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Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/25/2008 4:26:50 PM   
Pantera31k


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Status: offline 		How would you view a Master/Dom who prioritizes seeing pleasure in you, versus themselves. Could you tolerate it, if not why, if so what do you expect bare minimum?
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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/25/2008 4:31:30 PM   
Lordandmaster


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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/25/2008 4:36:55 PM   
cpK69


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Status: offline 		It makes me wonder how such a person perceives balance.

Edited to add: and pleasure. I would need to know what that means to them also.
 
I meant: Why would I want to be with somene whose pleasure was not the same as mine?
 
 



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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/25/2008 4:37:16 PM   
Pantera31k


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Status: offline 		actually they are look from input from two different vantage points and they are different questions.

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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/25/2008 5:46:40 PM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		A submissive or a slave has to receive pleasure from something, otherwise it's just a miserable existance. Who signed on for a lifetime of real misery?

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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/25/2008 6:03:25 PM   
dragon2760


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

A submissive or a slave has to receive pleasure from something, otherwise it's just a miserable existance. Who signed on for a lifetime of real misery?


Amen!!!  I get enough misery from my ex.  

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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/25/2008 8:03:40 PM   
chamberqueen


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Status: offline 		I need some pleasure from my Master or I could not serve Him.  In the beginning I purposely held back from enjoying myself, thinking that His pleasure came only from what I was doing to or for Him.  I learned quickly that He enjoys Himself more when I am also enjoying myself.

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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/25/2008 8:05:56 PM   
cantilena


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Status: offline 		Could I *tolerate* pleasure?  Well, I could sure try.

What do I expect at a bare minimum?  That's an entirely different question, and probably not one best suited sandwiched as it is along with toleration of pleasure.

IMO.

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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/25/2008 8:16:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: cantilena
Could I *tolerate* pleasure?  Well, I could sure try.

No!  No trying!  Bad doormat!


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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/25/2008 8:25:06 PM   
MakeMeSmile4U


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Status: offline 		In my very limited experiences I had a Dom for a brief period of time.  ALL he wanted was to see me orgasm.  At first I was all for it.  How bad could THAT be, right?  Wrong, for me anyway.  He said that watching me is what gave him pleasure, but I never felt as if I was doing enough.  I just never felt like I was giving, I was taking.  I couldn't stand it.

But that's my side of the story.

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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/25/2008 8:31:48 PM   
mbes


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Status: offline 		Someone who likes seeing me happy? I'd have no problem with that at all! I wouldn't want to be with someone who was fond of seeing me miserable.
Someone who ONLY likes to see me happy (or for whom that is a primary concern)? It'd bore the snot out of me after a while.

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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/25/2008 8:58:03 PM   
cantilena


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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

quote:

ORIGINAL: cantilena
Could I *tolerate* pleasure?  Well, I could sure try.

No!  No trying!  Bad doormat!




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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/25/2008 9:10:23 PM   
Bound2One


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Status: offline 		I enjoy receiving pleasure from my Dominant when he chooses.  I wouldn't like to see it being made a top priority, however - to me, his pleasure is paramount to mine.  

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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/25/2008 9:16:04 PM   
Shawn1066


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Status: offline 		Tolerate it?  I hope so, I want to spend the rest of my life with one! :-p

My Owner does love taking my happiness into consideration at all times.  Just as I do hers.

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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/26/2008 4:16:01 AM   
Willowmoon


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Status: offline 		Tolerate it? Yeap easily and enjoy it and love him for it.

Master does things every day just to see me smile or hear my laugh or see my eyes light up in excitment. He likes seeine me happy and making me happy as much as I love serving him and giving him pleasure.

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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/26/2008 4:59:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Pantera31k

How would you view a Master/Dom who prioritizes seeing pleasure in you, versus themselves. Could you tolerate it, if not why, if so what do you expect bare minimum?


I would view them favourably, as i have a Master who derives great pleasure from giving me some of the same! i not only tolerate it, but would not be in a relationship where everything, including the derivation of pleasure was totally one sided.

i am a slave, yes, i am also a feeling and sensual human female who gives everything to her Master. Why should he not want me to have some pleasure in life? Why would he want to keep me in misery, deprive me of some of what i give him? To us we are partners in this relationship, each bringing all they are into it, and each at liberty to take from it what we need, or what we wish to give, and that means that Andy likes to see the pleasure i derive from the way he plays with me, the way he talks to me, the way we live together.

Some people seem to forget that on both sides of the dynamic, the taking and the giving engenders pleasure too, and thankfully not all Dominants are all take and no give!


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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/26/2008 7:06:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		If a dominant is making a priority out of the pleasure his submissive gets, he's getting pleasure out of it, too.  I see no problem here.

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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/26/2008 8:30:21 AM   
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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/26/2008 11:43:18 AM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: Pantera31k
How would you view a Master/Dom who prioritizes seeing pleasure in you, versus themselves

Fortunately for me, it doesn't have to be a "His pleasure" versus "mine" thing.  He doesn't put my pleasure ABOVE His but it pleases Him to pleasure me at times. 

His pleasure is top priority for us both.  But, at times, if pleasing me happens to be what is currently bringing Him pleasure also, all the better..........luci

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RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom - 5/26/2008 12:06:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Pantera31k

How would you view a Master/Dom who prioritizes seeing pleasure in you, versus themselves. Could you tolerate it, if not why, if so what do you expect bare minimum?


Seeing as I actually like orgasms, I'm pretty damn happy with my owner who enjoys giving me pleasure and watching me squirm. On the non-sexual front, it's nice knowing that someone cares enough about me to want me to be happy.

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