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New to Caning - 10/24/2005 3:17:32 PM

WalterRego

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While I've been a submissive for quite a while, I never really had much experience with being caned before. Just a few times, and it hurt like hell, reducing me to a quivering mass of begging to stop after a few strokes. The Mistress who I have recently begun to serve is very into canes and has quite a collection. Last night was my first encounter with a few of them and though I know it was an introductory and mild session, I'm beginning to think that my previous encounters with the cane were with someone who either didn't know how to use it, or didn't have much of a feel for it.

Anyway, to get to the point: those welts. Yes, I know they are delicious, prized both by both the sub getting them and the Mistress looking at Her own handiwork. The few I have today are tingly and mildly burning like a line of sunburns. Not unpleasant, they have reminded all day about last night. But.... as this is certain to continue and increase, in the future, should I be treating them in any way? Applying any creams or ointments to my rear end? Or should I just let them heal on their own? Also, I work in an office, which means sitting all day. Will that affect them in any way?

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RE: New to Caning - 10/24/2005 3:25:47 PM

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quote:

Anyway, to get to the point: those welts. Yes, I know they are delicious, prized both by both the sub getting them and the Mistress looking at Her own handiwork. The few I have today are tingly and mildly burning like a line of sunburns. Not unpleasant, they have reminded all day about last night. But.... as this is certain to continue and increase, in the future, should I be treating them in any way? Applying any creams or ointments to my rear end? Or should I just let them heal on their own? Also, I work in an office, which means sitting all day. Will that affect them in any way?

Ask your mistress.
Does she WANT you to feel them when you sit down? If so no cream should be applied otherwise a cold cream can help to remove the heat from those welts.

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RE: New to Caning - 10/24/2005 5:31:00 PM

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It's not that I don't want to feel them, Julia, or feel them less. That would be self contradictory. It's more a question of maintaining the surface and feel of the skin, whether I now need to devote more care to this area, possibly avoiding any infection if the skin is broken and..... whether folks do anything to be ready for more sooner. Heck, I've already begun caring for Her shoes and boots, and last night She gave me a leather skirt to have repaired. If I'm going to be caring for Her other possession, should I give any less thought and care for maintaining Her main toy?

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RE: New to Caning - 10/24/2005 8:40:10 PM

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WalterRego,

Timely post -- I sit here typing, covered in beautiful marks from him last Saturday (although not from a cane)...and they get more colorful by the day <g>.

To the best of my knowledge, sitting most of the day does not deter the healing process. I work in an office environment too and have never had a problem with this.

Earlier this month, I had concern about scarring and was applying Mederma to particular areas where the skin had broken. Noticing they were not healing, I asked him about this. He informed me that ointments like Mederma keep the area moist and slow the healing to avoid scarring and that I should not apply it every day. Worked like a charm *s*.

As far as things you can do to help the healing, it would depend on your marks (small cuts/not, etc). I suggest asking your Mistress for advice as she would probably know what to do.

~Christine
PS: Nice 'reminders', huh? <g>

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RE: New to Caning - 10/25/2005 7:27:58 AM

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Hello There,
I think maybe your other experiences with a cane may not have meant to be sensual. Maybe the Top that used them did get the result they seeked.

Styles vary from person to person. It does not mean if you don't like it it's been done wrong. It may well mean it was just not right for you personally.

I love canes. soft, rythmic, sensual,or hard enough to sting I love all forms.
While I intentionally leave my stripes to sting and bruise I know everyone does not like to have them.
The best advice I can give is the day you get to play with canes you should rub your butt and hips with ice. It helps to stop the briuses from getting deeper, and takes a lot of the next day heat away.
We usually rub my butt and legs with coconut oil before I go to bed. It's more for the massage than it is for the skin, but it feels really good and helps with sore muscles I get the next day.
Hope this helps,
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RE: New to Caning - 10/25/2005 7:54:57 AM

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I find this very timely as over the weekend i experienced canes for the first time.
He assured me he was weilding them mildly, compared to how He normally plays with them. But I found them incredibly painful and could take far less than i wanted to be able to take for Him.
Is there any way to prepare, to build up tolerance for this or for other more severe strokes from this and other items than i've been accustomed to?

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RE: New to Caning - 10/25/2005 12:29:38 PM

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Thanks for the advice all. Plantlady, I guess I hadn't considered that the last times I was caned the result may have been exactly what was intended, and that it may be that way again in the future. I did ask Mistress about this and She said that this first caning was precisely intended to see how I welt, how I bruise and how quickly I heal as well as calibrating my ability to take the cane. When I see Her tonight She plans to check how I look.

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RE: New to Caning - 10/26/2005 3:07:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: cravinspankin

Is there any way to prepare, to build up tolerance for this or for other more severe strokes from this and other items than i've been accustomed to?

disclaimer: this is my understanding and experience

Some have labeled me an extreme masochist, but the truth is that I do not like pain.
For me, it is only painful when it is resisted...when it becomes acceptance, it transforms into an incredibly beautiful energy from him flowing through me.

IMHO, it is not about how much you can take...it is about what it does.
Pain is simply a tool for opening. Sometimes more is needed than at other times.
And although I understand this, there are still times when I feel disappointed in myself for feeling scared or unable to process strokes and be that 'vessel' for him.

My suggestion: open yourself to it, breathe deeply, relax into it -- accept it.

Not sure if I relayed that clearly even with my best effort,
~Christine

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RE: New to Caning - 11/14/2005 4:45:36 AM

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Master uses a cane on me a lot. i let welts heal of their own accord i love seeing and feeling them aftewards. Some areas of my body take longer to heal.

Depending on my frame of mind at the time of the caning is how i respond to it. I really liked the last post of "pastplayinggames". i can relate to the pain vs sensation thoughts. I experience pain when im resisting, but if i let go and just surrender to the caning it really is an opening into another level of experiencing which is totally awesome.

Another thing that can effect me is the room temperature, i really hate being cold. If im feeling at all cold..its harder for me to relax and accept.

Having a dual flogging and caning is really nice too.

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RE: New to Caning - 11/14/2005 5:14:55 AM

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ORIGINAL: cravinspankin
Is there any way to prepare, to build up tolerance for this or for other more severe strokes from this and other items than i've been accustomed to?

It depends on what it is your dom wishes from you I think. Is it that he does just wish to inflict pain, then no, tolerence will only come from your own headspace...grin and bear it type of stuff and learning breathing techniques and finding ways of processing the pain. It is good for a top to remember it is better to hit as their bottom exhales...and for the sadist amongst us, the occasional whelp on the inhale can be fun ;)

If it is that he wishes to, each time, take you further up your pain threshold, then I suggest he engages in some 'build up', which involves rythymn and varying strokes, until you are beginning to 'float '(on endorphins) *before* introducing any real severity in strokes. For example, I'll do a rythym such as light taps, increasing intensity as the bottom relaxes into the rythym..ie 'soft, soft, soft, hard', 'soft, soft, soft, hard', 'soft, soft, hard, Hard', 'soft, soft, hard, Hard', 'soft, hard, Hard, HARD'..then back to 'soft, soft, soft, hard' and so forth, until I can see their rump rising in anticipation...I know then they are reaching a point of wanting/needing, being able to take more. As their tolerance increases I rely less on rythym and focus on placement and intensity of strokes to take them over the endorphin edge so they can float like a butterfly while I sting like a bee ;)

Hope some of the advice on this threads helps :) thanks for raising my pet subject Walter...I love canes... *drool*

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RE: New to Caning - 11/14/2005 6:08:21 AM

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Bruises on the hindquarters is generaly not dangerous unless they are werry deep, aloe vera cream makes smal cuts and bruises heal fast, ocrouse if the skin is broken, scars is always an risk, good luck.

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