are still learning how easily I bruise, the bruises were unintentional. So 5 days later the bruises were still there and I had a shopping trip scheduled with my mom. I was certain she would notice and I am a terrible liar and I really hate doing it. I agonized over what to tell her. I even considered saying I was sick and cancelling. I had a couple potential stories to use but they were pretty lame. Finally when it came down to it I just told her. Before she had a chance to notice I just said "Hey I have something personal to tell you. I have some bruises on my face that I know you would have noticed so I want to explain. It's just from my boyfriend and I playing a little rough, nothing to be worried about. He didn't mean to leave bruises and I'm sure it wont happen again." She gave me a look and made a couple comments and that was it. We had a great time shopping and there were no lectures or attempts at "intervention". She knows me well enough to know I wouldn't put up with abuse. She also knows I have a bit of a kinky side. I do think I have her worried now (what is wrong with my daughter that she would enjoy having her face slapped?) and if we have to talk more about it later, so be it. Maybe I'll have the guts to give her the all-important message; stop trying to fix me cuz I'm not broken. I think being honest about the bruises was a good first step. Just wanted to share. If you got this far thanks for reading!

...freckles
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RE: Not a typical post for this forum... - 5/25/2008 8:30:02 AM   
GreedyTop


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From: Savannah, GA
Status: offline 		Thanks for sharing :)

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RE: Not a typical post for this forum... - 5/25/2008 8:35:34 AM   
Sandyshores29718


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Status: offline 		i've explained to my mother and a aunt of kind that this is a very important part of my life. i went more into the 1950's household style to explain Ds to them cause that actually seems to work. my aunt asked a couple questions, but i explained to her and my mother my limits and that how special this is without getting too kinky. Sometimes your family will shock you with how open minded they are. :)  Good luck and your doing great. :)

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RE: Not a typical post for this forum... - 5/25/2008 2:19:59 PM   
cutefreckles


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Status: offline 		Thanks for sharing your experience Sandyshores. I hope my family turns out to be as open minded as yours is!

...freckles

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RE: Not a typical post for this forum... - 5/25/2008 2:33:03 PM   
RedMagic1


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Status: offline 		The most important thing is that they see you happy.

There are two parts to this: (1) being happy, and (2) they actually see you.  Abusers in relationships often cut people off from family and friends.  If you disappear -- even if it's because you wanted to, or because things were really busy at work -- your mother's brain will work overtime, and there is nothing more frightening than the unknown.  Ensure you see them in person on a regular basis, and make sure it is clear that you are pleased to be with the guy.


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RE: Not a typical post for this forum... - 5/25/2008 3:56:09 PM   
Sandyshores29718


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Status: offline 		Well, its only two members of my family and i have a good relationship with my mother. :) Hope yours works out hun. :)

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RE: Not a typical post for this forum... - 5/25/2008 7:18:38 PM   
BondageBarbieX


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Status: offline 		i was 15 when i met my MasterDaddy and my family new He was a Dominant.They were very forward thinking people and i was very lucky to grow up in a non judgemental enviroment.i always believe in honesty and i wish you much luck.

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RE: Not a typical post for this forum... - 5/25/2008 8:24:48 PM   
laura2161


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From: Duluth, GA
Status: offline 		Good for you! Not only does it help you that your mom knows the bruises were not from abuse it will also help any Man in your life as well.

I am also into face-slapping and quite a few years ago had bruises galore on my face and like you, had a date planned with my mom. I simply told her that he zigged and I zagged while were were rough housing which led to rough-everything...and then I laughed so hard at her expression that she laughed too. Through the years my mom has figured out that I am kinky, (I think she would faint if she ever knew everything)and that the men I am drawn to are Dominant- She now takes any bruises she may see on me in stride.

Also remember you'll always be her baby. Hell, Im 42 and my mom still 'worries' about me.


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RE: Not a typical post for this forum... - 6/3/2008 10:26:32 PM   
AFemDomCpl


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Status: offline 		These stories might convince me to share some of my experiences with my family. I can only hope that they would be as understanding as all of yours were. I mean how does one say I enjoy being tied up in polite dinner conversation... ...


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RE: Not a typical post for this forum... - 6/4/2008 12:36:43 PM   
footslave57


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Status: offline 		wow

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