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RealSub58 -> RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom (5/26/2008 12:46:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Pantera31k How would you view a Master/Dom who prioritizes seeing pleasure in you, versus themselves. Could you tolerate it, if not why, if so what do you expect bare minimum? Before responding, I read your profile. Reading your profile answered my question. LnM's observation seemed accurate as well. Reading // learning ON LINE is drastically different than what occurs / happens in *reality*. If a "dom" chooses to be selfish and wish for himself the pleasure each and every time, his s type must be willing to be submissive to that dominant style. If a man, like my Owner, is sexually driven by seeing me twisted in orgasmic bliss, then that is just his way. If my Owner's dominance is driven by the control he has over my mind and heart, then that is just his way. I am his because I am a match to his type of dominance ~ physical, mental, emotional and sexual. No one should tolerate anything he / she is not willing to tolerate.

vampchick88 -> RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom (5/26/2008 5:59:07 PM)
Hmmm would it be pleasure or pain for a sub to recieve pleasure rather than give it? Well I'm a firm believer in aftercare, especially after what I put pet through, second I am a nymph...if he chooses to find pleasure in it then so be it. I'm just a nymph who does not stop until I am satisified so if be finds it to be "pleasurable" (Oh the horror, lol) then at least it means we're both having fun with it.

littleone35 -> RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom (5/27/2008 7:46:09 AM)
It gives master pleasure to give me pleasure. I course he also gets pleasure other ways when i do things he wants me to. It is his pleasure is the most important so if it give him pleasure to pleasure me then we are both happy. No harm no foul. Matt's littleone

DesFIP -> RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom (5/27/2008 8:07:30 AM)
Depends on the person. I'm beginning to wonder if you're suffering from ED and are worried about having a relationship with that. Honestly, some can deal with it and others can't. Depends on the person. But if this is just a s & m question, then don't go looking for a masochist when you aren't a sadist.

pettingdragons -> RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom (5/27/2008 10:26:45 AM)
"How would you view a Master/Dom who prioritizes seeing pleasure in you, versus themselves" Master sees pleasure in girl or else He wouldn’t own her. girl has no idea no idea how Master sees himself maybe she should ask Him... "Could you tolerate it, if not why" its not a slaves place to "tolerate" nor is it a Masters...... "if so what do you expect bare minimum?" Bare minimum of what? Tolerance? Again in this slaves world mere "tolerance" is not acceptable... Is there a point you are trying to get to? These questions can be taken in different ways as girl has demonstrated...please try being a little clearer or rewording your question...or just getting to the point.... pettingdragons Master Dragons considered slave

Ozzfan1317 -> RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom (5/27/2008 5:31:00 PM)
I am new and still learning but it only makes sense even in a Dom / Sub relationship to be willing to give the sub pleasure as well. Otherwise its a pretty crappy situation for them.

behindmirrors -> RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom (5/27/2008 6:42:05 PM)
I can (and do) "tolerate" having a Dominant-type who gives me pleasure every day...in fact, I may just revel in it. [;)] I take pleasure in knowing that this makes him happy...and pleasure in the "pleasure" itself...well...it just is good all around! Perhaps what I'm really aiming at here is that being happy isn't something just to be tolerated in my life, it's something to strive to on a daily basis. A relationship cannot survive if both parties are not happy with the way things are going, and if a part of that is giving and seeking pleasure in one another, then it is important. Every human being needs to have some good to look forward to, after all. Definitions of what is pleasurable may vary from person to person, but all the same, I don't think I know anyone who avoids doing things that make them feel good. behindmirrors.

Vampyrefledgling -> RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom (5/28/2008 6:27:46 AM)
Yes, I feel safe in saying I could 'tolerate' a pleasure-giving Dom. In fact, that is what I have! Yes it is about his pleasure, but he seeks to reward me every time I serve him. Me getting off gets him off. Isn't that the perfect system? ~Fledgling

sweetNsmartBBW -> RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom (5/28/2008 6:46:41 AM)
A Dom that prioritizes pleasuring me? Hmmmmm- that would mean that He was deriving His own pleasure from it, no? I mean- we tend to prioritize that which is of importance to us. So, I'm not seeing this as Him pleasuring me at the expense of His own pleasure, rather as a compenent of it. Honestly, I think it's a great situation- at least for me. It's what I seek in Dominant and the type of relationship I'm looking for- one where there is mutual love, respect, and a desire to see each other happy and fulfilled. I don't want Him having to sacrifice to make me happy; I want my pleasure to feed His in a symbiotic way.

HalloweenWhite -> RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom (5/28/2008 6:49:48 AM)
As a Dominant I would want to make sure My girl was enjoying the experience, whether it was play or just normal everyday living as My girl, because if they were'nt they'd soon be off, so from a practical point of view it makes sense to make sure Your girl is happy.

Wolfsrealm -> RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom (5/29/2008 2:31:44 PM)
This is only this slave's opinion, and she knows that she and Master are extremists, but she has experienced relationships like this before, with men who insist that "she comes first" (in more senses than one). She understands that this is sweet and kind, but she will not waste her time (or the Other's) with a relationship of that sort. She is Master's pet, his toy, his property. If he is simply horny and wants to get off without caring if she orgasms or not, he will and she will clean up the mess. If she desires to do something that he doesn't, it will not happen. If he does not want to explain himself, she knows better than to ask twice. This is her place. This is her life. She would have it no other way. ~Little Red

peppermint -> RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom (5/29/2008 3:49:38 PM)
From reading your posts it seems that you are overly concerned with what others think about your style of domination. You are the Dom. Do what you want. Don't worry about how others might perceive your mode of domination.

rhythmkr -> RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom (5/31/2008 1:36:34 PM)
I think it is vital that a Master ensure that his sub/slave experiences pleasure. Be it a lovely dinner at a favorite establishment or flowers delivered to her work or home. She needs to be fulfilled by Him.

SweetNika -> RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom (5/31/2008 4:27:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Pantera31k How would you view a Master/Dom who prioritizes seeing pleasure in you, versus themselves. Could you tolerate it, if not why, if so what do you expect bare minimum? If it brought him pleasure to please me, then who would I be to argue? If it was always about his pleasure and goddess forbid my displeasure do you really think he would own me for long? Blessed be, Nika

CaressAndCommand -> RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom (6/2/2008 9:33:32 AM)
I don't think its something a sub tolerates, its something a sub treasures as a sign of how happy her Dom must be with her. I honestly could not imagine not giving pleasure, it must be the best thing of all. Receiving pleasure is a for gone conclusion, I know when and how I'll get it because what I want I receive or even 'take' from the sub when I need it. But giving (and denying) pleasure, seeking new ways to take her to and pushing her limits further and further if she likes it or not is the ultimate thing about owning subs that appeals to me. In my opinion being a Dom is all about your subs pleasure not your own which is more of a fortunate consequence. She should first feel free of responsibly for what happen, liberated and only do as she must........you should be thinking of new ways of having her serve you, new things to do to her, how to use her and reward her, ... you should be tapping into what makes her tick and exploiting that for her benefit......which will give her immense pleasure and in return gives you the same.

pinksugarsub -> RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom (6/2/2008 2:15:10 PM)
What an odd question....why would i want a Dom who didn't (amoung other things) give me pleasure? i suppose if there was no reciprocity; no vaginal sex, no bjs, He never had an orgasm, and it was a choice He was making, i might be a little unhappy, as my need to please Him would be thwarted. pinksugarsub

mule01 -> RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom (6/3/2008 9:49:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Pantera31k How would you view a Master/Dom who prioritizes seeing pleasure in you, versus themselves. I would call them "top servicers", ultimately. If the PRIORITY is the servant's pleasure, that makes no sense. A Mistress being interested in the overall wellbeing of Her property is one thing, but overriding Her pleasure for the pleasure of Her servants is a subversive inversion...that is, if She truly wishes to be served and not the one serving.

BDOMsecret -> RE: Could you tolerate a pleasure giving dom (6/5/2008 8:19:32 AM)
I enjoy receiving pleasure from my Dom, and He enjoys seeing me happy. My pleasure pleases Him. His belief (as He explained it to me)... A happy sub makes Master happy. An unhappy sub cannot please Master. IMO, He also enjoys the reactions He sees, from His actions.

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